Relapse after 7 days...How to avoid it?

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abhi24

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I have taken NoFap challenge for 90 days and I was on 8th day but finally relapsed as my brain got filled with sexual thoughts. I wanted to watch porn but my brain said no for that, so I tricked my brain by reading sex story online instead and..... relapsed instantly.

Relapsed once again while watching to my gf on video call when I started having sex chat with her.

I have not only developed ED due to porn but also premature ejaculation. I see the girl and ejaculate by merely touching that god damn thing. I have noticed that I ejaculate too easily when lying and unable to sustain erection for long when standing. I think I have trained my body to ejaculate easily while lying on my bed.

I become rock hard when watching porn but with the girl, my erections become soft.once I tried to have sex with my gf but ejaculated without even penetrating. I feel fucked now.

I don't know what to do to stop this nonsense. I am really worried as I am going to get married in a few months and have never had real sex.
 
hey!
Never give up!
First u didnt relapse man u reseted, a relapse is when u fap again for days and days.
When u begin to have sexual thoughts dont develop it, think about something else or u will reset or maybe relapse.
Look at 10mn15 it will help u my brother (u can watch the whole video if u want)
peace :)
 
Thanks, but I have been trying NoFap challenge for last one year but my brain constantly think about sexual thoughts and after every 6 to 7 days my brain somehow trick me to either watch porn or read sex story or sex chat with my gf. And I ejaculate again.

I still remember when I started to watch porn, I used to take 20 minutes to ejaculate with rigorous masterbation and death grip. But now, I hardly take 30 seconds to ejaculate. This is insane. I feel so bad and devastated.
 
Hm,k
ik this feeling and in my personnal case I overcame it by asking help to God, listening Quran thinking about death etc so maybe if u are religious try this. This part may help u: in Islam fapping is forbidden, and in this religion God doesnt forbid u soemthing for no reason for example he said in the Quran :"They ask thee concerning wine and gambling. Say: "In them is great sin, and some profit, for men; but the sin is greater than the profit." They ask thee how much they are to spend; Say: "What is beyond your needs." Thus doth Allah Make clear to you His Signs: In order that ye may consider". God wants us to THINK by ourselves about what is good or bad for us. And this is ur problem u need to think and undersand it. Actually u only see the good part of fapping: it brings u joy and relax u becuz of dopamine and i think taht u know it and ur brain is fooling himself etc. Now u need to learn about the bad consequences and I think that u know it too but the problem is that they arent so sudden like the positive side, u are destroying ur body and brain and soul little by little so u can only feel the good effects, but one day it will explode and u will finally see it but sadly it will be too late.

The other side of the coin is our memory, we forget a lot. Here u forget the deception after fapping "I feel so bad and devastated" and u can only remember the joy. So maybe to help u u need to writte down ur sadness after fapping and ur deception. make a diary of it. And when u are about to fap read it.

So I want u to put 2 things in the room or in the computer where u are fapping:
- The bad effects on ur body and the brain that are proven by science
-Ur feeling after u fapped, be expressive and emotionnal as more as possible
=> This will help u to REMEMBER and not do it again. But the first thing to do it to get convinced that fapping is bad for u : there is some good but the bad part is more important.
Stay strong my brother and u will get rid of it if God wills it.
peace :)
 
I know how you feel as the most I did was 14 days in a row. Then 11 days. I really really really want to get this addiction under my control and take control of my mind fully. What is important here is to build momentum. Positive one, build something, do something, create something, get some knowledge on something and be proud that you do tha instead of fapping, Try to think every day in the evening what you did on that day and why does it mean to you a lot. Record yourself on your phone where you speaking to yourself about your achievments you did in those couple of days. Tell yourself that you don't want to relapse. Listen to it when you have extreme sexual thoughts. Listen your own voice. Think about the goals, Try to trick your body by doing some weird action, go out and walk. Have cold shower and then read a book even if you dont want to. ...Don't worry brother, we can make it. I am having my 4th day now, really strong in mind, 4 days I am complete fantasies free and I have strong mind (so far) I know it will come and it will be daemon beast but we will beat it! You can do it man ! Trust me , you will never beat addiction with old patterns, you need to develop new ones. You are a man you can develop new patterns, Start to try from today.
 
Hey thanks man, you have really motivated me. I am trying again now. This time I am going to do what all you just said, let's hope for the best.
 
Woah man I had a big urge today and after asking God's help, I fought vs myself :D
The thing that really worked to stop me was really the knowledge about it. Maybe it depends on people but for me it was this I went on my board and I wrote the negatives effects and the consequences of it (sadness etc). Was a really hard fight but i won! I hope that u will too. Gl
 
The fact that you keep relapsing again and again is frustrating. You want to stop doing this behaviour but in the mean time your brain are fulled with sexual thoughts.
First of all I advised you to identify your triggers ! You know that your brain will be fulled with sexual thoughts at around Day 8 ,therefore you need to plan things. Make yourself busy mentally speaking. Read. Meditate. Hang around with friends. It is "normal" to have a certain amount of sexual thoughts, what is not normal however is that you think that sexual thoughts = I need to masturbate. Learn about the sexual transmutation of your energy.
Then be exhausted physically speaking. You need to do sport. Run. Exercise. Practice.
If you have premature ejaculation don't touche your dick anymore. It will heal with time. Also, stop doing this sex chat with your girlfriend okay ? Like seriously, it will not help you... Tell her about your challenge, be honest, she will maybe understand, you'll have better sex if you abstain.
Good luck !
 
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