Because of porn, almost exclusively attracted to trans women now

Dale Cooper

Dale Cooper

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Has anyone else found that as they traveled deeper and deeper onto the pit of pornography, eventually climbing over into trans porn as your tastes evolve, that you largely cease to be attracted to cisgender women?

I have come to a point, after 17 years of porn addiction and about 5 years on trans porn, where I am rarely seriously attracted to a women unless she has a penis.

I am not embarrassed about being attracted to trans women, but I am disturbed by the way that pornography seems to have radically reoriented my sexual desires.

What is the science behind this? What can you do about it?
 
Porn desensitizes you and twists your sexuality, it happens through escalation. People usually start watching normal vanilla stuff, but it becomes boring and you keep looking for a better high, (porn is just like a drug to your brain) all of a sudden the normal stuff isn't shocking enough, it doesn't give you the same high, it doesn't arouse you to that high again, so you go look for something different and these things become more and more shocking, until one day you're only attracted to women if they have a penis. Something so far away from what your original sexuality and preferences are.

You've desensitized yourself to the point that it has become your entire sexuality. You've also exposed yourself to an extraordinary level of sensory overload. You likely have severe PIED as well. I will say you're right to feel disturbed, its sad to hear this because I was once going down that road but I turned everything around.

It all starts with the desire to want to change, to stop watching the porn, stop masturbating, stop thinking about sexual acts. Get back in touch with yourself, let your junk downstairs heal, let your mind heal. It's the steps a recovering alcoholic would have to take. Let me tell you from experience its worth it, especially if you end up getting into a relationship with someone.
 
Peiskos said:
Porn desensitizes you and twists your sexuality, it happens through escalation. People usually start watching normal vanilla stuff, but it becomes boring and you keep looking for a better high, (porn is just like a drug to your brain) all of a sudden the normal stuff isn't shocking enough, it doesn't give you the same high, it doesn't arouse you to that high again, so you go look for something different and these things become more and more shocking, until one day you're only attracted to women if they have a penis. Something so far away from what your original sexuality and preferences are.

You've desensitized yourself to the point that it has become your entire sexuality. You've also exposed yourself to an extraordinary level of sensory overload. You likely have severe PIED as well. I will say you're right to feel disturbed, its sad to hear this because I was once going down that road but I turned everything around.

It all starts with the desire to want to change, to stop watching the porn, stop masturbating, stop thinking about sexual acts. Get back in touch with yourself, let your junk downstairs heal, let your mind heal. It's the steps a recovering alcoholic would have to take. Let me tell you from experience its worth it, especially if you end up getting into a relationship with someone.
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This whole post is golden info. But this part stood out especially:

Get back in touch with yourself...

This is the most rewarding but tough work we have to do in order to beat this.
 
There was an interesting video on YouTube called something like "Neuroscientists Explain Why Straight Men Like Trans Porn...." which was prettying interesting. Just keep in mind it could be triggering.
 
Luvspin68 said:
Dale Cooper,

have you had sex with Trans Women in person?

do you currently have sex with cis women?
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Great question. I currently have sex with one cis woman, my partner (She knows about my porn addiction, she has actually struggled with her own porn problem, which is helpful because it means we understand each other).

Part of why I think your question is so great is because, whether you meant to or not, it gets to the heart of the issue, I think:

Because my experiences with transgender women have been almost exclusively from porn, I have essentially trained myself to fetishize them. In my mind, I have a pornographized view of transgender women. Rather than seeing them as real humans, with real inner lives, real emotions, real needs, I wrongly see them as sex objects objects there for my pleasure.

I know a couple of transgender women in real life, and I am not attracted to them. Or, I should say, I do not fetishize them. One of my friends who is a transgender woman is pretty attractive, but I am not filled with an obsessive, overheated, fetishistic fixation on her. I suspect that this is because, unlike the transgender women I am addicted to in porn, I actually *know* her. She is a real person to me. I do not see her as a sex object.

So maybe another way of putting this would be that I suspect there is a difference between having a bonafide *attraction* to transgender women, which many people do, versus having a *porn induced fetish* towards them. I think that I fall into the latter category.

