New community member here to hit '90 day' reset... who's on board?

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by IonicWind, Jan 28, 2021.

  1. IonicWind

    IonicWind New Fapstronaut

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    Hi there!

    I am a 26yr old bisexual man. I began watching porn around the age of 13, but it was within a household that the very act was made extremely shameful and was not talked about. My sex education consisted of what I was able to teach myself from a set of encyclopedias we had in our home and then the porn that I was exposed to. As an adult my religious views have since changed and while I no longer attach guilt or shame to the act of masturbating to porn, I know objectively that it is not healthy.

    It is difficult for me to say how strong my dependency on porn is. Over the years, I have been able to go weeks without it at times, but then at other times in my life I find myself watching it multiple times of day.

    I am embarking on a 90 day reset with no masturbation or orgasming also. My reasons:
    • I want to regain time and energy spent jacking off to a screen and redirect it to more productive activities-- self development and building better relationships.
    • Build confidence in my ability to self-regulate and respond to urges and difficult emotions
    • Stop objectifying the bodies of women and men, and making unfair comparisons to my own body.
    • Learn how to bring more intimacy to sex.
    • While I do not question my sexual orientation, I do want to clarify in my mind what are my sexual desires and fantasies, without porn influencing those thoughts.
    • Reduce porn-induced anorgasmia and pressure to perform. Isolate the effect medications have on sexual drive and function.
    Ultimately, I want to remove porn from my life entirely, but will reevaluate the purpose of masturbation after the reset.

    I am looking for accepting and supportive accountability partners. I also want to be a cheerleader for anyone else's self journey. Let me know if you can relate and how I can be of support!
     
  2. TheForsakeen

    TheForsakeen Fapstronaut

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  3. Robindale

    Robindale Fapstronaut

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    Congrats on your efforts so far! You've got great goals and a good mindset. Best wishes on your journey and confident you will succeed.
     
  4. sigmaomeg

    sigmaomeg New Fapstronaut

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    Interested in being a AP! 28 Bi male here too! 8 days into 90 Day hard mode. Let me know what type of communication works best.