Day 9 of 90: Busy week coming to a close, exams and whatnot, finally get to relax and breath today Have a good day
Day 0. it's funny how after watching porn for a whole week it becomes much less interesting. but then after being abstinent for a whole week porn seems so interesting again. i guess that is all due to brain chemistry.
Wow dude, good explained Hmm.... but which aspects could it be? I will think about it and tell you if I found something
You`re not alone Bro, for most of us it`s a really difficult challenge. And the beginning is the hardest! Keep going and don`t put yourself down!!
Day 88 Woah, yesterday I had a little depressing moment/sad mood. The loneliness, very hard for me. And today I spend the whole time home. My parents and their friends are downstairs, and my friends are all busy and got no time. But I will keep be productive and stay away from porn!
It will help to think about the girl that you are attracted to. What are her qualities? And how do her qualities relate to you?
I had been on my 90 days challenge only. Today i completed 90 day challenge And starting for another 90 day challenge
the problem is not really about 1 usage, 1 pmo. the problem is what´s gonna happen next. do you think you would stop? do you think, "ok, i´m done"? no, in a couple of hours you´ll want more. in the next day you´ll want more, in the next days you´ll still want more. it´s an obsession!!! that´s why it´s called "addiction", because it´s beyond conscious control. don´t fool yourself about this "one" time. this "one" time is not the problem. it never is, never was, never will be.
my practival advice is at 2 levels. first the base level: you got to mentalize yourself why you must do the reboot. you must, it´s not a matter of choice. so during 90 days motivate yourself daily several times. motivate on positive terms (all the benefits of nofap) and negative terms (all the destruction pmo created in your life). the 2º level is the battefield level, the urges. my advice is to keep yourself busy, if you´re engaged in something, the urge will pass, it will pass quickly. however even if you´re not especially engaged in something exciting, let the urge be, don´t do anything about it, just let it be. keep doing whatever you´re doing. an urge is a source of energy, nothing more. no one is pointing a gun to your head, you don´t have to act out on the urge. and everytime you ignore an urge, you´re willpower grows stronger, and the reboot becomes more determinated. go bro
of course, the more days pass, the more the brain will crave for the "fix". just keep going, keep focus.
50 boring moment last night almost lead me to peak some nudes, but i didn´t . in the final moment i realize i was just bored, so i shift my attention to something completely new. "ei i´m gonna listen to hip hop" i knew very little of hip hop music, it´s not really my style of music but i was ready to give it a try. so i listen to tupac and eminem. and eminem has this great song "lose yourself" that the lyrics portraits perfectly what we are going through. "Look If you had One shot Or one opportunity To seize everything you ever wanted In one moment Would you capture it Or just let it slip? (...) You can do anything you set your mind to, man" Onwards my brothers
Start Date: Jan 25, 2019 Day 103/106 no PM (relapsed day 51, 70, 102) Day 4/90 consecutive no PM Day 106 no alcohol or caffeine Day 74 weight training Day 7 meditation - feeling great today as I worked out the issues with my wife from yesterday - JK said I was a "hell maybe" kind of guy which made me a bad fit for the Intensive Reboot Program - he wants only "hell ya" kind of guys so fair enough - I later realized in discussions with my wife that I have been an emotionally on and off "hell maybe" kind of guy in most areas of my life including my marriage - this lead to a "shit or get off the pot" (leave her) type discussion with my wife - this pattern has been with all of my relationships (including friends) as they have all been a roller coaster of being in, then out, in my commitments - I believe this disposition developed is a result of getting fickle conditional love from my parents all of my life - even in my adult years - my dad was emotionally unavailable, aloof and trying to kick my ass out the door as soon as he could and my mother was very smothering in her codependent love which was easily removed if I didn't behave as she wanted (even as an adult) - this taught me to use love as a weapon for control and leverage toward the significant others in my life - after the chat with my wife, I need to be 100% "in" and "hell ya" on my marriage for the rest of our lives together - I am also this way with my nofap journey which is why 4 years later, I have still have not made the 90 day challenge - all good though as it's a messy process of working out emotions and trust issues to get to the point of learning to fully commit to someone or myself in the case of my nofap journey - I have noticed that I increase significantly in commitment to my wife (and friends) when I abstain from PMO and alcohol as I can be more at peace and present in the moment with them - I love my wife and my kids, I just have a hard time keeping that in focus as PMO or alcohol takes it out of focus and numbs me to what I am feeling - hope this helps some married guys out there ... - have a great nofap weekend everyone and stay strong, it's worth it
Hmm... she`s smart, organized, sporty, friendly (maybe too friendly), beautiful I dont know, it`s just like, I like this on her Maybe it´s so because she looks and is nearly EXACTLY like the girl I loved in elementary school. You know this 'children-love' or idk how this is named.
Yeah EMINEM!!^^. I really love his music and you know what funny is? My first song I listened to Hip-Hop was 'Lose yourself' too xD Maybe his film 8 Mile, which is based on this song, could be interesting