thank you lovely.. I appreciate everyones comments, even those hard to hear! I talked to him about it recently and he promises, and assures me that porn isn't an issue anymore and he hasn't relapsed (i asked him if this had happened at all during our time together).. but from all these responses its making me worry that actually he is lying to me. our last conversation was quite 'conclusive' if you know what i mean, and he's quite short and blunt about it. I can tell he doesn't like talking about it. I think i will have to discuss it with him more and actually try and find out a lot more about how long he was addicted, if there is still a trigger. He was completely inconclusive when i asked him about that the last time, saying that there was 'porn' everywhere and its impossible to get away from it. I kept asking if it was a problem still and he said that he doesn't think it is. hearing him say that its 'impossible to get away from' makes me worry though. hes just not being clear. how would you recommend approaching him about it again? he's clearly very ashamed of his whole past and ive done everything to make him feel comfortable, i personally don't feel like its something he should feel ashamed about anyway.. I dont want to call him out for lying if he really is being honest with me, but at the same time i need to know if he has relapsed..