The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.

Should the Thread Title be extended?

Poll closed Jun 21, 2020.
  1. No, leave like that: "The Lord of the Rings Challenge"

    18 vote(s)
    54.5%
  2. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Fellowship of Nofap"

    15 vote(s)
    45.5%
  3. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: Rising Fellowship of Eärendil"

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  4. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Journey to Mount Doom"

    5 vote(s)
    15.2%
  5. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Quest of the Ring-bearer"

    6 vote(s)
    18.2%
Multiple votes are allowed.
  1. PerseveranceToday

    PerseveranceToday Fapstronaut

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    Man am I stupid or what? Every time I come back here I promise to be more faithful, but instead I stop posting immediately and only come crawling back once I inevitably relapse. Here I am again, day 0, this time I'm going to stay accountable.
     
  2. Starboii

    Starboii Fapstronaut

    Man since November I have so much sexual thoughts and energy. After a relapse I can focus 2 or 3 days, then the fluet of sexual "energy" comes to me and I`m a dirfferent person. Last night I relapsed but now I can focus on studying etc......
     
  3. Ciceron

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    Day 34.

    I could beat No Nut November! And know I´m going to make it in december too. Vade retro PMO.

    St. Agnes of Rome, pray for us!
     
  4. Zapy97

    Zapy97 Fapstronaut

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    Day one Clean soon it will be day 2.
     
  5. MyGodandMyAll27

    MyGodandMyAll27 Fapstronaut

    Day 43. I feel good today even though I still have some things to do and i want to do it well. But we cannot put the guard down the urges can come in any time. ;)
     
  6. DudeAlex

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    Day 3 is almost over. I spent several days away from NoFap, and while away I masturbated, though not to pornography. I am back to being an Orc.
     
  7. eagle rising

    eagle rising Fapstronaut

    Day 97

    It is very strange this struggle at times. It is almost as if it we were meant to fall into the darkness in order to more appreciate the light. It seems like we addicts will have a deeper understanding of what constitutes a fulfilling life but we will always be aware of the darkness which is but one action away.
     
  8. CrimsnBlade

    CrimsnBlade Fapstronaut

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    Day 51! Made it to Dwarf!!

    Moria, the greatest Dwarven Kingdom, is before me. With a beard and a axe, I'm a Dwarf now.
     
  9. DudeAlex

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  10. MyGodandMyAll27

    MyGodandMyAll27 Fapstronaut

    Congrats Bro¡¡. I want to get there too ;)
     
  11. RiseToGreatness

    RiseToGreatness Fapstronaut

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    yep, just like a brother said before: instagram is the witch-king of Angmar :D ;)
     
  12. RiseToGreatness

    RiseToGreatness Fapstronaut

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    i totally understand bro. i collapse like that a couple of times, and yes, it´s hard to explain indeed. what i learn is that once you have your mind straight about not fapping that moment, you have to change the situation/circunstances fast. don´t stay in a idle situation because the urge is still there.
     
  13. RiseToGreatness

    RiseToGreatness Fapstronaut

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    yep, stubborness, one of my problems also :D. and i had to fall a lot until i admit that i needed to stay accountable daily in order to keep sobriety running. accountability is not bullet proof, brothers can still relapse for other reasons, but accountability sure increases motivation and responsability to the reboot process.

    stay with that decision bro :)
     
  14. RiseToGreatness

    RiseToGreatness Fapstronaut

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    i upgraded you yesterday bro ;). But congratulations once again :D. Keep going!!!
     
  15. bmcmanansmith

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  16. RiseToGreatness

    RiseToGreatness Fapstronaut

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    One more day mighty Companion :)

    Nothing to report today among the ranks of the Fellowship, so let´s give a wave of support to all our recently fallen brothers @Onan the Barbarian @PerseveranceToday @DudeAlex @Starboii @Zapy97 @bmcmanansmith . Rise my brothers, you can do it :emoji_muscle: We´re with you!!!

    Have a great day brave warriors!!! :)

    Here´s JK Emezi with a powerful insight.

    "I have heard this time and time again...

    I hear you, brother.