And if that is the case, then perhaps overcoming this this transgender fetish addiction will ultimately come down to slowly rewiring my brain away from porn while simultaneously coming to genuinely see the humanity in trans women.
 
Well, I gave in tonight and masturbated to a transgender cam girl.

It's funny, too: I was about to collapse and give in (I am usually most susceptible when I am stressed or anxious, and I have been tonight), and my neighbor knocked on my door because he got some of my mail. I talked with him for a while, he came in for a bit. Then after he left, after a while, the urge returned and I started dipping my feet in the water, playing with fire, but I got a call that lasted a half hour or so. But then, all over again, my dread returned and the urge followed it, and I finally collapsed.

That is to say, so many opportunities to back away, go down a different path, but I didn't follow through on my usual Don't Go Back To Porn protocol.

Disappointed, but I will carry on. I will get there one day. Maybe soon.
 
Dale Cooper said:
Great question. I currently have sex with one cis woman, my partner (She knows about my porn addiction, she has actually struggled with her own porn problem, which is helpful because it means we understand each other).

Part of why I think your question is so great is because, whether you meant to or not, it gets to the heart of the issue, I think:

Because my experiences with transgender women have been almost exclusively from porn, I have essentially trained myself to fetishize them. In my mind, I have a pornographized view of transgender women. Rather than seeing them as real humans, with real inner lives, real emotions, real needs, I wrongly see them as sex objects objects there for my pleasure.

I know a couple of transgender women in real life, and I am not attracted to them. Or, I should say, I do not fetishize them. One of my friends who is a transgender woman is pretty attractive, but I am not filled with an obsessive, overheated, fetishistic fixation on her. I suspect that this is because, unlike the transgender women I am addicted to in porn, I actually *know* her. She is a real person to me. I do not see her as a sex object.

So maybe another way of putting this would be that I suspect there is a difference between having a bonafide *attraction* to transgender women, which many people do, versus having a *porn induced fetish* towards them. I think that I fall into the latter category.

And if that is the case, then perhaps overcoming this this transgender fetish addiction will ultimately come down to slowly rewiring my brain away from porn while simultaneously coming to genuinely see the humanity in trans women.
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Not sure of the science but it is definitely connected to escalation, desire for novelty. I’d be willing to bet that if you get off the porn you wont be into that anymore.
 
Dale Cooper said:
Has anyone else found that as they traveled deeper and deeper onto the pit of pornography, eventually climbing over into trans porn as your tastes evolve, that you largely cease to be attracted to cisgender women?

I have come to a point, after 17 years of porn addiction and about 5 years on trans porn, where I am rarely seriously attracted to a women unless she has a penis.

I am not embarrassed about being attracted to trans women, but I am disturbed by the way that pornography seems to have radically reoriented my sexual desires.

What is the science behind this? What can you do about it?
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Yes, I struggled all my life on this problem. I have either no problem on like transgenders, the problem is that porns makes you so miserable that you'll become so introvert, anxious and sex powerless. Is a bad condition to put yourself.

Like many people advocate the obvious here in this forum, we need to stop the masturbation and the porn watching.

Not sure that your sexual desire will drastically change and instantly you will dislike the transgender, but that's not our aim.

Our aim should be have the best shape minds with no fog and discipline our self.

That's why my name is ThePathOfWarrior. I see myself like a warrior.

I like girls and I like feminine transgenders.

For many years I masturbated on transgender like 80% of the times and 20% on cisgender girls.

After I quitted for months, the taste drastically changed, even now, I prefer normal cisgender girls, BUT, sometimes something triggered inside me and I will watch transgender porn.

Now I will take really seriously this addiction.

It causes many problems in my life, like, before I said Hello to a new girl here that I find really attractive and I was really anxious, I dont know why, I just put a thought in my mind where we can do sex but I will have ED. WHY THE FUCK MY MIND WANT TO PUT MYSELF DOWN EVERYTIME? I DON'T UNDERSTAND. I AM NOT YOUR MIND, AND NEITHER ARE YOU. WE NEED TO REMEMBER THIS.
 
