3 days removed from dday. Every day has been hard for me and my wife. Not from any PMO urges, just the damage I have done. She is mad at me this morning because I didn't wake up when she got out of bed with the kids. I feel like I'm trying to learn about my addiction to PMO to give me the best shot at conquering it but it's only getting in the way of me also learning how to treat my wife like a wife should and deserves to be treated. I feel like they go hand in hand. My 15+ year PMO addiction has made me an empty shell. How can an empty shell be there emotionally and physically for a wife in such need. She's amazing for giving me this opportunity and I don't want to lose it. I see two potentially healthy paths down this road and I don't know which is correct. Path 1: I figure out someway to manage learning and practicing both of these foreign subjects even if one depends on the other. (This is obviously the path she deserves) Path 2: I figure out a way to make her feel like my progress and direction is acceptable. I'm doing my best to practice what I learned from a Dr Doug Weiss video yesterday about how to help process, validate and help her with her current emotions but it's literally info I took in hours ago and remembering and applying is hard. I think I successfully navigated a convo using this technique but I know I missed several opportunities to reapply and help my wife go through the healing process. What paths am I missing? What tools am I missing? Where do I go from here? I have to get ready for work! Any help much appreciated.