    Are you struggling with the idea that you have to let go of porn and masturbation FOREVER?

    Do you find it hard to stay consistent when that fear comes up??

    I have heard this time and again from people in the reboot community: “ I don’t know if I can go without sexual release forever, J.K”.

    I can totally understand because I used to think this way too. In fact, I even got depressed a few times while trying to reboot thinking of how dull and empty my life would be without pornography and masturbation.

    This is why I am here today to tell you about a story of how I came to let go of this belief.

    Years ago, I felt incredibly depressed and deprived as I approached close to half a year without porn or masturbation.

    I kept telling myself that “ This is for your own good. Soon, you will feel better.”

    It was a lie I was repeating to myself day after day.

    I had an “aha!” moment that forced me to change my belief.

    Today, I wanted to quickly write this email to share with you 3 reasons why the idea of “permanent abstinence” is not true.

    Let us break things down once and for all!

    ● I realized that I felt WORSE carrying the burden of abstinence than I did relapsing!
    Think about it. When you are watching porn- at the very least, you are comfortable with that mediocrity and pain. Its pain you are familiar with. You know that you could quit if you seriously put in the effort.

    But when you decide to be abstinent FOREVER, your unconscious mind realizes that you are choosing to suppress a natural, healthy urge. So you end up fighting it every single day. The 12 Steps and some other approaches emphasize the “one day at a time philosophy”.
    One day at a time of suffering? No thanks.

    ● Instead of focusing on the areas of life that you are medicating with porn and masturbation, like loneliness, strong emotions, unresolved issues and so on, you end up focusing on one thing: ABSTINENCE. The deeper issues are not resolved and even if you wanted to, you are so focused on “one day at a time”, that you don’t have the mental capacity to identify deeper causes.

    ● You never grow. Outside of a therapist who went through an abstinence model of quitting their addiction, when was the last time you came across a man who was actually living the life YOU wanted to live who claimed they were still “in recovery”?
    Its rare because when you practice full abstinence, you are forced to live a lifestyle which justifies suppression of core human instincts.


    You should be learning to control you behavior, developing coping strategies around strong emotions, discovering your unresolved issues, making pornography less relevant in your life while changing your beliefs about masturbation, sex and women.
    Removing the pressure of slipping, removing the requirement of "I must never masturbate" ironically helps you realize that masturbation isn't as important or relevant as you've made it out to me.

    Thats how you truly reboot and live a healthy, sexually fulfilling life.

    As you can see, the thinking that I needed to abstinent forever is actually untrue... I will always remember that fateful day when I realized that I could end my porn and masturbation addiction without having to be abstinent from all sexual behavior outside of sex with my partner forever.

    It freed me to live a richer, fuller life.

    Here’s to better things to come, brother.

    Your brother in this struggle,

    J.K Emezi
     
  17. Mathman1994

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    Day 2

    I have not been on in over a week and I have had a couple relapses in that time. However, I am not 2.5 days clean and I hope to post everyday. I have a support group for porn addicts through NoFap which I do try to post to everyday, but I do enjoy these challenges as well. I have been consuming a lot of Tolkien related material lately on YouTube, and I have subscribed to three or four new Tolkien channels which I have been enjoying a lot. Learned this new metaphor from his unfinished Lord of the Rings sequel, The New Shadow, called the Dark Tree. The Dark Tree has roots that will never completely die, but as long as you consistently prune them, the Dark Tree does not grow. However, if you become careless or lazy, the tree will sprout and cutting it down will take a lot more effort than just pruning the roots. The Dark Tree is a metaphor for evil, but I thought that it also fit well with PMO.

    Best,
    Mathman1994
     
  18. Onan the Barbarian

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    Day 2 as an orc.

    Feeling all right. Just kind of lazy and lethargic. I've been hitting the weights and eating all right. Gotta keep up good habits and get more disciplined with my daily schedule.
     
  19. Cartographer

    Cartographer Fapstronaut

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    Day 15

    I am a Hobbit today! Thank you for the support on this journey!

    Was able to spend some time gardening which was nice, something that IU have not done in some time. And there is snow!

    Here is to a PMO free life!
     

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