150 Days - Feels like a head replacement

Igaleksus said:
Great post, bro. Really motivating.
Click to expand...

Thanks man!

Seeker401 said:
Great post! Thanks for sharing and inspiring. It's stories like yours that make me want to continue on what can, at times, feel like a dark path.
Click to expand...

You'll find the way, just keep pushing forward!

sknnyjns said:
Hey man congratulations on your 150 days! Thats a massive achievement. What would you say is the biggest difference you noticed between 90 and 150 days?
Click to expand...

Thanks man! very appreciated! I would say the main difference it's a more pure chain of thoughts and feelings. I feel very connected with the people that surround me and the feelings I've got towards them are more palpable and real than before, where I would have a mess inside my head about sex, fears and insecurities.
It's very relaxing to feel this way. All my problems seem less important and more manageable. This quietness makes me feel happier overall.

SanityOverVanity said:
This sounds all too familiar. And the stuff about being truly happy, honestly it's surreal. Blissful almost.
I recently realised that feeling is the absence of the usual shame and guilt I'd feel during PMO. Since shame and guilt are now gone it's just serenity.
Well done dude, keep pushing.
Click to expand...

Thanks man, really appreciated!. and yes! that's a beautiful way to put it. The lack of shame and guilt is a huge factor in having peace of mind and it contributes a lot feeling happier overall. I'm glad we're on the same page here!
 
donmeshwime said:
I'm willing to push, man. I really am.

But to be very honest, I barely saw any "benefits".

I felt like I was torturing myself for no reason. Even my exams suffered because of nofap :/

I wish there was some kind of rock solid proof that nofap works.....

The success stories don't quite cut it for me anymore.
Click to expand...

Today was my 28th day without PMO. I didn't notice huge benefits eather so far to be honest, but what i noticed is that will power definitely increased.
I had orgasm today while having sex with my gf. I'm not desperate because of that but i am 10000% sure if i would be able to control that and having sex without orgasm, my will power would be even stronger.
Don't expect anything. Just do it and be a proof for yourself when you will feel benefits.
IF (and i really doubt that) you won't notice any benefits after 2 or 3 months it means that PMO don't effect you in bad way.
Like i said, i didn't notice much benefits eather but it is absurd to expect some huge benefits after a month. It would be too easy.
Keep pushing man, keep pushing.
 
WeWillMakeIt said:
Today was my 28th day without PMO. I didn't notice huge benefits eather so far to be honest, but what i noticed is that will power definitely increased.
I had orgasm today while having sex with my gf. I'm not desperate because of that but i am 10000% sure if i would be able to control that and having sex without orgasm, my will power would be even stronger.
Don't expect anything. Just do it and be a proof for yourself when you will feel benefits.
IF (and i really doubt that) you won't notice any benefits after 2 or 3 months it means that PMO don't effect you in bad way.
Like i said, i didn't notice much benefits eather but it is absurd to expect some huge benefits after a month. It would be too easy.
Keep pushing man, keep pushing.
Click to expand...

If you say so, man.
 
donmeshwime said:
If you say so, man.
Click to expand...
SanityOverVanity said:
He's right. It's a proven fact. The longer you stay off PMO the more benefits you yourself will notice without anyone needing to tell you.

It's like giving up beer because you want abs. Sure that's a step in the right direction but you've got a lot more work to do other than just giving up the beer.
Click to expand...

Yeah I agree! leaving porn is just the first step, that will allow you to modify and improve your life without the burden of being completely messed up by porn and it's mindfucks.
Let go of porn, then make an effort to improve your life by reconnecting with what you love and the people you like spending time with.
 
@donmeshwime If you don't see any benefits for yourself personally, maybe it can help to broaden your perspective?

Porn demeans and objectifies women and might give unrealistic expectations on what to expect in bed. It harms women because they are being held to impossible standards (men also!).
Porn makes you less available. Porn causes you to run from the things in your life that need to be addressed. Porn causes shame and self-hatred. Porn takes up valuable time that you could invest in something that's actually good for you i.e. exercising, reading, going out and seeing new places, studying a new language, practising new skills that might land you a higher-paying, more satisfying job, meeting friends, seeing interesting new movies, walks in nature, meditation, etc.

Everytime you say no to pmo, you say yes to something else, something better.

If all else fails, would you really want to engage in something that is addictive and makes you a slave to your own brain? Wouldn't you prefer to retain your freedom and independence and take charge of your life?
 
Lily White said:
@donmeshwime If you don't see any benefits for yourself personally, maybe it can help to broaden your perspective?

Porn demeans and objectifies women and might give unrealistic expectations on what to expect in bed. It harms women because they are being held to impossible standards (men also!).
Porn makes you less available. Porn causes you to run from the things in your life that need to be addressed. Porn causes shame and self-hatred. Porn takes up valuable time that you could invest in something that's actually good for you i.e. exercising, reading, going out and seeing new places, studying a new language, practising new skills that might land you a higher-paying, more satisfying job, meeting friends, seeing interesting new movies, walks in nature, meditation, etc.

