These Words Saved Me from Relapse

I know how you feel I keep relapsing and can't seem to go for 90 days but hopefully this time we will all get out of this disease known as "porn" once and for all. So we can live a fruitful life.
NEVER GIVE UP KEEP STRIVING!!!

 

"I know I gotta stop drinking for AA to work, but not going to the bar all together feels like a really far jump."

"I know I gotta stop injecting for heroin detox to work, but quitting drugs altogether feels like a really far jump."

 

All the work needs to be done before the urges.
You can't fight an urge.
If u want permanent solution you have to work on your subconscious forces that are triggering your urges.
Urges are only a manifestation of a deeper problem.

 

This is something that needs to be talked about more.. I completely agree. Urges don’t happen unless they’re fed. It starts as a weak consideration in your head as to whether you should seek some sexual stimulation. Although as you mentioned if the subconscious is well kept then even those will be rare. However when that does come, if shut down immediately, it tends to disappear. It’s only when it’s fed, when you start going back in forth in your mind on whether you should do it or not, that it becomes a full fledged “urge.” There should be no option. No fence sitting. If we don’t commit with our heart and soul to abstain indefinitely, no matter the circumstances, we will continue to fail. Your level of conviction will dictate how many urges and the severity of them. I’d love to here what anyone else has to say about this.

 

I think u missed my point , all triggers are non sexual emotional triggers. Urges are a sign of emotional struggles.

 

Well I was mostly replying to the general statement that all the work needs to be done before the urges. Hard to determine that emotional struggles are the only thing behind urges but definitely a large factor.