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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.
Day 5... Being challenged every day. Staying busy is a very important part of the process.
You guys are all very inspiring!
5 Days down, almost Uruk-Hai! Let's go!
Day 2 completed successfully
All the best brothers
Your brother in this struggle
Hi friends, I apologize, its been awhile since I checked in.
Last weekend (7/26) was pretty rough for me. My fiancé left town, and I let my guard down too much. Fell apart quite a bit.
With that said, I'm currently 4 days strong, and I just started a 40 day fast on Sunday, so that is bolstering my spiritual game as well. Happy to be pushing forward.
Welcome to Middle Earth brother
That´s my sister!! Congratulation sis, you´re Rosie now
Now to death and ruin and the end of the ring!!! Onward!!!!!!!
Congratulations brother!!! You took off the ring . Here´s some Old Toby
Now make haste brave hobbit. The night falls and there´s a quest to do. Good luck!!!!
Welcome to the Fellowship brother . I wish you good luck on your journey
But first.... let´s take off that orc skin
well, it´s better stop counting the "tries" brother, really. it´s very likely that you´re gonna relapse again, sooner or later. i don´t say this to annoy you, i´m saying this to raise your awareness. doing a reboot is not a "all in" process. it´s a slow, painful process of perseverance and work. and the most valuable asset you have is to never give up. never. if you don´t give up, you´ll make it, garanteed. i relapsed hundreds of times. and in each release i got multiple feelings, some good, some very bad, but i always try to learn something with my fall. something about me, something about the addiction.
this is not easy brother. but recognize deeply that you got to do it. there´s no middle place for us
Excellent brother. You step into the bridge of Khazad-Dûm. Here comes PMO. Fight!!!
well, i thought on that many times. the problem is gollum is not really an evil entity, is more like a victim of the ring. if gollum was in the challenge, brothers could identify with the "victim" part, and assume that role too, and that would be detrimental to the reboot. but thanks for your words
Meanwhile congratulations, keep fighting brave Uruk-Hai!!!!
One more day of walking brave Fellowship
don´t give up, never give up my friends. You´re stronger than you imagine
Here´s JK to start (or end) the day
"The blind spot in porn addiction treatment
There’s an ugly truth about 12 step groups and therapy that your therapist and traditional addiction recovery groups don't want you to know. It’s a major “blind spot” in treating porn addiction
In short, the major “blind spot” in recovery from porn and masturbation addiction is 12 Steps Groups and therapy don't work for everyone. That’s right, I said it.
You keep being told that they are your only option.
Maybe you had hope in the beginning but then you suffered from the side effects.
You spent time and money on a therapist- opening up and sharing all the different events which happened in your life that could have possibly led you down the path of porn use. While it felt good to open up to someone once in a while, nothing happened. You often resented putting aside the time visit with your therapist.
You advanced through the steps in your group, but the truth is- you've been relapsing and lying about it all this time. Not only have you lost faith in the group, you're also afraid of becoming "that guy". You know, the one who seems to live in a permanent state of relapse. You all know what he's going to talk about this week- his relapse.
When dealing with a compulsive behavior with porn and masturbation, it’s not uncommon for your self esteem to start declining.No, you’re not crazy. It’s the "help" you are getting.
As a driven, successful man, you are used to being self sufficient and independent, yet despite the huge hurdles you had to overcome to get support from a group or therapist, you still aren't making any progress. This naturally makes you question your belief in yourself.
Once again- its not that these approaches don't work. Its just that they don't work for you.
Depression and anxiety are familiar territory for members of 12 Step Groups and frequent therapy clients.
The ugly truth is the side effects keep stacking up. Each one leaving you more and more isolated and further from the solution.
What you have been told is a big fat LIE. Groups and therapy/counseling are not your only, nor the best, option.
What really determines whether or not you live a life free of compulsive porn and masturbation use is one choice you could make right now.
Today is the day that you decide no more lies. Today is the day you decide to find out what the hell is really going on with your addiction to pornography. Not just the diagnosis of porn addiction but what that hell is CAUSING YOUR addiction.
Not the "root cause", but the issue you are using porn to feel better about. The issues fueling you ever growing addiction.
What are your triggers and how do you eliminate the cause? Today is the day you become a gladiator for yourself and understand your cause and effect.
Our team is ready to talk. We have a plan that works to turn your diagnosis on its head and I guarantee it is not another 12 step group or counselling.
As you recall in our training, I’ve said, the diagnosis doesn’t matter. Having a clear plan for your porn addiction based on finding your cause and effects is key to turning this around.
Say no to the big fat lie and book a call now.
Your brother in this struggle,
Day 0: 12 hours and 33 minutes.
I got up at 10AM again, but today I felt really good and motivated. Now I want to get up by 9AM tomorrow and Thursday, and working my hours back until I am back at 6AM again everyday. I talked for a while with a friend from class today, and we have plans to video chat Saturday morning, which is exciting. I asked her out during the spring, and she turned me down, but we have a good relationship now. She is probably my youngest friends at one day short of five years younger than me, and that bothered me for a while, but I have come around to accept it and think of her by herself and not by any identifiers. While I have told my closest friends about my addiction, I doubt I will ever tell her as she and I are not that close and we are not dating. With that said, one day, when I complete this challenge, I would like to throw away my anonymity and announce to the world that I am a PMO addict. That way I can potentially help people starting out, who can see someone like myself be successful while being an addict.
One last thing, I was watching some recorded lectures this afternoon, and I started to unconsciously touch myself, but when I realized what I was doing and the promise I made to myself yesterday, I immediately stopped even if I never intended to go “all the way”. I lay there with a throbbing erection for a few minutes, but eventually it went down and I felt very proud of myself.
84 days done
Keeping focused on my goals. Still overweight, that's next on my list. Onwards and upwards!
Thank You For Your Wishes, This Really Means A Lot For Me. But Will You Please Tell Me, When Will My Rank Be Upgraded To Orc??
Day 0. The weirdest thing in my reboot is that all my resets are due to fantasies in my head. As for porn and other sexual content I haven't watched anything like that for 4 months straight. Brothers do you know some techniques to clean my brain from this stuff? I've tried meditations but unfortunately I live in a big and very noisy city. So I need something else.