Fetish Porn and a Fake Feeling of Community

I’m wondering if anyone else is experiencing this problem. As many I’ve started out with fairly vanilla porn on regular tube sites. Over the time my tastes got more extreme, I got into drawn erotica and eventually pretty hardcore fetishes. I used to create and still comsume content (erotic literature, drawings, photography, videos, audio recordings, role playing) on various social media and forum sites dedicated to specific fetishes (DeviantArt or Patreon just to name two prominent examples).

Now, while leaving behind the regular tube sites and in general “anonymous pornography” never seems to be much trouble for me, I feel it is far more difficult for me to leave these “communities” behind. My brain tells me: “You know these people, you interact with them and, maybe most crucial, you wanna find out what their newest creation will look like (high level of curiosity makes it hard to abstain)”. Rationally speaking I know this is bullshit. I know that I’ve never met any of these people in real life nor did I have meaningful interactions with them. I know that many of the larger content creators are probably in there mainly for the money and just fake their engagement with the “community”. And I know that a large chunk are just very sad dudes (like me currently) that sit in front of their computer and jerk off to content created by some other dude instead of going out there and dating someone.

Does anybody have similar experiences and, if so, how did you manage to shake your brain out of the fake feeling of community that these fetish pages create?

 

Thanks for the words of encouragement guys, I will try to keep it in mind!