Everytime you say no to pmo, you say yes to something else, something better.

If all else fails, would you really want to engage in something that is addictive and makes you a slave to your own brain? Wouldn't you prefer to retain your freedom and independence and take charge of your life?
Click to expand...

Completely agree!
 
SanityOverVanity said:
He's right. It's a proven fact. The longer you stay off PMO the more benefits you yourself will notice without anyone needing to tell you.

It's like giving up beer because you want abs. Sure that's a step in the right direction but you've got a lot more work to do other than just giving up the beer.
Click to expand...

I like the beer analogy. Guess I'll give it another shot.
 
thel00ker said:
Well I've been thinking about what to write next, after my 90 days post I just tried to pay attention towards how my life was playing out and I think this is the first time I feel this kind of happiness.

This week, I had to study a lot, gave my last 2 finals on thursday. Now i'm an architect.

This last month I officially introduced the girl I was dating to my parents, the rest of my family and all my friends. Now I can call her my girlfriend, the first one I ever had.

I also went on small trip to the west of my beautiful country with her and another couple of our age, we camped it the middle of the mountains in one of the best nights of my life.

On this trip I reconnected with photography, my strongest passion and understood that it is something that I never have to give up.

I'm having a lot of sex, with someone I really trust and it's the most fun and intimate I've been with someone of the opposite gender, it's beautiful. Sex with my girlfriend improves each day.

I had a crazy party with all my university friends who graduated with me, here I invited my long time school friends. Both groups came together and had a great time.

I had a lot of people come to me and tell me how much they appreciate me and told me how valuable I am, lifting my soul and spirit. I've also had the courage to tell them how much I value them, and how much I love all my friends.

I'm feeling very connected with my body, with my emotions, good and bad. And it's been amazing to express my happiness and let myself feel pain. Both emotions burn brighter than ever. In the most beautiful way.

I'm feeling very excited about my future. Where to go next, what to do with myself.

In times of great tension, before I would crawl into my bedroom with my computer to masturbate and try to forget, I now just feel great tension and nervousness, what I'm supposed to feel, and it's fantastic.

Going through life feels like a rollercoaster. Emotionally it's real, pure. My feelings are as strong as ever. I feel young.

The year is ending, before I would start thinking about a way to fix my life, how to stop porn use, how to quiet my mind, "another year flies by". Now I proud to say that 2017 was one of my best years and I cannot say that I didn't enjoy the hell out of it.

Christmas is coming, due to my losses it was always a very painful holiday, Now i'm looking forward to it, thinking about how to enjoy my family and friends.

I feel confident about my body and about my personality, I can now be almost naked in front of anybody and not be conscious about it.

Most importantly I forgot what porn was all about. I don't miss it, I sometimes crave it, but those thoughts fire up so weakly that I cannot understand what I was thinking about before.

I could speak for hours about each thing, but it's too much. I just can't understand how much of my life changed in so little time. 150 days without porn, and now I can't even recognize myself. I look in the mirror and feel proud.

I wish I could go back and give myself a taste of this feeling. I'm sure that it would convince me to just quit for real and in a number of days start feeling life like never before.

Good luck everyone, wish you the best. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.
Click to expand...
After reading this one, I feel more compelled to continue my fight towards PMO, this post has filled me with the prowess to complete my mission of 180 days in the coming year. I love your post man...!!
 
thel00ker said:
Well I've been thinking about what to write next, after my 90 days post I just tried to pay attention towards how my life was playing out and I think this is the first time I feel this kind of happiness.

This week, I had to study a lot, gave my last 2 finals on thursday. Now i'm an architect.

This last month I officially introduced the girl I was dating to my parents, the rest of my family and all my friends. Now I can call her my girlfriend, the first one I ever had.

I also went on small trip to the west of my beautiful country with her and another couple of our age, we camped it the middle of the mountains in one of the best nights of my life.

On this trip I reconnected with photography, my strongest passion and understood that it is something that I never have to give up.

I'm having a lot of sex, with someone I really trust and it's the most fun and intimate I've been with someone of the opposite gender, it's beautiful. Sex with my girlfriend improves each day.

I had a crazy party with all my university friends who graduated with me, here I invited my long time school friends. Both groups came together and had a great time.

I had a lot of people come to me and tell me how much they appreciate me and told me how valuable I am, lifting my soul and spirit. I've also had the courage to tell them how much I value them, and how much I love all my friends.

I'm feeling very connected with my body, with my emotions, good and bad. And it's been amazing to express my happiness and let myself feel pain. Both emotions burn brighter than ever. In the most beautiful way.

I'm feeling very excited about my future. Where to go next, what to do with myself.

In times of great tension, before I would crawl into my bedroom with my computer to masturbate and try to forget, I now just feel great tension and nervousness, what I'm supposed to feel, and it's fantastic.

