dating

I'm not new to PMO, and I've been trying to recover for the past 6 to 8 months or so. Maybe up to a year, but one of the goals I set for myself was to find a partner. However, I didn't realize how much anxiety this would give me. It's always been a goal of mine to be with someone, but through...

Hey guys, hope you're all doing great. Recently a very close friend of mine who I had a crush on for a while told me she started dating a mutual friend of ours and it was kind of crushing even though for the longest time I had decided I wouldn't attempt anything with her because it's a...

Except for quarantine, how did you find girls to have a relationship with? Did you use Tinder, did you cold approached girls on the street? I just can't find them anywhere and don't even know how to start. It was much easier in summer.

Hello friends! Hope everyone is doing great! One side-effect of being a porn addict is it lowers our self-esteem. This makes dating and getting to know girls (or partners) more challenging.. in my case I think this was a big factor in getting many rejections haha. During my reboot process...

Hey everyone. So I met this girl on Facebook date a day ago. At first she seemed normal and is actually talking to me so that's always a plus. Yesterday as we were further talking, she got into this weird mood and started asking me "So your not looking for serious relationship". I said " I'm...

So hi. I've never posted in this section as I never thought too much about dating. And I won't, again, from now on. Just wanted to express an important thing I just discovered before I left the love game. So I met this guy last December. He was just perfect, the kind of guy I always wanted by...

This may be the wrong place to post this but I've been thinking. I am 13 and I am going to high school next year. This seems like the time a lot of people get girlfriends and boyfriends. But to be honest, this does not seem interesting to me. In fact, I'm not sure I would ever want this. I feel...

Hey guys, I am a 17 year old guy.Lemme tell you a story. So I am 12 and with my friends at school when they started talking about this never heard before thing porn thing, it sounded fairly new and fun but I was religious at that time and abstained from it but eventually I went to my friends...

Hey everyone! I achieved 90 days. After quitting PMOing it's became obvious that I runned from my life problems with compulsive behaviour. But now I'm feeling much smarter and better in self control. Less anxious, however it's not fully fixed. Feeling below normal but much better that I feel...

Let me be frank... jerking off is a wonderful thing. It's relaxing, it's healthy, let's you explore the depths of your sexual fantasies and gives the possibility to resonate with your body. It can be a sensual, spiritual and aleviating experience. In contrast to probably a lot of fellow...

Hello, guys. So, two days ago, I was kinda sad. I was feeling down about getting girls. I've been single for 3 years. In order to alleviate this feeling, I asked some friends if they wanted to hang out. Sadly, none of them were available, so I decided to stay in for the night. One of my friends...

As a disclaimer, I am a Christian and, as a result, I condemn dating for the sake of dating. I believe that dating is essentially a test to see who would make a good partner for life. With this in mind, what characteristics should we look for in a wife besides physical appearance?

I am a 21 year old Indian who started watching porn and masturbating to orgasm since my 7th grade i.e, since 9 years. My life has been devastated since. No 'real' happiness, no 'true' emotions, no 'proper' socializing, no 'focused' work. However, being good at studies I cracked my tough...

I started reading these kinds of manga when I was 15, I was attracted to a boy my age, he was short and feminine, after ogling him for months I realized I couldn't just f*ck him so I started reading those types of manga. I've just realized I like BL because it provides me emotional support, same...

Good morning guys just looking to clear my head here. I started nofap because I have PIED, I am at day 30. I think I am at a flatline maybe? I seem to have no sex drive. The problem is I got hooked on a very specific fap material and now i’m worried my normal attraction to women isn’t coming...

Some month ago a friend here told me he was writing letters to his future wife. Isn't that a wonderful idea? However I haven't done it myself since. So I thought, why not do it here, together with others that are looking for a mate (boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband or simply friend)...

If you can resist porn: great, learn to know women, connect with them, date them, have fun with them, have great sex with them. Ask yourself if you can’t resist porn: Why should a women be with you? Why with you, if you are dishonest, hiding things from her, make her insecure and only see her...

I am girl. we mostly had s., we used to be coworkers then started having s. after we bumped into each other randomly so btw once after s. in his room from the previous night, it was already around 3pm and he said he wanted to watch a football match. i said i would have waited for him in his...

Hey guys, I'm 22 and trying to make a change in my life. I met a beautiful girl we have been dating 5 months now. But we have know each other for a bit over a year. The major objective is marriage. I have been in the past watching porn and manstubating, I wasn't addicted but. After seeing how...

