Hey there.. i am a 28 year old male.. i have been away from pmo successfully for 4 days now.. i have tried too many solutions on own self and failed miserably.. but i have learned one thing from it.. do not be too hard on own self.. i used to literally stop using a smart phone and switch to a basic handset.. but my brain told me. Oh ur missing out on life and friends and social media.. and i eventually gave in.. now i have stopped being so hard on myself. I have for now imposed only one strict rule on myself.. no smartphone in toilets.. no means no. Whatsoever!!! I had got habituated to use my phone a lot in toilet.. surfing led to Instagram which led to skimpy dressed models to porn.. it all happened in no time.. lol.. my bowel movements had started getting dependent on seeing something dirty.. So for now.. rule 1- no smartphone in toilet..
Well thats one part that helps. But basic things that help in nofap is not touching genitalia, except when peeing or washing and not looking at any more or less arousing images - keeping mind clean and hands-off from yourself.
If they wanted it pinned it would be but I would argue there other threads which should be too if this one should or it isn't fair.
I want us to all be mindful, if we do not critically think and reflect in understanding the roots and antecedents to our behavior and addictions, then our addiction will continue to have control, and be on the surface. We must always look to understanding where the roots of our addiction are, begin and how they were created, why, where, when and even who. Other wise, only healthy habits are fixing symptoms but not the root cause of our suffering and addiction.
This is gold. So many helpful advices here. Please share this post so everyone can reach out! I'm so happy that I have a chance to stumble upon this! Love
Wow, great guide, thank you very much, there are some really good advices right here =) I'm already 1.5 years into personal growing before i found this side, Corona was my time for this. But still, i can't get myself to this tip. To touch and kiss a woman is all i want, not only from pmo, it's like a life goal for me. but when i'm around attractive girls, i only feel the despair and desire at the same time, they are so near and though so far away. i'm even good looking, but i don't know how to get in touch with them. that's the most important thing i want to change with pmo. i'm now 3.5 weeks into my first streak in hard mode, the urges come, they go, i'm not touching myself, trying to not think about it, doing healthy things like sport, but, i feel near 0 changes, i'm dying inside and also literally want to kill myself to release from this suffer. is there any hope it gets better with more time? i'm also an autist, so maybe there is no way out for me, i don't know =(
This has obviously been tucked away in the archives for a bit, I herby bring it back to the top of the list with a comment. Very through post, many thanks.