23 y/o No job, no education, no friends and no girlfriend

I'm really sorry to hear you're in a very hard situation, I now 20 years old and never had a girlfriend. Just don't know why but i discover that the longer I stay alone, the bigger I become an awkward man. Different from me in the past... I just want to say, you're not alone, we all have problems, and I think some guys in here will help so much.
Hope you soon out of this depression and think different... Thanks
And sorry for my bad English

 

I'm in the exact same position 22 years old virgin, no job, no education, I'm lost I'm addicted to porn and masturbation, I join no fab to change my life around. Hang in there Brother change don't happen overnight, get out there show your self to the world sitting home is not going to do anything for you.

 

Okay bro, i was where you are in 2014. I discovered nofap during late 2013 which was my first year of college. I totally flunked out and was dismissed from my university. If i was you i would start applying for universities for the fall. If your grades are too poor then apply for community colleges, that's what i did. Start practicing your studies now, check out khanacademy.com You can learn math all the way through basic math too calculus as well as physics, chemistry, biology, and other subjects and it's all totally free. I recomend you read the following books.

1) The Power of Habit

2) 7 Habits of highly effective people.

Start working out too. If you can't afford a gym membership do free weight squats, pushups, and planks. see if you can at least get a pullup bar too. I also advise you too look into volunteer work to get out of the house and do something productive. It will make you feel good and look good on your resume. Call up your local homeless or animal shelter and i'm sure they'd be happy for some help. Let me know if you have any questions and good luck brother. I know you are in an extremely lonely depressed place but you can get out of there.

 

Go home only to sleep, and eat then. Go to the library and become accustomed to spending your free time there until you're in school or have a job.

 

I was in a similar situation once, so here is something I wish I had considered back then: you have too many problems. You cannot deal with all this at the same time.

Focus only on your education, if parents are willing to pay for you to get your diploma. Or, get a job and save money for a year or two. You need to postpone girls and relationships until you are on your path.

The worst thing you could do is play video games all day and waste even more time. Sadly, all the anger, pain and frustration you inevitably accumulate (while ending up and being in this state) - will most likely urge you to play video games or any other escapist behavior.

 

I'm sorry to hear how tough life is for you at the moment. One positive is that you're still trying to improve yourself by doing nofap and that's a great step in the right direction. I personally struggle to react positively when i feel like life is shit but when I do, I get so much confidence in myself for responding to hardship positively. The best thing you can do is think and act positively and if you have negative thoughts just let them pass also trying therapy (if you can)
will definitely help your depression

 

A great life coach told me: 3 things that are proven to stop depression are:

Exercise
Learning
Being kind to people

 

also try power poses: this ted talk explains it well: https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are

 

Man I'm in the exact same situation. Never had a job due to depression, never had a girlfriend, a friend and so on... And what's even more mind blowing is the fact that we have the same age, the only little difference is I still have 22 but in the next 3 months I will turn 23.

 

Hey,

I know this will sound cheesy, I don't even know where to begin. PMO addicition didn't even destroy my life ...it didn't even allow me to have one. I am 26 now and I go through the exact same feelings. I spent the last two weeks fapping compulsively and I realized that while I'm doing that the world is moving and I am becoming dumber and dumber. But today I discovered this new place where guys with the same issues can talk and communicate with each other about this serious problems we are suffering from.

Dude you can do it, you are already inspiring me for going NoFap and I started just today for that.

 

I thought I was the only one with the same situation.

I tried getting a job couple of times before, but I never succeeded. Year after year, I also tried to study for the driver test, but I never got the chance to take it.

I'm 24, by the way. I never even had a girlfriend. Although I did try, when I was back in junior high school, one decade ago. But right now, I only have is one friend (who's a girl) that understands me very well and supports me in everyway, just as much as I support her and love her.

 

It's a relief to me too. I decided to participate in the forum days ago, my dream is to improve and help guys who are going through situations like that.

 

Amen Brother.

 

25 here, no job at the moment and maybe 2 solid friends who are usually busy with their own lives and are distant. I've never had a girl and I used to get anxious all the time but I still find myself clinging to my living space. I know I'm stir crazy so the one thing I do to combat that is go for walks at my closest park. Meditation has helped me collect my thoughts in an organized way instead of chaoticly like in the past. I hope you're still hanging in there day by day.

 

Get a job.
Learn things.
Be nice to people.
Enjoy life.

 

try to go to the gym, build a body and make a photoshoot (it cost around 50dollars).

actually, the photo shoot must be your MAIN OBJECTIVE when you hit the gym, don't be afraid to look at some guy who can pose to aim to do the same

then subscribe to 2 or 3 dating sites, you'll see that girls will come.

during all of that, do nofap no pmo of course

advice:
1. Gym
when you hit the gym, don't do it like "I'll keep it clean or whatever", those guys doesn't know shit. It is impossible to succeed at the gym without food complement and protein. Use supplement, gainer if you need to gain weight or whey if you need to build shape shape and creatine if you need strengh( don't worry, it just for 3 month, smoking is bad for health, people doesn't if their whole life, 3 months is nothing, it is more a cure for you). 3 shakers per day on top of regular meal (one in the morning, one before training and one before going to sleep), train 4 days in the weeks and rest 3 days (muscle get built during the rest part)

2. Photoshoot
try to look natural but always with a smile, you are a cool dude, let us see it, most importantly, let the girls see it. Take confident pose. Make sure, we can see your arm shape, girls love that.

3. Dating site
Subscribe to 2 or 3 dating site, and if you can, pay the premium offer to increase your luck. Use the photo of the photoshoot on your profile, make some more by yourself (outside, inside, in your car...) and most important embrace rejection. I mean, girls rejects, it is normal, it happen to all of us, learn to take it. I guarantee, learning to deal with rejection from girls, is the key.

4. Nofap
going to the gym that often and drinking those shakers will make you tired, just relax in front of movie and have some sleep, your body will be tired, you won't have time to fap

so:

1 - hit the gym for 3 months
2 - do a photoshoot
3 - subscribe to 2 or 3 dating site and use the photos


your are really closed to start having a good life, 3 months, that's all it takes

THE MOST IMPORTANT, THE PHOTOSHOOT IS YOUR MAIN OBJECTIVE. Because seeing yourself in shape and as hot as other guy will increase your confidence when you'll look to your own picture. And you will attract chicks with the pictures.

Keep up man, we are all in the same boat with you.

You can do it

We will all go to Valhalla (where the brave lives ;-)

 

After I got divorced I had nothing going on in my life really. Only one shitty friend.
So I was willing to take any job that I could.
So I got a job as a ditch digger and boy did my life turn around just because of it.
I was able to buy my first car and everything that I needed. I've met some good friends and life really became much better now that I look back.

So if there's a chance for you to take ANY kind of job it might turn your life around as well. You have to start somewhere.