THE DUELS OF NOFAP: NO PMO TOURNAMENT | OPEN FOR NEW FIGHTERS!

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by primordial-saiyan, Apr 2, 2019.

Have you beaten your record or improved your average noPMO since joining this?

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  1. Checking in day 72. In peace with world and my body and memories about my ex'es and enjoying spring :) Reg that question about triggers - I think men are more into visuals and women-oriented so they get triggered easily and we women are not only triggered by men but also by their bodies, their body odour or perfume (this is one of the greatest triggers for me these days) etc and also we subconsciously compare ourselves to other girls with whom these guys interact. This is reinforced by diet industry, beauty industry etc. As in porn - when we watch porn our brain thinks that we have to look like these girls, f*uck like these girls in order to have this dream guy and live then happily ever after :D there's no relationship in porn of course, just animal type mating, but we women seek connection and stability with some man in the future. So we direct all efforts at ourselves. Whereas men objectify women. Our brain are wired differently.
     
  2. Jag Hyde

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    I'll say the same thing I said to QuietKarma this morning.

    DON'T GIVE UP! It happened, let's move on.
     
  3. Jag Hyde

    Jag Hyde Fapstronaut

    WOW! @fleurette, thanks for this. I've always wondered what interested woman about porn. That is huge learning moment!

    Porn for women is looking and comparing their body image first and sex second, correct? For men, isn't it about the sex first and body image comparison second?
     
  4. CoolBuddy7

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    There's no "seeming" to get out, brother. Maybe you're not feeling that bad, anymore after you relapse, and maybe that's why you're still continuing this. Don't you want to experience the benefits you enjoy while doing NoFap ? So, hop in right away. Just keep trying, and try to find out answers. Ask yourself some questions, questions about your abstinence from Porn. Like, What is your reason for Quitting this ? You feeling terrible after a relapse shouldn't be a reason. That's just a vague one. What's bad enough in Porn for you ? For me, I began objectifying women as mere Sexual objects, and I would begin Fantasising Sexually about them. I was still Okay with that for a long time, before joining here. I mean, I even fantasised on my teachers, class mates and all. I didn't feel like it was a bad thing, until I stepped out of the peep-hole. Now, that I am trying not to think in such a way, I clearly see benefits. I would earlier, only notice the body of women, and that, for me was the only beauty I saw in them. Later, after abstaining and trying to control myself to not fantasise, I see their attitude, their character, I see the humane things they do. I see the motherly warmth in them, and all the other blissful things in Women. They're not Sexual Objects, the way it is portrayed in the Society, they are all so much more than that. They deserve so much better. So just ask yourself, What is it that you find bad in this addictive behaviour of yours, brother ? Stop looking at Porn, stop the relapsing Streak. You did not come here without a reason. You feel bad after relapsing, So, it's time to stop feeling bad. We shall make yourselves happier by staying away from all of that bull crap. Also brother; Just because you fail, doesn't mean you should Stop trying. CHEERS, hope you start right away.

    Exactly, I think it's too far away from the truth. Many young people (like me), gain most of their sexual knowledge from Porn, and many try to follow things shown through Pornography, while they, the makers of Pornographic content, make the videos in such a way that they turn out to appear in a more appealing way. They showcase people rubbing each other in uncomfortable positions just for the viewers to catch a good view of the private organs of the opposite sex, so as to get turned on, or to get that Dopamine rush. [ I don't know if the positions are uncomfortable, I just read about that somewhere on the internet. :p]
     
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  5. primordial-saiyan

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    You'll get out. Put in steps for triggers, delete instagram, youtube and even your internet. The harder it is to reach P the harder it is to do M. Do that for a few weeks until you feel better. You'll feel better even if you're more bored sometimes and it's better to be bored than slipping up against no PMO.
     
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  6. primordial-saiyan

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    I think the more you watch porn the more your brain has to get harder to get turned on by more fucked up shit. It's an easy and fake way of receiving dopamine so once eventually you get onto watching more hardcore shit. I've never been into a lot of the shit like golden showers and so much things which to me are crazy but I can see how eventually if I kept watching porn as you have to find more hardcore and niche porn to turn you on, I can see why people would get into the crazy things. That's like an effect of porn and I'd say that affected my past relationship also as the extreme became the best way to get a thrill even though it can strip away at the natural.
     
