A couple questions on recovery

Congrats on staying clean for almost three months!

I'll try to respond to your questions by sharing my truths and experience.

I'm of the view that addiction to this crap encourages us to objectify women. It took quiet a good deal of time for me to unlearn this conditioning to see women as just flesh. I'd say it took about an year of consistent reboot for me (I was deeply addicted for about 6 years before I found NoFap) in addition to personal growth and self-reflection. Currently, I feel that it is infinitely pleasurable to meet their gaze, and hold conversations with them from a point of respect and empathy rather than objectify them. That doesn't mean that I don't appreciate the way they look. It is just that the appreciation comes from a place of warmth and positivity and there is no creepy feeling. When you start to show the interest in connecting with women from your heart, then the tendency to objectify will naturally decrease.

It will take atleast 3 months of abstinence from PMO for you to really begin to experience what it means to be free-what it means to have less brain fog, more energy and a clear conscience. I would say that if you are addicted to PMO, the best attitude to cultivate would be to refuse to consume the crap. Ever.

We should drop the idea that after a year long abstinence or so, the brain would have rewired and hence there will not be any urges. It is a wrong notion. Atleast in my case.

The neural pathway pertaining to addiction will exist over a long period of time. It remains like a rut in your brain. Once you peek porn and indulge, that old pathway will light up like a dynamite and there are chances of relapse and getting back into the addiction loop. I had stayed clean for over an year but still had cravings and still relapsed.

But if you reject porn and perceive the absolute worthlessness, uselessness and stupidity in wasting even a millisecond of your time indulging in crap, the tendency to watch porn will drop away by itself. It is more of an attitudinal shift that primes you to refuse indulging in porn no matter what.

Hope this helps! Here's to your victory!

 

It depends on each one experience tbh, it can take a long time, usually its a progress you keep working on day by day, do you notice any difference when looking at girls wearing modest clothes as well?? Because its normal our brain starts playing tricks on us when some girls use provocative clothes and that's something we have to deal with, but let me know about that

 

When will I be "recovered" and my brain rewired?
Brain wiring takes time. After 460 days with no PM and 120+ days hard mode, I would say my brainfog is 85% gone, I can get through the day with 6 hours sleep rather than 8 and social anxiety has decreased drastically. However it is different for everyone.

When will I stop looking at women as objects?
It is a gradual shift, not an immediate one. At approx. 100 days I found myself reflecting previous partners and fantasizing about wholesome relationships, something that I haven't done in many years. Give it time.