I got shot down today and need advice, will explain but it's kind of a long story sorry. My confidence is through the roof with having avoided PMO for the last few weeks. I have had several promising encounters with women recently and I believe my intentions are as pure as they come (for a man...

Seriously. It's a thing that's happening. I don't have many dating options where I am now, and with COVID-19, it's impossible to go out and meet anyone in person, not that I did well with that before. And apparently, people are using that game as a dating platform now, of all things. So what...

I have found that my social skills get a LOT better when I've been off the PMO for several weeks, but I'm curious how much worse they REALLY are after relapse. Does anyone feel that their social skills took a serious dive after relapse? Curious about your stories especially after breaking long...

I will tell my story as short as possible. I am 19 years old. I am addicted to masturbating. I don't watch porn.I masturbate imagining stuff. I don't really remember when I started it. But it must at-least be around 5 years. Recently I got committed with a girl. I really love her. I have been...

Hello, I am guessing the question on most peoples minds might be, how long after not doing any PMO until it is good to start dating? I am a Christian, so this might have an effect on the way I feel about it. I do know that I want to be completely pure for my future wife. Though, I know the...

I'm here back on Day 21. I want to share my opinion about rebooting in a relationship. Personally, If you want to get ride of your addiction, you have to leave all triggers and dating can be a trigger always for an addicted person. Personally, I have also left my online dating partner, because...

So like the title says, I'm back in the dating scene and I'm hoping I can find someone and see where it goes. The issue is I have severe PIED and don't get morning wood. I've been in flatline for 3 months and nothing! What do I do? Let's face it, being honest about this and struggling to get...

So like I said in another posted, I did a sun up to sundown fast the past few days. It turned out to be mostly a disaster but I did get one good thing out of it. I was feeling a little delusional on Thursday after work and on my way home decided to stop by this store where I met a young lady a...

TURBO BLOGS: #Dating PUA doesn’t work , idea of "power” does Dating is a battle for "power" and is essential for our instincts. This is not power over the opposite sex, but rather your internal self power and how you internalize it or externalize it to gain dates. All relationships with women...

Turbo(TBO) here, I'm going to help all of you young single guys out. I'm a married 28 year old man and I've gathered some knowledge about women that will definitely help you out. Keep a realistic and open mindset here. Most of the time women speak in codes to men. Here is a list of codes and...

I got a girl number from my friend and i want to date this girl But i have this question on mind Should i date and have relationship with her or should i finish the reboot first I am confused i am kinda scared that i will relapse due to that Should i date or finish my reboot and text her...

Hello Everyone, I wanted to get the communities thoughts on using male enhancement pills like, V,S Etc. I spoke to my doctor about my PIED and he actually prescribed me the generic version of a popular male enhancement pill. I am 23 and by all means should not have to be using these types of...

Hey guys, first of all, I am german, so pardon my english. I got several question about sex during NoFap: 1. isn't it unfavorable, when you date a girl and it comes to sex, to be on NoFap since you gonna finish WAY earlier than normal? Also, in my opinion, the smell of semen isn't quite...

Hope this belongs in this forum. I'm on day 10 and I'm struggling to keep going with PMO so I'm on here trying to distract myself. I was dating this girl a few years older than me and I ended up telling her about my porn addiction. She was surprisingly calm about it and didn't care too much...

Hey guys, I'm currently researching for a personal study. I would highly appreciate it, if you would answer the following questions. 1. What are your biggest challenges when it comes to meeting other women (approaching & dating)? 2. What are your biggest fears when it comes to approach a...

I am a 28 year old woman. i have been sober since a year and a half (stopped watching p). my first reboot that lasted a year started few months after this ex guy left me 3 years ago. he left me for another girl that started dating at least 2 months before he left me officially. she became a gf...

Hello, I'm in my early 20's right now, I wasn't active in the dating game for the past years. Now I just feel that I need to get my shit together. In my younger years I kinda didn't have any problems. But now when I meet new girls I'm unsure how to act with them anymore.. So kinda weird...

Hey everyone I have an off topic discussion that is kind rattling my mind lately. Recently there is this woman at work that I find very attractive and she is kind of a bigger woman.. Every so often she changes her hair color and style and I want to give her compliments or something. She has an...

I don't know what this posts point is but i just feel like telling this. Decided to open up here. First post, 25 days in. So this girl and i have been talking for close to a week. Ended asking her over to my place. Our chats been fairly normal with a bit of flirting, right? I definitely...

