sorry to hear bro well, first of all you need emotional education. try to define a relaxation tecnique that you will use when feeling out of balance. when feeling uncentered it´s easy to follow destructive behaviours. when feeling centered it´s easy to follow good routine and good habits. also try to plan your day, morning activities, afternoon, etc. leave all the dopamine stealers (tv, videogames, social media...) for last. that way you will have a productive day, and can have a treat by the end of the day the first days and weeks are the worst, so needless to say that you have to block yourself from dangerous situations. install porn blockers in all your devices, use screens facing exposure, doors open, etc. and of course, don´t be home alone in the first weeks, it´s a recipe for disaster. overall, you need to create a triggers prevention plan. identify your usual triggers, how you usually collapse, and create a countermeasure for them before they constitute a danger. read your triggers prevention plan daily, so that you know and follow it by heart. i hope this helps
Checking in Fellowship Feeling very tired and my legs hurt a lot, but the mood is good. probably there´s some porn dopamine left in my brain Fellowship, i´ve been skipping workouts on the last days because of the body pain and fatigue. do you think i should resume workouts now or wait until i feel better? Have a great day my brothers and sisters . Love you all. Here are the NBA Champions for this season. Congratulations to all the Bucks fans out there
daily checking in Wet dream but there is no chaser effect What we say to the pmo? Not today I love that phrase , i know it is from the wrong universe but i like to share anyways.
Thanks for all the thoughtful responses everyone. And yes, my self care had been going down in tandem with the dating app obsession--I could see it happening but couldn't quite get myself away as I wanted. A lesson learned! The chaser got me early yesterday, but afterwards I did 5 rounds of wim hoff, played guitar, took a cold shower, cleaned the house, and talked at length with two friends. By evening I felt much better, and I was early to bed with a solid night sleep. This morning I woke up and immediately did more breathing, studied chinese, cold shower, and piano. Got a haircut so feeling more put together as well. Getting some work done now, then hiking the dog and playing guitar. I have social plans already made for this afternoon. Getting these self care routines back in place is paramount to surviving these first few days, after which I feel I'll be alright. I also have family coming into town on Sunday so that will be an easy aid to stay clean. Be well everyone, Jaberwaki
You are definitely right that I cannot wait to get my life together. I am back, at 18 hours clean. That is, I have not PMO'd in 2.5 days, but I have fished (with no results, as just as I was about to go search for actual porn, I remembered this deal I made with a fellow addict, though I did MO about an hour later, so I reset my counter). The two days previously, the urges were really strong, and I almost had wet dream this morning, but I woke myself up in time. It seems like the moment I start to distance myself from porn again after a binge, I have a wet dream, or come close to having one, which I suppose means that life is turning around. The urges were really bad the last two days, but today is better. I am sure I will have urges later, but when I make it to 7PM, I will be a day out from when I reset last. Since I will now reset when I fish for 20+ minutes, or if I peek, or if I MO/edge (and I will consider it a relapse if I MO to P), I may have shorter streaks for now (as happens with more rigid standards), but in the long run, I will be better off if I stop before I PMO. Best, Mathman1994
In this case it's a good idea to do light workout with 15-20 reps per set to make the blood moving and helping you in recovery from pains and fatigue( 50-60% max ).
@RiseToGreatness Great Challenge! Count me in! Streak: 13 Days Journey to Mount Doom: 0 Days Status: Nazgul
Day 3 complete! Wish I had more to share, but it was a fairly straightforward day. I didn't have a chance to exercise, but aside from that I did pretty good work on all my personal goals/hobbies.
Day 1. I was feeling hopeless and full of guilt and shame , but my AP recomends me this article who is helping me a lot in this day https://basicideaz.com/shame-and-guilt-and-pornography-addiction/. I think i was feeling so bad because I’m not reaching my goals and now my limit its just 4 days so i wasnt taking seriously these past days like i was expecting to fail anyway with no too much battle, but as I said this article Helped me to understand what i was going through and to be conscious of my weakness and do my battle everyday as a new day.
Because i want to be free of this. No more shame and guilt. Being the master of my mind again and not a slave to the flesh. Day 1 - The Dark Fortress, Barad-dûr.
Thanks. I am just trying to make sure I don't lose some of the habits I've gained, mainly my workout routine. My sleeping pattern is getting a bit off again, but I don't care about that as much. As for PMO I did have a chaser day, but I am back on the horse. This is not even a fraction as difficult as the first day 0 was, so perhaps I did keep some progress. I am noting my triggers and doing what I can to eliminate them from my life where possible.
It was a hard battle, but I've driven them away. I know now how bad it feels to be one of their kind in a way I didn't after spending years as one of them... When it was just normal. I felt really physically terrible yesterday, so I'm going to gun for Orc again right away.
52 days. Some urges in the morning before my day really got started. Then I had a long day of work with very little urges, being focused on the stuff I need to do instead.
I think you should continue your workout as going against routine increases the chances of relapse so maintain your whole day routine. On the break day of workout you must take break and on the day of workout you must not take break for your workout as leaving workout results in increasing urges this further increases chances of relapse so be punctual with your daily routine. Some pain in legs is tolerable but relapse should not be tolerated. BTW the final decision is on you if you feel that you can manage your urges and thoughts you have power then it is good to take rest.