Will God Forgive me

A group for members of all religions, or no religion at all, to talk about religion

  1. Tao Jones

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    We are in this fight together, my friend and brother. We lean on Christ for strength and on one another for support and encouragement. I look forward to discussing with you further after you have had a chance to soak in the Truth for a bit! :)
     
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  2. Feelslikezoom23

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    Thanks for taking the time and interest into my situation and congratulations on your milestone surpassing 90days.

    My story is this...

    I'm suffering from a chronic illness which keeps me homebound 95% of the day.

    I spend my free time watching tv, and surfing the Internet as I can't do physical or mental strenuous tasks.

    I get very lonely and bored living this life, and suffer anxiety and depression from being so disabled. I am an entrepreneur at heart, so I'm living a nightmare not being able to be active.

    I don't have any friends to see and I live with my parents.

    I get trapped into boredom, depression and I have an extremely HIGH LIBIDO.
    I need to fulfill my sexual needs. Celibacy is not possible for me.

    I love women, they are so beautiful. I have not had sex for 7yrs. I have not had any contact with a woman for 7 yrs. not even a girlfriend. And I've tried dating sites in the past that never worked out.

    I fulfill my desire to see women through the Internet and I've been ending up at porn.

    It's like I can't go more tha a week wanting to see a beautiful woman. Her tanned flesh, soft breasts, sweet lips, gorgeous seductive eyes and so on...

    I'm am so lost !

    I take my battle day by day but I am constantly relapsing.

    The longest I've gone is 17 days.

    I get haunted with sexual dreams and erections after 5 days which doesn't bloody help me.

    I don't know what to do..
     
  3. Feelslikezoom23

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    Thanks for taking the time and interest into my situation and congratulations on your milestone surpassing 90days.

    My story is this...

    I'm suffering from a chronic illness which keeps me homebound 95% of the day.

    I spend my free time watching tv, and surfing the Internet as I can't do physical or mental strenuous tasks.

    I get very lonely and bored living this life, and suffer anxiety and depression from being so disabled. I am an entrepreneur at heart, so I'm living a nightmare not being able to be active.

    I don't have any friends to see and I live with my parents.

    I get trapped into boredom, depression and I have an extremely HIGH LIBIDO.
    I need to fulfill my sexual needs. Celibacy is not possible for me.

    I love women, they are so beautiful. I have not had sex for 7yrs. I have not had any contact with a woman for 7 yrs. not even a girlfriend. And I've tried dating sites in the past that never worked out.

    I fulfill my desire to see women through the Internet and I've been ending up at porn.

    It's like I can't go more tha a week wanting to see a beautiful woman. Her tanned flesh, soft breasts, sweet lips, gorgeous seductive eyes and so on...

    I'm am so lost !

    I take my battle day by day but I am constantly relapsing.

    The longest I've gone is 17 days.

    I get haunted with sexual dreams and erections after 5 days which doesn't bloody help me.

    I don't know what to do..
     
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  4. Tao Jones

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  5. porsche4life

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    God will forgive you just keep on trying man and read the bible daily.
     
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  6. Overforme

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    I'm sure god doesnt care. Instead of asking god for forgiveness why not take that time to come up with a gameplan to avoid further relapse and put that action into play
     
  7. Feelslikezoom23

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    Yes I know God . It was Jesus Christ. God revelead him self to the world by being born of a virgin and living a sinless perfect life. Are you going to deny now that Jesus existed??
     
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  8. Feelslikezoom23

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    God does care. He loves all his creation. And I do have a game plan. I am learning as I go what triggers me to PMO. I've learnt so much about my character through this journey. And I can't do it without walking with the one who created me.
     
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  9. Tao Jones

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    This simply is not true. It is a lie that you have believed.

    The way to deal with PMO is always the same. This battle begins in our minds and that is where we must fight it. We learn to identify unhelpful, tempting thoughts. We "freeze" those thoughts as soon as we are aware of them and identify them for what they are. Then, we run those thoughts by the Spirit for his input. He will help us identify the lies we are being told. PMO always lies. Then, we replace the lie with the truth of Christ, and we live from the strength of the truth rather than the unreality of the lie.

    This is called the FREEdom process, and it is a Christian discipline of mindfulness.
    https://docs.google.com/document/d/1zqVL11JjWICOHCRUDmqXr9TNC_gpb6yhRF1hKp-fxcc/edit I highly recommend you read the entire book that these notes are based on. It is a very practical and helpful guide.

    You believe that you need to fulfill sexual needs. This is false. There is no need for sex. Your libido is very high *because* you have fixated your mind on sexual thoughts so often and for so long that your mind is constantly in an oversexualized state. You *can* undo this. You *can* control your sexual urges, stop feeding them, and watch them fade away. God will help you in this process, but you must be fully on board and committed to the task. It is a process and it takes time. But it *is* possible.

    If you'd like to begin the process today, let me know. It is always easier to walk through this with the support and encouragement of a community around you.
     
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  10. bken

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    I believe in God but I also believe that He is bigger than religion. People's near death experiences are the best way to find out more about God and guess what, they all come back saying religion is absolutely meaningless on the other side. This seems to make sense. All that seems to matter after death is love, overwhelming, unconditional love. Some see Jesus, people from other religions will see things that relate to the religion they participated in on Earth. But if you think about it there can be no place for religious law after death. All that will matter to God will be your heart, your intentions, what you are truly made of.
    We all grow up in cultures that make us believe in one God and they tell us the God of the other culture is the false one. For example, let's assume you were born in Iran, think you'd still believe in Jesus? Or would you believe in Allah and Mohammed? You'd think of Jesus the way you do about Mohammed now. See how the world changes our perspective from birth, and how where you are born decides what religion you are going to partake in? Surely if there is a God He is bigger than what mankind is putting into boxes.

