Day 1/90. Worked on the garden, felt kinda like a meditation state. Good self realizations during that
Relapsed again day 0...didnt watch porn but MOed..images were alive in my mind from the chatting apps that I have been using for a date....
Starting this challenge. Not going to orgasm from porn or masturbation for 90 days. If end if with a woman who wants to have sex then thats okay for me, because I am doing this challenge to improve my sexual function and get rid of my anxiety.
Hi guys I have a question. Do you think the reward system can recover? Do you think that after 90 days more dopamine will naturaly be send during normal activities?
I'm kinda tough love person so be warned this isn't the nicest/most heartwarming/uplifting post. I'm kinda new to all this so idk if this'll help or hurt, but when I play in sports games and lose or get a bad grade on a test or something else like that, I try and remember that feeling of failure, imprint it in my brain. Then when it comes time for me to workout/practice or study, I think "Hell no, I don't wanna do that, it's hard". Then I think about the feeling of when I fail or lose, and it's way shittier than how tired I am after practice or how much my head hurts after studying. You should definitely get over your feelings of guilt and failure because you'll never get anything done (in regards to NoFap but also in life) feeling crappy and down on yourself. But it's good to remember the feeling of failure, so you can take the steps and preparation to never feel that way again. Even if you do relapse and fail, make it harder each time to do so, or keep your streak just a day longer everytime; eventually, you'll only be PMOing like once a year, and by then you should be in the clear. I have found lots of success with this mindset in sports. Personally, I've been cut from like 6 competitive sports teams, 3 in highschool, and 3 club. I'm pretty emotional and put a lot of effort into the sports, so I cried about each one and always felt horrible about myself for it "I'm no good" "I'll never play sports again" "I should give up forever", crap like that. But all the time when I'm practicing or working out and my body and brain feel like they're about to give out, I remember the feeling of failing and losing, and it allows me to push that extra little bit needed to succeed because I don't want to feel that way again; I'd say I'm a decent amateur athlete now from this mindset. You're on day 0 now, but remember this feeling when you're on Day 10 next time, and just ask "Is PMOing right now worth the empty feeling I will get?" The answer is no. Another thing, kinda random quote, but once I was gonna try out for my highschool soccer team (I am not a great soccer player), and I hadn't played that well in tryouts the previous 4 days, so I was extremely nervous about the last day of tryouts. I told my dad I thought I was gonna get cut and the reasons why, and he said "Instead of trying to make the team, do everything you can to not get cut." It's a weird quote he said off the top of his head, but his point was even though I didn't think I had the skill/athleticism/endurance to make the team, I should do all the little things (hustling everywhere, trying my hardest at all times, staying focused/ready) in order to not get cut. This is the same for you; if you don't think you can resist the urge to PMO, set yourself up in other, smaller ways so it's HARD TO PMO/FAIL. This may include but is not limited to 1. busying yourself so you do not have the time to PMO 2. exercising so you don't have the time/physical energy to PMO (I've noticed on days where my football team did really intense hand workouts, I could not PMO, who knew) 3. set up software that makes it harder to look at porn. Anywho hope it goes well and my lecture wasn't too mean.