Look man , i was in the same position as you, i escalated from normal porn to trans. I got hocd from it in the beginning. I am trying to quit porn becuse i have a girlfriend now. But i steel think a lot on trans porn and normal porn as well. Even in my dream. the problem with trans porn like everyporn in super addictive, and it makes you question your sexual identity. But i will say you that. The trans porn stars and the few who look so feminine ans sexy. You are getting attracted to their feminine parts , and yes becuse of their…. Its new for your brain and the dopamine level “needs it”. I as well think sometimes about fantasies with hot trans women. Its becuse of my addiction. I wish i could say that girlfriend makes the thought disappear. But its not. Its help a little , but its your responsibility to get off porn as much as possible and try to reset your brain!

Think about how it can hurt you and your girlfriend if you continue that, it help me to avoid porn (for now)
I dont want to hurt her
 
Idf1998 said:
Look man , i was in the same position as you, i escalated from normal porn to trans. I got hocd from it in the beginning. I am trying to quit porn becuse i have a girlfriend now. But i steel think a lot on trans porn and normal porn as well. Even in my dream. the problem with trans porn like everyporn in super addictive, and it makes you question your sexual identity. But i will say you that. The trans porn stars and the few who look so feminine ans sexy. You are getting attracted to their feminine parts , and yes becuse of their…. Its new for your brain and the dopamine level “needs it”. I as well think sometimes about fantasies with hot trans women. Its becuse of my addiction. I wish i could say that girlfriend makes the thought disappear. But its not. Its help a little , but its your responsibility to get off porn as much as possible and try to reset your brain!

Think about how it can hurt you and your girlfriend if you continue that, it help me to avoid porn (for now)
I dont want to hurt her
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Bro is your counter right? Do you have 347 days without watch zero porn or image inherent to ts?
 
Guys i need help please!!! I just want to know what the fuck is going on with me...Alright i am not going to get into too many details but here is the thing i know that i am 100percent straight i have always been attracted by women the idea of dicks disgusted me until porn came. I started watching porn when i was about 13 years old. I was not addicted just occasionally watching. Now my problem is that i started having ed i stopped watching and it was gone then i started having HOCD i was fucking scared i could not do shit. Anyways im just gonna cut to the chase i am not aroused by gay porn but i am more aroused by trangender porn . I have not jerked on it but when i watch it i get a boner. if i stop for good will i ever be normal again??? Please someone respond my life has been fucked up!!!
 
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Papapa425155 said:
Guys i need help please!!! I just want to know what the fuck is going on with me...Alright i am not going to get into too many details but here is the thing i know that i am 100percent straight i have always been attracted by women the idea of dicks disgusted me until porn came. I started watching porn when i was about 13 years old. I was not addicted just occasionally watching. Now my problem is that i started having ed i stopped watching and it was gone then i started having HOCD i was fucking scared i could not do shit. Anyways im just gonna cut to the chase i am not aroused by gay porn but i am more aroused by trangender porn . I have not jerked on it but when i watch it i get a boner. if i stop for good will i ever be normal again??? Please someone respond my life has been fucked up!!!
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Ah yes. Very common.
Men sometimes like their own penis, and they like women, so therefore it's inevitable that we like to look at 'women' with a penis.
Stop watching porn, stop fantasising, and it will go away in time.
 
Wait so you are saying that i can fully recover??
SirErnest said:
Ah yes. Very common.
Men sometimes like their own penis, and they like women, so therefore it's inevitable that we like to look at 'women' with a penis.
Stop watching porn, stop fantasising, and it will go away in time.
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Wait so you are saying that i can fully recover?? Is it possible???? You know my problem is that a few weeks ago when i would watch that type of shit my dick was smaller than a piece of rice and i could only get a boner from straight porn. Now both but a lil more from the trans stuff
 
Papapa425155 said:
Wait so you are saying that i can fully recover??

Wait so you are saying that i can fully recover?? Is it possible???? You know my problem is that a few weeks ago when i would watch that type of shit my dick was smaller than a piece of rice and i could only get a boner from straight porn. Now both but a lil more from the trans stuff
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Yes. Don't watch it. Life is short.
 
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