Hey guys, I'm new to this forums so hopefully I am posting this in the right spot but here it goes. I am a 23 y/o male and I came across NoFap on YouTube and have been doing it ever since. I am on day 125 and have been going strong. Throughout those days I have had 3 sexual encounters all of which have not ended that nicely for me. Prior to NoFap I was easily able to last in bed for 15-40 minutes depending on how turned on I was. But now I am having an extremely hard time getting to the 1 minute mark. Around day 65 I had sex and pretty much finished within a minute. Then around day 80, I almost finished during foreplay and then did finish within seconds. Finally, around day 110 it was the same thing, within a minute. I have read that Kegels are good, so I started doing that after my first encounter, but as you can see it hasn't helped. I just feel like it has become too sensitive down there. I also know that people are going to tell me that there are other ways to please her, but I do enjoy the actual experience of sex so I would like to have that. Would you guys suggest that I M without P or O, basically edging until I get to climax and stop, just to train myself or what? Thanks in advance, Logan.
Iv been in a similiar situation multiple times in the past. Infact I saw a girl just a couple of weeks ago and I came in my boxers just from her pressing into my groin. we both kind of laughed it off but thankfully I soon resolved the issue . Here is how I do it, basically in the above example, I then went home the next day, and lay down with my eyes closed and imagined what I wanted to happen, whilst I do this I slowly start to touch my self softly then imagine my hand going at a similiar rhythm to the girls body riding me. I then build it up and imagine her start to cramp up and see the look on her face as she reaches climax, that is when I cum also in unison with the girl. I try and feel what she feels like, the way she smells, the sounds she makes, the way she kisses me etc. You can go deep doing this. Anyway fast forward 1 week, I'd probably done this excercise 3-4 times since and this time we stayed at mine and she was extremely delicate around junior obviously hoping for a different outcome this time, and I delivered. Literally repeated what I'd imagine happening in my head, complete control over my point of no return. I suffered from bad premature ejaculation since I first tried stopped porn 10 years ago when I was 18. It was terrible I would always cum during foreplay and then be put of from trying again as I thought the problem was permanent. I have used this technique successfully many times since during a reboot. Also well done on going 125 days!
Thank you! And thanks for your response as well! I just have a few questions. When you are doing the deep visualization you said "that is when I cum also in unison with the girl" does that mean that to perform the visualization you actually have to finish? Also how long do you usually do the visualization for?
I usually make it last a realistic amount of time. So maybe swap posistions a couple of times in your mind and go through the motions. Learn to control yourself through relaxing your muscles and controlling your breath. You don't have to come, probably best of you don't actually. I have since been with the same girl and have not been carrying on the excerices and am able to control when I O. I think it's just a mental hurdle you have to get over, but once you feel the problem is fixed you don't have to continue.
first: long foreplay. You can work with your hand and your mouth even for 2 hours, shell love it if you know how to do. Second: study how to touch properly a girl with your hands and mouth and stop touching her randomly hoping to touch the right spot with help of jesus. third:start slow and don't go to deep with your dick until you feel comfortable. When you pass the 5-6 minutes mark you'll gain confidence.
