I Want to Desire My Girlfriend Again

Sondae · Nov 27, 2022

I've always had a problem with porn addiction. I've always had a problem with getting around a little bit. Now, it's affecting how I perceive my girlfriend.

Let me start by saying my girlfriend is beautiful. I love her brown eyes, her curly hair. She has an amazing figure. I admire everything about her. The first month of our relationship was full of desire and admiration. We had our first kiss together, I always felt in the moment with her, and I always wanted her. However, I feel as if I have less and less of a desire for her every day.

I feel as if I have shown a higher need for my past girlfriends than I am showing for my current. However, there is one thing that is different with her. I have never been able to climax when I was with a girl. I've done some stuff here and there with multiple, but only she was able to do it for me. However, that was our first time, and it did not happen again. Every attempt afterwards was in vain. It gets awkward. It makes her feel bad because she thinks she is incapable of pleasing me, when really, I am incapable of being pleased. My addiction has ramped up lately. I never feel in the moment with her. I never feel in a clear headspace. Although I know she's beautiful, my brain doesn't seem to be accepting that. Even in typing how attracted I am to her; my brain feels indifferent... as if I am lying to myself.

What can I do? I saw someone say that quitting porn made him have an uncontrolled desire for his significant other within a period of a few days. Is this enough to convince my brain that I need her? Will it help me perform better sexually? If you have any tips or advice, please let me know. I appreciate anything.

Deleted Account · Nov 27, 2022

Let me first state that I am feeling the same... I felt such a intense attraction to my girlfriend and I'm struggling on looking at other Woman. I have actually went back to looking at Anime P because I feel like shit for looking at real Woman. At work its so damn difficult., we work together also... Whenever I see her I see this wonderful Aura, pleasantness, most caring woman I've ever met. Yet when sexually attractive customers come into my department or in the store, its like a rush for my eyes..

What I've reminded myself and my brain to think is to just realize, she may be a nice woman (woman you see sexually attractive) but you don't know her, you don't know how many sexual partners she's had or what she's like in a relationship. Heck you don't even know the attitude she can stir up on daily basis, most porn stars are full of them self's. Especially woman who want to seduce rather then love you like your girlfriend.

I believe were both struggling with the reality aspects bro. I hate it so much as well. A full Recovery can only tell and prayers to our spiritual views will help.

Sondae · Nov 28, 2022

Warfman said: ↑

How long have you been in this relationship now?
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We’ve been friends for two years but the relationship has been for a couple of months.

ANewFocus · Nov 29, 2022

Your desire for her will likely increase if you reduce your porn use. If you stop your porn use, you’ll likely have better sex with her and sex where you can climax without her. If you don’t stop porn, you’ll be playing the constant game of if you’ll climax and if you don’t, how much will it break her each time? It’s tough for women, particularly young women, to understand that it’s not them, even if it’s true. Each time it breaks down their self esteem.

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