Porn induced ED or perfomance anxiety ED??

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Paul0071, Jul 25, 2019.

  1. Paul0071

    Paul0071 New Fapstronaut

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    Hi everyone my name is Paul and Im 22 years old. I'm a new here and looking for help. I think I have erectile dysfunction. Recently I found a beautiful girl I have always dreamed of, but I cant make love with her. Previously, I was with a girl for 5 years and never had such a problem. Then we broke up and after year found this girlfriend. We made love the first time, everything was wonderful. I also was the first man she had. The second time we decided to do that I was a little bit too drunk and we also were in bad mood cause previous that day we got really angry at each other. From that night I am very nervous about it. She supports me and says that everything will be fine. I understand that, but I can't stop thinking about it. By the way I have to add that she is super hot, everything I dream about watching porn now i have in my hands and I cant do that! That makes me mad. Do not know whether to cry or laugh.. Every time we get undressed, I start to think that I can't do that again. Erection arises when we kiss, but when its time to make it it dissapears. That's the problem. I just don't know what really caused it. When Im alone, erection is great but when Im with her Im starting to think about that drunk time when I could not do it. Maybe that caused performance anxiety + porn induced ED. Have no idea. I was watching porn since 13 years old. I'm a normal guy, have a good job, exercise a lot, I love to communicate with other people and seems that everything is great in my life. I'm going to go to a psychologist to tell everything and I want to start 90 days NoFap challenge. I think maybe that will help. Just dont know what to tell my gf about it. Btw yesterday we tried a sexual therapy. She was at home wearing just beautiful lingerie, cooking, making food. In general she did all the stuff she had to do but was wearing just underwear. And that really turned me on but when I decided to make love erection dissapeared. So i hope you understand my situation and i hope to get some advice on how to fix it. Its good to know you are not alone!

    P.S sorry about my english, its my not native language guys:)
     
  2. Strongman 125

    Strongman 125 Fapstronaut

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    What has been your longest streak of no pmo?? Did you feel any difference at that time??
     
  3. Paul0071

    Paul0071 New Fapstronaut

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    Probably 21days when I was on my trip to USA. I felt better but at that time I didnt have any performance anxiety. Maybe its not about PMO but about my mental health idk. Or maybe these two things combined have no idea what to do. I used to do PMO almost everyday, sometimes several days brake but then I do it again. But even though i was looking at it very much I think I never got into it. I mean I was watching but at the same time I did communicate with the girls anyway and I felt really good. I went out a lot, I mean going to the clubs bars and other places. As I said after failure when I tried to make love with her, everything has changed. I cant get rid of those thoughts + idk if I really have PIED. But I believe NoFap challenge would help me somehow. What do you think?
     
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  4. Strongman 125

    Strongman 125 Fapstronaut

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    It surely will help you. Just distract yourself for a few days and work on nofap and I believe everything will be fantastic :) just don't lose hope because nofap + self-belief = wonders :)
     
  5. Paul0071

    Paul0071 New Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for the support. At the moment I have a feeling that it wont be so hard as you guys say but we will see. Maybe after that, as I call 'failure', I lost an interest in sex and sex drive in general a little bit.
     
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  6. Hello and welcome! :)

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    There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
     
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