I don't want to be horny, I want to be happy.

Robinthehood · Mar 22, 2021

FellatiousD said: ↑

"I do not wish to be horny anymore... I just want to be happy."

You guys might have seen this meme already since it's been going around for at least a few months. But I saw it for the first time today and wanted to share it with you, because it really resonates with me. Hopefully you will see what I mean.

Disclaimer: I do not endorse any language which may be perceived as misogynistic.

Possible Triggers: the videos inside the spoiler contain a couple seconds of suggestive, but not sexual, depictions of women. The first video is 100% safe, even for little babies like you.

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While these are funny, I think they also have a powerful message. It's in the words - "I don't want to be horny anymore, I just want to be happy." This is pretty straightforward, but very easy to overlook if you don't understand why someone would say that.

Being horny is obviously a natural part of life, and isn't a bad thing by itself. Most men probably don't mind being horny every now and then. But why does this meme make sense to so many people? Right now, there are an abundance of sexual outlets on the internet which come in many different forms. In the old days, sexual content was mainly confined to porn sites. Now it can be found almost anywhere you look - streaming sites, subreddits, social media, anime, digital art, and many other platforms. For men with certain lifestyles - loners, introverts, the "gamer" community, and guys who spend a lot of time online - this ocean of sex can create problems.

Why do I say "men" and not "people"? Well, with a few exceptions, men have a very persistent sex drive and tend to feel horny pretty much all the time. Also, most of the erotic content online is designed to appeal to a male audience. Since this content is everywhere, it can be very easy for guys to consume it endlessly. And no matter where we go there is always more to be found. Sometimes we can't seem to stop, even if we desperately want to.

For example, this morning I jerked off to porn like I do most days. Then when I got up, I watched some YouTube videos, responded to some comments, and decided to keep browsing. I quickly got sidetracked and found myself watching dozens of short clips featuring sexy, YouTube-friendly hand-drawn animations. I wasn't sure why I kept watching them, because I wasn't planning to jerk off again anytime soon. But I kept clicking on similar videos anyway, since they were too interesting to turn away from. I couldn't snap out of it. This brings me to one of the origins of the meme: a comment on a porn site posted by someone who is clearly frustrated and distraught over the constant need for sexual release.

This summarizes the "coomer" experience very aptly. Most men want to be productive, happy, and feel in control of our own lives. But because we are male, our perpetual horniness makes it easy to get distracted by the first arousing thing we see. And because the internet is full of such distractions, we feel chained to this sense of inescapable desire. We feel like we are destined to coom, even if we don't want to, and this makes it difficult to feel happy with ourselves. It's as if we are prisoners to our own biology.

This is why the phrase "I don't want to be horny anymore, I just want to be happy" hits so hard. It describes something we have all felt before, but none of us have been able to express in so few words.

Me too, kid. Me too.
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There is a state I've experienced when I was on a 90 day streak of not being horny but definitely ready or able to have sex at the drop of a hat. This I believe is the natural state for a man ( I'm male) and feels the best. A nice big reserve or supply of energy ready to be directed at the task of reproduction as and when the opportunity presents itself. This state is driven by testosterone and the fundamental drives of being a male human. This state is of the body not the mind. This mind state I have experience with is one driven by sexual imagery, dopamine addiction, reenactment of pornographic scenes, fantasy - all leading to a loss of self. Loss of connection to my heart, feeling numb, unable to connect to potential female mates and so on. I feel like the role and purpose of sex, solo or otherwise has been lost. The normalisation of pornography, repurposing of the drives and energy once used in the continuation of the human race. Millions of gallons of sexual fluids washed up on the gritty shores of the gratification ocean.
There is a balance of course. I am not against porn per se. For myself I can imagine one day being able to enjoy it again preferably with a partner. But it won't be my mainstay of sexual fulfillment. For now I have to distance myself from it and leave it far behind. To reset my neural pathways back to the old ways. The instinctual, basic, DNA guided, hormone led fundamentals.

Deleted Account · Mar 22, 2021

Happy and not horny, that sounds like the 10 year old me, playing outside on the street with my friends. I would love to go back to that state

Deleted Account · Mar 22, 2021

@FellatiousD thank you for your effort .

brassknucks · Mar 22, 2021

Life was much simpler back as a kid when I thought girls were icky.

J053H32n4nd32 · Mar 22, 2021

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Wow. Very very very good post man. This is deep. I am here trying to study for something about 3 hours, but horny thoughts doesn't get out of my head. I don't want to be horny anymore, I want to be happy. I believe I'll succeed though. I have a positive outlook on my reboot.
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It's a bitch when your horny as you study.

Candun · Mar 22, 2021

FellatiousD said: ↑

Sure. I was and still am ignorant about a lot of dietary issues. The majority opinion within the nutritional science community is that veganism is healthy for all stages of life including infancy and pregnancy. Here is a document I've bookmarked:
Position of the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics: Vegetarian Diets - Journal of the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics (jandonline.org)
I believe the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics is the largest nutritional health organization in the USA, and represents roughly 100,000 medical practitioners.

Protein is incredibly easy to get on a vegan diet. The main things you will need to pay specific attention to are B12, Iron, Calcium, and possibly Zinc and Magnesium. Even omnivores tend to have problems getting enough B12, so both vegans and non-vegans should take a 1000mcg tablet a day if they want to be sure. Also, get your blood tested periodically to make sure you don't have any deficiencies, regardless of diet.

Read the Wikipedia page on veganism if you want a fuller scope of information.

This is the site I use to make sure I'm getting all my micro and macro-nutrients. It can be overwhelming, but after a few hours of research and diet planning you will have a good idea of what to do. They also cite most or all of their research.

Here are some vegan recipes with a focus on athletes, so you might be interested in them. Plant-Based Recipes for Athletes | No Meat Athlete

If you want ethical arguments for veganism, you will have to ask yourself whether all life is valuable or just human life. I can't decide that for you or anyone else. I will recommend that you understand what happens on farms, including "free range" farms, and determine whether you think it's okay. Instead of trying to find loopholes which would make some amount of cruelty acceptable, just ask yourself if it's necessary to exploit animals at all. For example, raising chickens in your backyard for eggs doesn't seem harmful to them, but actually causes them a great deal of health complications and risk of premature death. Even the honey industry creates an unnecessary amount of cruelty and damage to the environment. Over-breeding of honey bees creates so much competition that other pollinators are becoming ecologically threatened. These are very interesting topics that you should look into.

Veganism is vastly superior to other diets in terms of environmental impact. Educated non-vegans don't even try to deny this, because there is no way around it. If you want to know why, just read this Wikipedia article and follow the links as you see fit.
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lolol veggie boy

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