Going through life feels like a rollercoaster. Emotionally it's real, pure. My feelings are as strong as ever. I feel young.

The year is ending, before I would start thinking about a way to fix my life, how to stop porn use, how to quiet my mind, "another year flies by". Now I proud to say that 2017 was one of my best years and I cannot say that I didn't enjoy the hell out of it.

Christmas is coming, due to my losses it was always a very painful holiday, Now i'm looking forward to it, thinking about how to enjoy my family and friends.

I feel confident about my body and about my personality, I can now be almost naked in front of anybody and not be conscious about it.

Most importantly I forgot what porn was all about. I don't miss it, I sometimes crave it, but those thoughts fire up so weakly that I cannot understand what I was thinking about before.

I could speak for hours about each thing, but it's too much. I just can't understand how much of my life changed in so little time. 150 days without porn, and now I can't even recognize myself. I look in the mirror and feel proud.

I wish I could go back and give myself a taste of this feeling. I'm sure that it would convince me to just quit for real and in a number of days start feeling life like never before.

Good luck everyone, wish you the best. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.
Click to expand...
I'm glad to see another member on NoFap has made it to the "promised land." Good job bro!
 
donmeshwime said:
I like the beer analogy. Guess I'll give it another shot.
Click to expand...

Go for it man!

HashMachine said:
After reading this one, I feel more compelled to continue my fight towards PMO, this post has filled me with the prowess to complete my mission of 180 days in the coming year. I love your post man...!!
Click to expand...

I'm glad! I know this post mentions a lot of circumstantial stuff that seems unrelated to the nofap journey, but without NoFap these achievements in life would have been corrupted by this addiction and transformed into a constan axious state. Keep going man, your life will change for the better!

Clean Plate said:
I'm glad to see another member on NoFap has made it to the "promised land." Good job bro!
Click to expand...

I'm glad to be here man! thanks for the support!

vibemaker said:
What a beautiful post! Thanks for sharing :)
Click to expand...

I'm glad! thank you!
 
THEdally_llama said:
Congratulations man. I hope it's made all the difference. I can't wait to see how I am after 150 days. Thanks for the motivation.
Click to expand...

Hey man! thanks!
Be patient and enjoy the ride! reach to 7 days first...then 10, 15 etc etc! take your time and don't rush the process. The improvements will come when you least expect them.
Good luck man! wish you the best!
 
thel00ker said:
Well I've been thinking about what to write next, after my 90 days post I just tried to pay attention towards how my life was playing out and I think this is the first time I feel this kind of happiness.

This week, I had to study a lot, gave my last 2 finals on thursday. Now i'm an architect.

This last month I officially introduced the girl I was dating to my parents, the rest of my family and all my friends. Now I can call her my girlfriend, the first one I ever had.

I also went on small trip to the west of my beautiful country with her and another couple of our age, we camped it the middle of the mountains in one of the best nights of my life.

On this trip I reconnected with photography, my strongest passion and understood that it is something that I never have to give up.

I'm having a lot of sex, with someone I really trust and it's the most fun and intimate I've been with someone of the opposite gender, it's beautiful. Sex with my girlfriend improves each day.

I had a crazy party with all my university friends who graduated with me, here I invited my long time school friends. Both groups came together and had a great time.

I had a lot of people come to me and tell me how much they appreciate me and told me how valuable I am, lifting my soul and spirit. I've also had the courage to tell them how much I value them, and how much I love all my friends.

I'm feeling very connected with my body, with my emotions, good and bad. And it's been amazing to express my happiness and let myself feel pain. Both emotions burn brighter than ever. In the most beautiful way.

I'm feeling very excited about my future. Where to go next, what to do with myself.

In times of great tension, before I would crawl into my bedroom with my computer to masturbate and try to forget, I now just feel great tension and nervousness, what I'm supposed to feel, and it's fantastic.

Going through life feels like a rollercoaster. Emotionally it's real, pure. My feelings are as strong as ever. I feel young.

The year is ending, before I would start thinking about a way to fix my life, how to stop porn use, how to quiet my mind, "another year flies by". Now I proud to say that 2017 was one of my best years and I cannot say that I didn't enjoy the hell out of it.

Christmas is coming, due to my losses it was always a very painful holiday, Now i'm looking forward to it, thinking about how to enjoy my family and friends.

I feel confident about my body and about my personality, I can now be almost naked in front of anybody and not be conscious about it.

Most importantly I forgot what porn was all about. I don't miss it, I sometimes crave it, but those thoughts fire up so weakly that I cannot understand what I was thinking about before.

I could speak for hours about each thing, but it's too much. I just can't understand how much of my life changed in so little time. 150 days without porn, and now I can't even recognize myself. I look in the mirror and feel proud.

I wish I could go back and give myself a taste of this feeling. I'm sure that it would convince me to just quit for real and in a number of days start feeling life like never before.

Good luck everyone, wish you the best. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.
Click to expand...
Lovely post. Hope 2018 is even better for you!
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top