RECENTLY, I've been seeing a girl who I met at a gym and fitness classes. We spoke to each other and got on well. Exchanged numbers and met up a couple of times. Yesterday, she flaked on me not once but TWICE on the same day. I kept my cool with her, but ultimately lost (some) respect for her...

I’ve been having a lot of sex these past few weeks but my erection strength varies and has lost some strength. Is this normal in the recovery process? Around day 90, I had sex successfully with a reliable and strong erection. That week, I was having reliable and strong erections with multiple...

So about a week after my reboot started I met a girl and soon after we really hit it off. I like her, she like's me but we're both kind of getting over someone so it'll be a slow ride before we can think of being "official". Granted I need that slow ride. So my last gf was basically a human sex...

Hello Gentlemen, Disclaimer: everything between the stars is sarcastic. This post must not be followed literally, the goal is to beat the cycle of madness (RELAPSES) and live free. ********************************************************************* This is a comprehensive list to help you...

I'm currently on day 5, so no big achievement in terms of abstinence but I think I've hit a personal breakthrough that I wanted to share here. I went on a binging period of about 2 weeks before the beginning of September, and was feeling hopeless about not having enough will to get rid of this...

So I firstly want to say that this is a bit of a success story, but I am also a bit lost so I was looking for some advice. I am over 2 months PMO free and this is my longest streak ever. It’s been an amazing period, I’ve connected with people better and life is good! I would never be in this...

Have you read the popular Christian youth-leader favorite book? “I kissed dating goodbye”? Josh Harris... I not only read it eagerly but also recommended it to many friends when I or they were considering getting married. I’m Crushed to hear the author (I assume who is now rich and famous)...

Hullo mothafappers, So am in my 100+ day (I abandoned my counter) and I love the confidence I have developed. But then all the while I did not date nor hit up on any lady. I have lost the vibe and no longer recall a thing about sexting and shit. I feel ladies show me the green but then am timid...

First of all I'm talking about romantic love, between a couple not a family or parental kind of love. Everyone has a different perspective about Love some people think it does exist and you have to look for it and try different relationships, others think that love comes with time, the more...

been working at new job for 2 weeks now. i am a 27 years old girl. i insulted last guy i dated in order to hurt him because he told me he didn't feel the urge to see me but didn't hate and kept always replying to me in a nice way but i wanted at least to stay friends as we were after he dumped...

So long story short I have been talking to a girl I studied with like 4 years ago and I really enjoy talking to her it's like you can't feel the time anymore even if I am tired I keep responding to her messages . My only problem is that I am on a very good streak of nofap and I'm afraid that...

I've come to realise that the most important aspect of trying to make positive changes to your life is to have a routine. It's not about doing something to an extreme and suddenly achieving amazing results. It's about consistent regular action. If something is worth doing, it's probably worth...

Rejection is a bit like getting a physical injury, like spraining your ankle. Ouch! There's that pain I've felt many times before, then a soreness that fades away with time. But this is how life goes. Injuries happen, both physical and emotional. And we have to be able to deal with them, then...

he told me "At the beginning I thought there could be something between us, but there wasn't". I dated this guy for about a month and we had s. twice. i had a feeling for the first time in my life that someone i was intimate with was opening up to me (he showed me after 1st s. album of photos of...

How do you feel about dating multiple people, or dating someone who is dating other people? I remember last year I messaged a woman on POF, telling her that I thought we looked like a great match. She replied saying that she agreed but that she had just struck up a conversation with another guy...

So I've just dated this guy once. We've appointed 3 times, he has not come two if them because in one his brother had an epileptic episode and in the other he had a car accident and his friend broke one arm and several ribs. At least that's what he says. He doesn't have a cellphone number and I...

Hey Ladies and gentleman. I have been struggling some time now with dating on rebooting or just in spite of making connections with woman. I have been online dating ever since the middle of last year and now I'm thinking of taking a break. I've had countless occurrences where I am meeting a...

Hi I could do with some urgent advice. I’m 35 years old and have been fapping to porn since I was 14. I have had sex with a couple of women but i’m not very experienced. My brain is also programmed to get off on porn rather than a real woman so in the bedroom I find it very difficult to sustain...

Hi all I’m now day 14 of nofap. Does anyone else not feel any sexual urges while rebooting? I think I have depression as well which could also be the cause of this as well I guess flat line Just wondered if anyone else felt like this?

Next weekend I've got two dates planned for the same day! For nearly a month I've had a date planned with one particular woman for next Saturday at 11 am. Now I've just scored a date with a different woman for 3 pm the same day! I've never had this happen before. I've had a couple of times...