    Most religions are probably made up but they all seem to share the core truth about what has to be the one true God. Religion may very well be full of half-truth. There is just so much stuff in the Bible that defies what we know about science and the world, that I've come to the conclusion Christianity is just one little piece of the puzzle, so are Islam, Buddhism and Judaism. So much violence in these books that goes directly against what people on the brink of death seem to experience. I will need to weigh my words here but the Bible is more or less racist. Especially the stories in the Old Testament. This is just fact. There is only one race in it that seems to matter, the others killed in their thousands, women and children, for just one reason, the wrong bloodline. The chance of encountering a man favoring a specific race after death, judging you for what you have learned is sinful here on earth, is incredibly small. The possibility of having to judge your own life however, is incredibly likely. In other words you need to forgive yourself in the first place. Fearing a judging God you can't see is not exactly helpful. In fact only a cruel God would strike fear in the hearts of people without making Himself known. If you ask me God is real but He is so much more than what religion is all about. We seem to create our own realities. I feel I'm turning into more of an agnost but it's the only conclusion I can come to. People are killing each other over different religions and gods, it's a shame and it's just totally absurd. People should be treating each other the way they treat their invisible gods in the first place. Only then are you serving the one true God, at least, that's what I've come to think. No matter how you look at it God has to be in every living organism on this planet and too much blood has been spilled over religious fanaticism, if you think Christianty is an exception to this you'd better think again. I was a hardcore Christian before all this, almost even turned my back on the pope for his world views. If there's one thing I've learned it's that division will always lead to hatred and that's the one thing religion should never be about: 'Our God is the real one, away with yours.' Far better to treat others the way we treat invisible gods because if we can be sure about one thing, it's that we are all a part of what has to be the one true God.
     
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  11. Breadman

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    God is mystery. Sure, true and loves all his creation. We need to get comfortable with the idea he is unfathomable. Is in Unity, communion with all his creation.
     
  12. Feelslikezoom23

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    You say there is no need for sex, honestly your starting to loose me. This is the equivalent of saying there is no need for breathing, there is no need for eating.

    Human beings and all living creatures are 'designed' to procreate. Hence there is a penis and a vagina, egg and sperm.

    And reproduction is only possible via sexual intercourse, and this can only be achieved through a desire. Just like the process of eating has began with the desire from hunger.

    Or drinking through the desire from thirst.

    The are over 7billion people on earth, I can assure you, it was through 'desire' for reproduction and sex, that this could 'only' have been possible.
     
  13. Tao Jones

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    Each individual person must eat and drink and breathe, or they will die. There is no such need for each individual person to procreate. We have a strong innate desire to do so, but that desire can be controlled. The expression of that desire can be safely dialed back and even eliminated when it is not helpful.
     
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  14. Feelslikezoom23

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    Hmmm, I could provide dozens of articles and mounting scientific evidence for human beings desire for sex and to procreate if you like, would you like to see them?

    I can assure you God did not create a penis and a vagina simply for Urinating..
     
  15. Tao Jones

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    I will highlight again what I have already said: We have a strong innate desire for sex, but that desire can be controlled.
     
  16. Roady

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    The truth is that God has nothing to do with religion. It's all about relationship.
    Religion is invented by humans, trying to be religeous without having relationship with God. Without trying to know God.
     
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  17. I guarantee you that's not true.

    Your brain plays tricks on you.
    It's not a high libido, it's your addiction to PMO.
     
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  18. God doesnt exist. Christian God is ant-life.
    Fun fact: oldest revealed religion on Earth, prophet started his teachings in his 30s, God revealed himself to him, there is a book and his students.
    Sounds like christianity? Well, its Zoroastrianism
    "Zoroastrianism. Zoroastrianism is one of the world's oldest monotheistic religions. It was founded by the Prophet Zoroaster in ancient Iran approximately 3500 years ago."
    It made significant impact on christianity, islam.

    Jesus is not "only true" and original :)

    Noble, intelligent, rich, happy, creative man is perceived as evil, conceited, pharisee
    Pathethic, small, cowardly, poor in soul is perceived as virtous.
    Its philosophy of social lowlands, goal is to hurt high and happy people. And make low people feel virtous about themselves.

    It makes you feel as someone really bad, because you never can complete ideal of God. And ideal of God in this philosophy is anti-life. Comparing yourself to such ideal, Jesus or God, makes you feel bad about yourself. You are "sinner". Wow, and then you find out about "forgiving idea". And you feel good about yourself then, but you perceive life as punishment, you look at happy and succesfull people with suspicion.

    You dont need "God" to feel free from "sins"
    Gods forgiving is just yours forgiving. You forgive yourself. Gods love is your love for yourself.

    Start finding what really makes you strong and what makes you weak.
     
  19. "I get trapped into boredom, depression and I have an extremely HIGH LIBIDO.
    I need to fulfill my sexual needs. Celibacy is not possible for me."
    Its addiction. Go out. Just that, if you can go to public place and have a walk. You cant fap or watch porn there :p
    Or start exercising. I had blue balls today, I went for swimming pool and were swimming like crazy for 1 hour. No blue balls at all, no urges.
     
  20. Roady

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    Amazing contradiction.

    I say: God exists. Once you find His love and mercy you will never doubt about Him.
     
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