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  7. CoolBuddy7

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    Wow, A golden line of advice. A good one, It tells almost everything about our Addiction to Porn.

    Exactly !
     
  8. prince san

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    Check in day 2 done, All praises to God
     
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  9. WolfHound 獣

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    If you got to praise God for 2 days. Shit real.
     
  10. CoolBuddy7

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    I literally died reading this :D, but, @prince san , @BeastBoyBalling didn't mean no offence.
     
  11. Oh it's more complicated than that I think. I have a high libido so for me sex was also an important aspect in porn in terms of how to spice things up, various positions etc. But if you look at how women are portrayed in porn, for instance in lesbian videos, it's not only that their body orifices are shown close-up, the overall picture puts huge pressure on ordinary women.. perfect bodies, perfect tits, booties, make-up, hair, outfit, high heels, lipstick, nails.. It's the same pressure as in mass media, diet industry, and everywhere - the message for ordinary women is that they need to be perfect and to do THESE things in order to get pleasured by a man, or to get attention from him. It's like we see hardcore sex there and we feel like animals inside us when we PMO but on the other side there's that pressure on body image and this leaves us feeling like shit afterwards because we will never measure up. Those porn stars they do just that for a living, they train for hours or days before the filming, with fake tits and maybe fake booties. I think the main point that the whole body of a woman is objectified in the eyes of men and shown as perfect ideal in the eyes of women. And does this have to do with sex anyway? Sex is connection, union of two people. For me sex is sacred and casual and sex don't go together, that is against my values. And we all know that perfect cannot be achieved and maintained every day in a row. During this NoFap journey I also logged off social media and I don't watch TV or check media news and I feel really free inside, I mean, really in love with my own body - or at least starting to love her.
     
  12. Zen Mode

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    You guys are right, I will get out. My first mistake was not logging in everyday made it easier for porn to get in the way. I need an efficient way to stop triggers. I will try to just get outside and go for a walk a change in environment may help.
     
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  13. komodoro

    komodoro Fapstronaut

    Never give up! Keep at it, you've got what it takes to defeat PMO and conquer your life.
    Take care my friend.
    I am up for the challenge buddy! May the best warrior win!
     
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  14. primordial-saiyan

    primordial-saiyan Fapstronaut

  15. Awesome comment.
    I agree with the casual and sex don’t go together.
    What I want most in sex is the emotional connection.
     
  16. King Ghoul Sstar

    King Ghoul Sstar Fapstronaut

    Of course I want to date my best friend and have a goal of getting married whoever I may date (reason I think I have been single all this time, learning on trying to keep these casual at first when it comes to meeting new ppl and going on dates) ... is okay that I’m attracted to cute women with colored hair?
     
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  17. WolfHound 獣

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    Who is not? Now todays question. Why you doing this to settle down with a single person? Nowadays every second marriage ends in divorce, most of the relationships do not go over a month. I know you are lonely. But todays question is...Why do you guys, girls look for the one? Let me know what you all think.
     
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  18. CoolBuddy7

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    I don't know, trying to settle searching for someone as soon as possible. You know, someone you can have around as soon as possible, and also someone with you from as early as possible, which means you have more time with them, and you've already found someone for you, and don't have to go looking for anything of that sorts anymore ? If they're with you for a long time, and you love them, then you both can go through so much together, for a really long time.
    Maybe if you intended to ask it more off like, Why only one ? Why not two ?? Then, perhaps, I think it's difficult to even have one, if it's feasible, maybe then people would go on for more...

    Hey, Beast. This everyday question seems like a really great and cool Idea. We can sure get to know other's opinion on stuff through this. Great idea ! Thanks for this.
     
  19. First we have to find ourselves and have a true relationship with ourselves - only then we can start searching for our other half. When we feel we want to - not when we need to.
     
  20. CoolBuddy7

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    I didn't really get this part !
     
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