18 months of reboot and still suffer from Delayed Ejaculation

I thought I would be sharing a success story by now, but I’m unfortunately still recovering from nofap. My TL;DR is posted below. I’ll try to keep this all short

I got into masturbation at a very young age. Maybe as early as 10. It only progressed and got worse as I discovered fetish porn. That progressively got worse and I would fap almost daily.

All in all, I abstained from actual sex until marriage but fapped up until marriage. Fast forward, I got married and couldn’t perform. it wouldn’t be until about 28 when I figured out that something was wrong and it was most likely my fapping. By the grace of God, I was led to the nofap forum and started my journey August 2020. Believe it or not, I haven’t fapped or looked at porn since then. Didn’t even want it after about 3 months.

I imagined everything would be about normal a few months into the recovery but it’s been super slow. At the 12 month mark, I still wasn’t consistent when it came to sex. I ended up getting some sildenafil and that helped a lot. I perform well but still cannot finish during sex. I honestly haven’t ejaculated since my last fap session in 2020. I think I’ve had a few nocturnal emissions since then but that’s it.

it’s so hard to deal with because my wife and I bit want kids and this delayed ejacualtion is starting to feel permanent. Has anyone ever delt with this issue this long?

TL;DR: over 20 years of fap, 15 years of fap with porn. After 18 months of NOFAP, can have sex and please my partner but still can’t finish.

 

thanks for the reply!! Great point. I actually was on hard mode for about several months and really even get hard enough to have intercourse. During this time, I was also consistently abstaining from PMO. Maybe I’m just still being impatient but I just thought I’d be healed by now.

 

Wow, I’ve never actually heard of that rule of thumb. That would be make sense though as to why it’s taking so long. And you’re right I’m blessed that I can finally function and get aroused because for maybe the first 6 months of the journey I just couldn’t function at all. My flatline was so miserable and depressing. I really do appreciate the encouragement though. It means a lot.