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Need help changing my mind set.

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Deleted Account, Feb 25, 2019.

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  1. Feb 25, 2019 #1
    Deleted Account

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    Hey everyone first of all thank you to anyone that has viewed my post. Most of all support!

    (Just a little back story)

    I am a 27 years old stuck at a rough position. I work third shift and to be honest its wonderful and I sleep pretty good threw out my days after a hard night at work. But most of my streaks have been slipping on my weekends, when its hard to hang out with friends or either family members. Of course in the mornings I still go out for breakfast and go to the gym to do a good work out. Maybe I need to change myself for first if that would lead for a better lifestyle. I've gotten into online dating, because third shift isn't as easy as it was for me to meet a girl, but at the same time I saw a good friend (coworker of mine) able to snatch a girlfriend in the third week when he was hired. My mind is still boggled!.. Yes I have tried and became some what good friends with a girl at work, but unfortunately I got rejected on asking to a movie as she said she had to "clean her room that night" when I was opening myself to call in "sick" to go out with her. Some times I feel I've lost my charisma due to P and M. Recently I've met a wonderful woman online and we share thoughts and talk every day we accepted to have a relationship. Since I've maybe lost my confidence to seduce or send out signals or even read I've headed to date online.

    But I still wan't to change my mind set. I feel once I have it focused I can succeed, but that seems pretty damn difficult right now. I have a question for anyone that has a high streak and reads.. Just How do you do it?
     
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  2. Feb 25, 2019 #2
    Joe1023

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    Basically, its done by willpower and the commitment to fighting this addiction using tools made available to us. Here is a list of tools and resources to help:


    - Go to weekly SA meetings and find a sponsor there. To find one near you, go to https://www.sa.org/meetings/

    - Do an internet search for CSAT office in your area (Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist)

    - Find an accountability partner if you don't already have one. Many are available here on NoFap.

    - Look for help online; There are sexual addiction recovery books, workbooks, self-help books, Youtube videos and MANY other things to help.

    - Start a journal about your recovery. On NoFap, somewhere else online, in a word document offline, or even with pen and paper.


    - Obtain a copy of the book used by the members of SA meetings, which is commonly referred to as “the white book” which can be purchased here: https://www.sa.org/store/product_info.php?products_id=32

    - Put safeguards in place to help you stay sober. Think of your weaknesses and eliminate them.

    - Do you take your phone (or any other device) into the bathroom with you and relapse because of it? Then make a rule to never take any electronic device into the bathroom with you, ever. NO EXCEPTIONS.

    - Do you read erotic literature and relapse because of it? Make a rule to never read anything that could ever be found in that section of any bookstore ever.

    - If you struggle with looking at internet porn or any other addictive material on the internet, get an internet filter to block that category type of website as well as any specific site you know you’re vulnerable to and give someone else the password to it. (Spouse, partner, AP, sponsor, etc.) Obviously, you should not have the password.


    And for new users, check out: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/



    I wish you the best of luck, my friend!
     
    Joe1023, Feb 25, 2019
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  3. Feb 26, 2019 #3
    pavx92

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    I currently am not on a long streak though I have been somewhat recently...the biggest that stuck out to me in your post is that you slip when other people aren't available to hang out. You have to be careful not to use ANYTHING as a crutch or substitute especially things you don't always have readily available. If you do feel you're at a point where you need something then you can honestly just go to your general doctor and he/she can prescribe a light dosage of something without even a need to go to a psychiatrist. But, again, hanging out with people can't be the way you avoid porn because you're basically substituting one thing for another. hanging out should be the end itself not a distraction
     
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