How do you find new girls to talk to and date?

Apps online are hard if you are not good looking or you can show pictures that make you look wealthy or with high status. In my case I use them but I'm good looking and fit. Despite that is really hard to get a woman interested in you. I only get 5/10 woman per year that are really interested in going out with me thru online dating. That's because every woman in that apps are bombarded with guys messages to go out, is really hard to stand out and get her interest.

Your best bet is meeting woman in real life. Woman that like the same interest than you... maybe in the gym, art gallery, library, paiting class, sports, friends of your friends, going out to bars and looking for woman that are staring at you repetevely.

The most important thing is that first you need to be your best version. Woman are attracted to good loking guys, that are in shape, have money, have power or have status (aka are popular). Work on yourself to become the best catch you can be and go out there and show yourself. Woman that are attracted to you are going to make it easy for you to date them. Also your game need to be sharp so she don't loose interest in you the instant you open your mouth.

 

Read your original post again...because you're being ridiculous. So you're telling me, EVERYWHERE you go you only see men? Unlikely, but I digress.

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Easiest way to talk to girls is build your social skills and confidence by talking to any older woman that you would have no desire for about any 'simple' topic that would be categorized as 'innocent conversation' with genuine intent of just being 'social' and not 'creepy' (ex: 'Hello, how is your day going?') In this example, it is a simple opener that you can use (given the context of the situation and woman) to close fast or extend the conversation (ex: 'My day is great thanks.' ...or... 'My day is great, I'm looking forward to my day off because...' After doing this and learning how to navigate the conversations, and developing the skills to talk to a woman (really anyone) it WILL become easier to do with women you want to be with.

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Although (experiences may vary) I would say stay off the dating apps/sites. From experience a good amount of women on these want attention, to find the top 20% of guys, or will just be a waste of time due to conversations that go nowhere. There is not, and most likely never will be, a shortage of women...ever. Understand? Just imagine this...there are quality women in the world who aren't even on dating apps or social media around you every day that don't publicize their life.

Carpe Diem

-A6

 

During quarantine things have been a little slow. I tried Tinder for one day but that made me loose my 55 day streak so not recommended while rebooting. I tried Facebook dating and that thing is kinda working. I get a few likes a day but it is pretty similar to Tinder. So far I have turned down at least 5 likes.

The girls I meet in real life are usually hotter. At least they seem to be. What I did recently was to reach out to old Facebook friends. It worked quite well. Went on a couple dates and I am going to meet more people when my country is out of quarantine.

Yesterday I was on a date for 3 hours. We are meeting again today. During quarantine you have to be a little more creative than usual. I only ever was one one date trough a dating app and I have to say that it is usually not worth your time. You cant see online if the pictures are legit or not. Besides the girl I went on a date with turned out to be under 18 when they ID checked her at a bar. And that was a No Go.

 

I have to agree with p1n1983. It's crazy how bad the odds for men in online dating are. I know that this has been said over and over again but I also made the experience that I have much more success in real life with (according to my taste) more attractive women. In online dating, odds are that you will have very few matches and the matches you get are with women that are clearly not in the same "league". This may sound pretentious, however it emphasizes an important point: Online dating should only be a side project. You can not rely on it.

In my experience, what attracts a women to you is way more subtle than pure looks. Since these online dating platforms transport only that part of yourself (and in that sense very badly), you need to score a 100% there. A guy rarely does so, not even the attractive ones.

But since we are in a pandemic and meeting girls in real life is not always an option, I can only recommend to you to take photos of you, either by a professional or a good female friend that you trust in. After that process you can use platforms like photofeeler.com to expose yourself to a wider audience and get a good grasp on which photos fit best.

But I can tell you one thing: Even if you put in that much work, don't be disappointed. The response will not be proportionate to the work you put in.

 

You have to get to a point where you're so at peace with yourself that you don't need women anymore bro.
Cold approach works but only if you sub communicate the fact that you're complete as a person.
You can't be at peace with other people's presence if you're not okay with your own presence.
You can't share compassion if you're not compassionnate towards yourself first.
Put your own needs before those of others.
Focus on yourself.

The answer is not in having more, being more but accepting your imperfections, diving into your own insecurities.
Going out and approaching women is incredible but you must focus on yourself.

