Rough, long day at work. My coworkers are pushing my patience to its limits. Wish I could retire but my bank account says no.
Life is rough right now. I know I'm not the only one so I don't want to complain, just want to let it out is all. I think of the adage, "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" and I want to believe that. Seems like right now things are slowly killing me though because I don't seem to be getting any stronger. In the long run I hope to look back on this as a necessary period of my life, that the future me wouldn't be as strong without going through this. I think everyone's life is hard in some way and at some point in time - there's no way to avoid it. It seems maybe the best things to do are keep learning and keep trying.
Day 78 - 80 A few days ago I was tempted by chaser effect (4 days after the fact) and had to work hard to stay clean. It's been calm since then. Really thankful for the fellowship here and the resources available that have helped me battle my PMO addiction after 30 years of daily indulgence. Stay strong
hi there everybody checking in. You hang in there @artifact ! Don't let your work mess up the rest of your life. I know by my own experience that this is easy to say but not easy to do!
All right boys (and girls?) I'm 35 since September and I like the idea of "hanging around" people in the same age group. I'm in need of encouragement and I need to get this thing under proper control. I'm in the middle of exams with heavy pressure. Family life with full time studies is rough and the marriage hanging on a thread. I don't have time right now to delve into my story but I need something to hold on to. If I need to makee any certain changes to the counter and such, I would appreciate if someone would assist with that. Ok, go. ps. my counter is not correct - just don't know how to reset it.
I have relapsed since then. I took my guard down, went for real sex and now back to fap. It’s frustrating that it’s so easy for this thing to come back and bite you in your ass. How do I change my counter now?
If you're on a desktop, click the link at the top of the page that says "Update Day Counter" then enter the time/date of last P/M. I'm not sure how it works on a phone.
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@Nash78 That "chaser effect" can be very strong. I have a big struggle with that and before I learned about it and gained awareness to expect it and stay on guard, it always took me down. My lifelong habit was to always "top off" sex IRL with a solid PMO session, like I had earned a premium experience for myself. Having to uncouple that pattern was really tough and I still get hit hard with a chaser urge up to 3-4 days after the IRL experience. Try to read up on chaser effect and learn how it might work on your psyche and then get your coping skills in place to battle it. After all, most of us are not here to avoid intimacy relations especially if we have a significant other, wife, partner - that is a beautiful part of life. But we do want to stay PMO-free. I've found those IRL experiences way more satisfying since nofap, particularly once I got to over 30 days streak. Stay strong friends!