I know all the benefits of nofap but lack of purpose and clear mindset is causing me to relapse constantly.
It has helped me to tie those benefits with my real life and use them to motivate me to do the good even more. Eg: improved impulse control - better studying - more success at my studies. Improved ability to be honest - closer relationship with my wife.
There’s no single easy way to answer this. For me it was coming to the realization that you can’t expect to bathe your brain in constant dopamine spikes and not have some kind of negative impact on personality and outlook on life. It all shifts once you decide to commit to NoFap in it’s entirety. It’s different for everyone and sort of the same at the same time. You may just find that your personality is actually quite different than when you are fapping. I know that’s the case for me. I’m finding that I’m not having to be the chatty funny guy anymore. My sense of humor is still intact but it is much more subtle and unforced. Bottom line for me anyway is that fapping made me a bit of an insufferable twit; clingy, forced, insincere, and really obnoxious when I used to drink. I was always chasing the dopamine.
Ah yes, the "funny guy." Yes, I've been typecast into that role before. Might as well wear oversized shoes and a big red ball on my nose. Fuckin' embarrassing...
The best reason to get rid of porn from your life is because it will trap you and make you addicted to it, and change your brain so that porn is the only thing which will excite you in the future. Porn is a trap. A trap, which if it captures you, will rewire your brain, make everyday pleasure seem boring, and put you on a lifetime path of flooding your brain with porn induced dopamine and opioids. Your brain will respond to the frequent floods of dopamine and opioids by cutting back receptors for these hormones, and so ordinary life will become boring, you will possibly suffer depression due to finding nothing interesting anymore, and porn will be the ONLY thing which will give you momentary pleasure. However, after orgasm, you will be back on the depression treadmill and life again will be boring and stressful, all due to the brain changes done by the flooding of your brain by porn induced dopamine. So if you want a reason to stop porn, by nofap or any other method, it is if you want to enjoy a full life of exciting moments and not just porn induced moments. Make a good choice, your happiness depends on it.