The most important thing is the relationship you have with yourself. Results (having sex, perfect body etc) won't make you happier if aren't compassionnate towards yourself before wanting to have more.

See all these difficult times as a sign. A sign telling you "man, you should take care of yourself before wanting to have more"

This is what makes you happier. Difficult moments are part of the process. The Trap is believing we aren't at peace because we don't have what we want. This is bullshit.
We aren't at peace because we hate ourselves. The relationship we have with ourselves is garbage. we think we're not complete as human beings.
So we think we need to be more, have more in order to exist in the eyes of others

feeling good or bad is always temporary. There's no paradise at the end of the tunnel. It's better to just not attach too much importance to our mental state.

Approaching women on the street and in your life in general can change your life. But don't lose yourself.

Take care bro.

 

If you have the skills , really you can approach women anywhere , but since you asked such a question it tells me that you might be a little inexperienced .
If you are not used to approaching yet , my humble advice would be to practise your social skills first so you can get confortable , go out of your confort zone and try to eat the elephant in small pieces .

 

Online dating is probably just going to ruin your confidence and it has a lot of triggers. What I do is that I wait for likes and if the girl fits my likes then I might try a date. I am getting around 2 likes a day atm because I have a pretty good profile. Havent got any likes from any hot girls though. Most of my female friends would blow these girls out of the water. I am not even sure if dating apps is where the quality girls are to be found.

 

I've been wondering this too. How tf am I supposed meet women? This lockdown had been a bloody nightmare!

I live in the GTA and I'm currently working two extremely male dominated jobs and do Uber part time. So I have literally ZERO avenues to meet women "at work". I am new to Toronto so I have no established "social circle" over here and most people are reluctant to talk and develop social rapport it seems in this big city. The lockdown has obviously made it worse by limiting social interaction with Bars/gyms/concerts, etc. closed and face masks act as a social barrier so to speak thereby making cold approach even harder than before.

I am not on any social media for personal reasons anymore and recently deleted my Facebook account too. So there goes that as well.

Tinder and Online dating only works if you're either extremely good looking in pics or can somehow convey your wealth/status through your profile (not that I have either right now in my real life)

Plus most women nowadays suffer from a syndrome where they have so many guys to choose from that they don't invest in you whatsoever in the initial stages and you gotta do all the work to prevent her from loosing interest.

After my most recent failure with a girl (please see my other post) I've literally given up trying to find women in this current hellhole that is Toronto. I'm literally only working, reading and exercising nowadays.

I want to grow hobbies but I think most hiking spots are closed due to this never ending lockdown and I want to get into firearms training but I'm not sure I can find anything open right now. I wanted to get a piercing but don't know where I can safely get one for a reasonable price in this lockdown world. Life has been miserable the last few weeks man. It just sucks with no end in sight

 

You and many others go around with a lot of assumptions about girls which isn't necessarily true. Picking up girls at bars might not be your style. Most quality girls cant be found at parties in my opinion anyways. The lock down is something we just have to wait out. Try establishing some good habits in the meantime.

After the lock down is over, get some hobbies. If you like any kind of sport, join. Try taking some yoga classes even. You might like it. Chess, martial arts, dancing classes. Hiking groups.

The more time you spend with someone the more they like you. That goes both ways. If you can meet a girl trough some sort of activity then things might start to happen.

 

Generally, it's not a good place, a lot of them are promiscous, low self esteem, blah blah blah.

 

Besides what these fine gentlemen have all said, my piece of advise is this:

From experience online dating works, if you want to waste your time. And even then the odds as others have said are really against you, due to the natural traffic women get. I got a day every 2 months wasting a bunch of time. I’ll always remember when my friend posted a pic of her ankle and she got 50 messages saying what a beautiful ankle that was etc etc. *face palm*

If you are going to do online dating right:


If you are going to click on a chicks profile to message her, don’t second guess yourself. Do it. Take a few seconds to make the decision and execute. No turning back, no regret of engaging and expecting things to be magical every single time. From the get-go you must have that subconfidence that @Spirituss was talking about, in clicking the “message me” link and from then on. Do not habit click or click when you are at your lowest moment with someone to need to talk to, expecting it to blossom into anything fruitful, that’s a fantasy.

Coincidently....The same advise above also applies to every other way of meeting women.