A whole new world.

About a month ago I found out that my husband of 7 years I’ve been addicted to porn and chat room sex, the whole duration of our marriage and the several years of our dating— prior to marriage.

Needless to say this rocked my world. Also strange was that he posed as a woman for his chatting fantasies. I had previously asked him what he did in his office every night and if he was addicted to porn and he lied. The only reason I found out was because I found chat windows open on his computer and pornagraphic images of a woman saved in his documents.

He seems relieved to have been found out, applogetic and intent on recovery. He’s on his second book on the topic and has done corresponding exercises for the addiction. He’s going without any sexual release. However he has showed resistance to therapy, poly graph test, and especially joining groups for recovery. Despite a lot of debate he acts as though he will do whatever (despite reluctance.)

We are already seeing a lot more intimacy in our relationship though I am hesitant to fully trust due to the break of trust. I would like to do therapy but the more I look into it I think it may not be feasible for our budget. What do you think good recovery looks like? When should we have sex again?

 

Ha thanks nonetheless!