Hi! So I managed to create many date oportunities with females from Tinder. Ive been to lets say 15 dates since this new year. Many times, I did not feel much attraction to them, but sometimes I did, and I was never able to seal the deal. Im 36yo. Now... last two girls told me the same...

This is a classic question, of course, but the answer is unclear to me. I've been hung up on this woman for a while now and I want to decide whether I should risk asking her out or whether I should just move on. I've decided that I want to date during my reboot, so my choices seem to be to...

These are just the things I personally find off-putting. You might disagree of course. Too much makeup - I don't know why some women feel the need to cake so much makeup on. Once it gets past the point that it looks natural it has a negative impact on their appearance. Fake eyebrows - what is...

I don't date very often. Lack of confidence/opportunity. A couple of years ago, I started seeing a girl and our first time in bed was a horrific experience. I couldn't maintain an erection (porn induced ED) and the fallout was about as bad as it gets. Of course she took it as a slight against...

Even though online dating is much more common than it used to be, there still seem to be people who don't like it or who view it as the last resort for people who fail at finding a partner any other way. I would like to put forward my view that the opposite should be the case, that online dating...

So, I was browsing my matches on POF and I came across a woman with a shaven head. I actually thought she looked rather nice. I sometimes like women with short hair anyway. The thing is, though, she was looking for a guy to shave his head too! I have mid length hair and I rather like it that...

Due to many deep personal issues, I refrained from dating for all of my teens and honestly regret it a little but not in a major way. Like a slow poison of sorts working its way and festering in my mind to the point where I feel I can't ignore it anymore. I will be 22 in a few months, when I'm...

I've been using Tinder on and off for nearly a year, and Bumble for a few months. I've had some dates through Tinder, but none through Bumble yet (but I have had matches and messages). One thing I've realised, though, is that the longer you are on these apps, the fewer matches you get. It seems...

Back in November I started going to an improv group once a week, and it's turned into one of the most fun things I do each week. There is a woman there who helps run it, and she is a lot of fun, with a lot of energy. The 2nd time I met her there (in January), she was touching me a lot on the...

so two days ago I was talking with this girl I know and I got the idea that I wanted to ask her on a date. She said she’d be fine with. I asked if she’d be interested in meeting up in our spare time and she said yes. Later when at home I texted her a date and time that I wanted to take her out...

Hi everyone, it's been a while since I've been on the forums but my NoFap battle has still been going. My personal record, ever since starting NoFap, was 10 days which I believe is a good start as that number is a double digit but I believe I can do better. Usually, people who give advice on the...

When I swipe on Tinder, I see a lot of beautiful women. Some of them look perfect, actually. Some of them I think, "Wow, if I had her then that would be amazing! I would lick stuff off her body and everything..." But most of them are out of my league. And it makes it difficult. It makes the...

I see a lot of women on dating sites who say they are looking for friends. Some only want to be friends, whereas others are looking for a long-term romantic relationship but want to start as just friends. Now, I have no problem with just being friends with the opposite gender. It's fine if...

This happened when I wasn't doing NoFap, so I have put it in the off-topic section. Last autumn I matched with a woman on POF. My opening line was about Twin Peaks because I saw on her profile that she was into that. So then a series of long messages back-and-forth happened, mainly about Twin...

Hey, all. I've been out of the dating arena for a long while, and I thought I might try it out now that I'm more grounded in who I am and what I want. So, I need to know some high level, professional dating advice.... When do I deploy the winky face to a girl? Disclaimer: We've been on two...

Would it have a detrimental, or positive effects, to engage in foreplay with your SO (eg. Oral sex on her, fingering her, her giving me Hand J etc.), everything except penetrative sex, while on a 90 day reboot? Or is it best to only pleasure her and avoid stimulation for myself? On day 12 of...

Ive heard somewhere that when we pay attention for counting days on NoFap.. we might eventually giveup and relapse on PMO.. so is that better to not count days or do i get some motivation through keeping track record on NOFAP journey?? please help me out guys, im expecting for serious and...

Well i know that we could overcome addiction, save lot of time from procastination.. also we do feel motivated, sometimes we see different perspective of opposite sex rather than physical objectification "sex" so whats the other and overall benefitial reason to follow NoFap and some set of...

Hence ive no privilege to hang out with friends that much.. i used to learn alot regarding computers, and ive been took bunch of online courses yet.. so i would like to find a short time compagnionship with a girl.. is that possible to make some relationship through online??