Two full years of NoFap!

The 24th February was certainly a special day for me since it not only meant two months left to my birthday, it also meant I celebrated two full years of NoFap hard-mode!
But the way it all started and took off was actually quite random and not really planned from the very beginning and this story is more trying to tell how it all started two years ago. Even to this day, I don't consider myself completely rebooted but will most likely be so within the next eight months or so. It is all about getting those last demons, beliefs and old subconscious-patterns out of the system first.
It was probably one of those random decisions that changed my life the most in the long run to be honest:

Time really flies and although it might sound ridiculous, I remember that last day of fapping (and the day after) quite clearly. It was a gray, cold, and frigid February day (typical February day in the Swedish capital) and almost immediately after the release, that feeling of dullness, indifference, fatigue and sadness started to kick in but little did I know that it was actually going to be the very (most likely) last day I ever fapped.
The feelings of indifference and dullness almost felt as bad on the following day, despite some beautiful winter-weather outside and little did I know that it was due to the M:ing the day before.
Although I had been porn-free for a year prior to that, those remaining feelings of dullness and gloom never seemed to really settle, despite having been on the trip of my life the month before when I returned from New Zealand.
On the day after, I randomly decided to challenge myself by not M:ing for an entire month. I remember a previous attempt two years earlier when I managed to do so for two weeks and little did I know that those energy-surges and defogging eye-sight were signs of recovery, not insanity or similar which I thought of the time and hence the reason for why I fell back into old tracks. All because of the fear I didn't know much about.

However, I remember how tempting it was during that first week of abstinence, especially one week after where I was alone in my hotel-room in Belgium where no one knew what I was doing. I managed to keep it away though by going outside and take a walk amongst the beautiful old buildings, churches and canals in Brügge. It wasn't until the following day (after 11-12 days of abstinence) I got that energy surge, joy of living and clearing of brain-fog hitting me square in the face. This time, I wondered if this could have anything to do with semen-retention and the more posts and blogs I read about this topic, the more convinced did I get that this was the way to go so I continued the streak and it stands strong ever since.
The rest is history and two years later, I can conclude that these past two years have easily been the best ones of my life so far (by far) and it gets slightly better with time (although it settles a little) if you just keep up with it and take good care of yourself. Before I stop writing, the following are my best tips for preventing relapses:

-Ditch the electronics such as video-games, your phone, entertainment, TV-series (and TV in general) as much as you can (read a book and/or develop a skill instead) since they will make you lose focus and concentration very fast due to their constant dopamine-showers.
-Maintain a healthy whole food diet with few processed foods and refined/processed carbs such as pasta, potatoes, white rice, sugars, artificial sweeteners processed bread (and bread in general), breakfast cereal, potato chips, crackers, etc. Not to mention so many of those regular foods that are loaded with added sugar. All of those mentioned above are highly inflammatory-and insulin spiking foods overall that make you hungry all the time, create inflammation in your body and alter your mental state significantly, making you feel sad, down and depressed.
I have ditched most of the bread (and flour, wheat and grain products overall) and my daily sugar intake to only a few teaspoons a day and the difference that makes for your physical and mental health are significant. My skin keeps getting better and clearer for every day now, despite being almost 32 years old. Chocolate, pastries and ice-cream are things I only ingest during the weekends and in very moderate amounts.

-Exercise daily, both cardio and strength-training with some lifting.

-Taking cold showers on a daily basis.

-Getting enough sleep, rest and recovery.

-Surrounding yourself with good, positive and supportive people. Ditch the toxic people in your life or do at least not spend more time than necessary with them (if they happen to be your family or relatives)
-Having some meaningful goals and purposes in your life to shoot for and towards which you are working on every day (one piece at a time).

In the next few weeks, I can publish a longer story (or personal anecdote rather) telling what my life looked like before NoFap and how this good habit really transformed my life in the long run, if you are interested.

 

Thank you mate!

There is a whole lot of healthy goods I can recommend but sticking to whole- and organic foods (i.e. as little processed foods as possible) is key to a healthy diet, as well as whole fat products where the fat isn't removed or replaced with sugars or artificial sweeteners. These are some healthy foods I can strongly recommend:

-Leafy greens (kale, broccoli, Brussels-sprouts, spinach, ruccola)
-Avocados and legumes (beans, green-beans and lentils)
-Organic or grass fed meet, poultry and organic eggs
-Fatty cheeses (not the processed pre-slice ones) and whole fat yogurts
-Fat fish like Salmon, mackerel, harring, and albacore tuna (beware of the mercury and other heavy metals and dioxins though).
-Almonds, nuts, and seeds.
-Lots of whole fruits and berries (especially organic ones) where the fibers are left.
-Whole fat and non-processed mayonnaise, Coconut oil, butter and peanut-butter (coconut oil and butter are the healthiest ones to fry in actually).
-Olive oil in moderation and if not fried with.

I also read a lot of books (one per week normally) and many of them are about personal-development and adopting the habits, mindsets, practices and routines that the most successful percent of people out there use daily ("Think and Grow rich" by Napoleon Hill is one of the absolute best in this category).
Otherwise, I like reading factual literature about health, foods and diet plus some classic novels when I get time over. The latter category is needed so you don't get too narrow-minded and get some perspectives on how people have lived, worked and thought throughout the ages.

