I practice abstaining from erotic/sexual fantasies, and also from checking out photos of women (even if clothed) on social networks. Recently, I started to like a girl who I know for quite a long time already. Due to my addiction to porn, I haven't really thought about real women, but since I started my reboot process, and due to some events which made me talk to her a bit more, I started considering asking her out. So, the thing is, my fantasies are now only focused on her. I try to suppress the erotic/sexual ones, but I still imagine stupid things like being on a date with her or even us getting married. Before, I tried to avoid romantic fantasies as well, but those fantasies from before weren't so strong and were never focused on a real person. I also found her Facebook page, sent her a friend request (she hasn't checked it yet, it seems), and then I watched all of her photos. There are none erotic ones, but I did check her body for sure. So, I have violated my 2 rules: I've binged on my fantasies, including some erotic ones I've been looking at girl's photos online, checking out her body However, this doesn't make me feel like I want to watch any porn. At least not directly, because there is no porn featuring her. (That's a good thing!) But certainly, it makes me horny. I don't want to treat her as a sexual object, even though I already did this before I started rebooting. I feel very pathetic fantasizing about all this romantic stuff, because I've only ever dated a girl once for a short period of time, many years ago, and I don't know much about dating. I don't even know if she likes me. I'm pretty sure she doesn't hate me or anything like that, but maybe she's just being friendly without anything else in her mind. So, I wanted to ask you, friends, if you had similar experiences. Do you consider that triggers? What did you do about it?