Day 6 Yesterday was not bad. No urges. Just a sense of loneliness since I haven't been in a real relationship. But I need to do this for myself. Not for the next relationship. I deserve it. Good day everyone.
Day 1. Going strong. Had a bunch of thoughts about it, but took the Taoist way and just observed my thoughts. Didn't give in and they slowly went away. Still lots to go, but one day at a time. The way of the Tao.
Longest I've ever gone was 26. Pisses me off that I was 4 days away from 30. Not gunna give in this time.
Day 17 Im very happy that I had me under control yesterday and didnt relapsed. But it sucks to be sick -_-
Hi Dempsey, I am super new here and only on Day 1. But if I can give you an advice on how to not give in is to practice mindful meditation, also known as Chi-Gong. Basically you can master your feelings and urges by practicing observing them. When you get an urge try to do this. Walk away from where you are, sit somewhere else and close your eyes for a second. Don't push your urge and lust away, welcome it and start observing the feeling. Don't engage on it But also don't push it away. Observe it. You will see that after a little bit it will become weaker and will slowly start drifting away. At that point as it is fainting move your observation to your breath. Don't force yourself to breath, just observe it. Just keep doing this when it comes back. And it will come back, but you will see that with time it will be less and less to the point that you will laugh about it if it does.
Day 2/90 I’m at the base of the mountain. The slope is gradual; a fairly easy ascent for now. I always find there can be an initial surge of power and determination early in the climb to complete a mission, though there’s many days to go yet and the climb will only get steeper, more difficult. I need to conserve my energy and be determined/know within myself I can complete this. The summit will be Day 90 completed. That’s where I’m aiming for though it doesn’t stop there. I need to come down from the summit and that may be difficult as well, i.e. coming down from such an achievement. Will need to be prepared for that too.
Day 3/90. it probably gonna get hard for the next few days and after that it will get easier. So I am trying to persuade to keep away from anything that might turn me on.