 

Thank you mate! Keep in mind that a great and fulfilling life in the future has to be foregone by some discomfort and pain staking processes and steps along the way since nothing that is worthwhile in life comes easy and overnight.
Self-discipline and self-control are two of the main keys to a thriving, happy and successful life and by making many uncomfortable small changes (one at a time) in your daily life, you will reap the benefits later on as these all converge, just like the little streams that make up a bigger river.
Cold-showers are only a few but such steps on along the way. Of course you can skip them if you want and feel like but by giving in to all of these little discomforts in life, you will start making up excuses and giving in to other little discomforts as well, like a contagious virus.

I don't take the cold-showers because they are fun or comfortable but because they strengthen and empower me in so many ways afterwards that I can't skip them because the moment I do, I start to slack with other little discomforts and sacrifices that have a great impact on my life in the long run.

 

I don't understand what you are talking about? I have been on hard-mode for over two full years with no relapses ever since.

 

Now, I feel like I'm under pressure, hehe (just like the great song with the same name by Queen)!
Unfortunately, since it's not on the top of my priority list as of now, it might take some time before it's out but I rather spend some needed time writing a good, inspiring and helpful story than rushing it through just to get it out and the result becomes mediocre.
I don't want to sound like a slack or bullshitter but working on the manuscript on my current book and business-idea (plus exercise, diet and reading) have higher priorities right now and whatever spare-time I have left after that, I will of course dedicate to keep on writing the story of my former PMO-years between 13-29 years of age.

 

Thank you mate!
Although I took charge, responsibility and matters into my own hands entirely two years ago, I don't know if the swift progress to go from an enchanted, miserable and sad PMO:er to cold turkey hard-mode in only 14 months had been possible unless my entire life had been overturned during those first months of 2018.
I remember it so well back then since I was returning from (possibly) the trip of my life after spending two weeks in New Zealand and its amazing summer-weather. Things started to unravel quick within just hours upon my arrival that late January morning when eating lunch with my siblings. They told me that our dad had and his new woman accused us of several things during Christmas that we were not guilty of ever since New Years (during the time I was gone on my trip) and the next two months that followed were almost like wandering through sleep-deprived and anxiety-ridden hell.
His 60th Birthday was last Saturday btw and it is too sad that me and my siblings couldn't celebrate it with him since we still don't really have had any contact with him since.

It was also during this time of life-crisis I decided to give NoFap a chance for at least one month (I didn't even know about the concept at the time) so I could get some better direction in life and only after 11-12 days of abstinence, I started to notice some great benefits emerging and off it took after that. It was like an almost instant injection with endorphins and dopamine that I had never felt and with time, I started to appreciate and feel such joy from the small things in life I hadn't in years.
But, more about it in the longer story that I shoot for to have published before Easter at least.
No, I haven't had any sexual contact or orgasm (or similar) during that time at all and although my experience in that walk of life is very limited (to say the least) I don't sweat it and don't have any neediness or feel any urge to get laid. I am also not interested in a ONS or anything similar that is outside a committed relationship of any sort. Not only would it show a lack of self-control and discipline on my behalf, it also goes against my core-values, beliefs and weakens me on my path to become a better man and warrior.

As the wet-dreams are concerned, I haven't had one since late November (or early December maybe) and I have noticed the key to prevent them or at least heavily reduce them is to be on top of life when it comes to your health and personal development. In particular, you need to be in mental, spiritual and mental balance, meaning your stress-levels need to be heavily reduced and not being to reactive to circumstances and what happens around you. Meditating and studying some philosophy is key to getting into this balance, together with diet and exercise of course.

 

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Härligt att kunna prata svenska på forumet med en norrbagge!
Behöver du tips eller råd gällande något (som du inte vill ta upp här offentligt) gällande utvecklandet av god självkontroll och självdisciplin så släng iväg ett privat meddelande till mig och jag svarar på det så snart som möjligt. Själv bodde jag faktiskt í Amerika i nästan sex år innan jag styrde kosan hemåt till Sverige och Norden igen.
Själv trillar jag numera ofta in på nya vanor och rutiner då jag de senaste två åren fått förnyade intressen och en stark lust och drivkraft att lära mig nya saker.

Ha det gött!

 

Gör så och ingen orsak!
Ibland kanske svaret dröjer lite men det beror inte på arrogans eller dylikt utan snarare att jag helt enkelt måste prioritera.

 

Are all of you Fapstronauts ready to read the first part (out of four) of my life story prior to NoFap? It is quite long and detailed overall which is why I divided it into four parts but I did so as I needed to reflect a lot on the past and see how my dwelling on it (plus all destructive habits and thought patterns on which PMO played a big part) shaped me for so many years, until I slowly could break free from just before turning 30 years old two years ago.
I will publish it before Saturday for sure and I hope it will be that reading that many of you can recognize yourself in and also inspire you to not only give up destructive habits but also get closer to a spiritual awakening so you finally can become your best versions in life.