First Real Streak... Any Advice?

Hey haven't been doing this as long but got a good streak going right now (18 days). Firstly the zero libido thing is normal and I have had quite a few days like that since day 7. One thing to expect is a hyper sensitvity to triggers, so just have some solid plans to distract you if you get triggered. Also I have started getting some mood swings towards the end of week 2 so there is potential for withdrawl symptoms.

 

My advice is to keep doing what you're doing - it's working. Your commitment to your goals will be tested at times, and in those moments you need to remember what your goals are. You cannot get complacent, or you will relapse in a heartbeat. Vigilance is key - and never stop improving.

 

One thing I did initially was to leave this site up at all times. I had a habit of sitting down at my computer to do work and the next thing you know, porn was up. I agree with others about having a plan to distract yourself should you be triggered.

As far as zero libido, I think it's normal. To a certain extent, I think you're trying to get yourself to NOT be turned on. Your brain will slowly rework itself. I experienced it some in my first 1-1.5 weeks, and while I'm only at 2.5 weeks no PM now, I've noticed an increase in libido, but I'm wanting my wife as opposed to wanting porn.

Good luck, take it day by day, and slowly you'll find it easier.

 

One other thing I did was to think about why I went to porn. What was it giving me, or at least did I think it was giving me? Was it really doing that for me? What is a healthier way to get what it is I was looking for? I believe if you just say "I'm not going to look at porn or masturbate anymore" a person is going to fail. Think about it - look at attractive women, orgasm, and feel pleasure. I realized I was looking for something else that I thought porn was giving me, and that led me further and further down a dark hole. Once I realized what I wanted, I could focus on that. And frankly, I found that what I thought was providing it (porn), was in reality driving me further away from what I wanted.

 

expect flatline after 1-2 weeks and dont get discouraged by it and dont test your dick to porn or masturbation. Go into flatline and do your best in order to keep up with your normal routine. Remember you heal into a flatline! Flatline is a good thing and you must embrace it. After flatline ends you will experience high urges so dont give in to temptation of relapsing. If you stand on one flatline-high urge cycle you will get out of it more healed than you were before this

 

Also, quitting isn't just something you did in the past. Every day you are in the process of quitting. You have to turn away from urges every single day in order to have quit.

 

Thanks man and congrats to you too! Yeah I did have increased anxiety, some depressive episodes and vivid dreams about P on more than half of the mornings. Mood swings and stronger emotions, negative and positive, are a problem for me at the moment.