35 and Older Accountability Group

I'm in! Thanks

PEACE

 

i keep track of about 20 super small daily habits and post them on my fridge, and try to update each checkbox daily. Stuff that will be easy to keep up with for months. washing 1 dish a day,oatmeal, learning sql functions 1 minute, track food. having it on paper makes it more tangible.

 

Made it to 2 days a few days after my longest record lately of about 5 days. At home and in bed. Feels good not to PMO. Can't waste the energy so often and it gets me nowhere. Would be better off doing practically anything else.

 

Checking in with 83 days without porn images, and of course nofap. I had some trouble this week due to an experience on Saturday night that has kind of rocked me. For the sake of privacy---this is the Internet after all---I need to spare you the details, and don't worry... everything is fine. But now I'm faced squarely with the fact that my difficulties with impulse control have been serious, and could, in a heartbeat, threaten everything that is good in my life. I listened to audible erotica on Tuesday until I realized I was just acting out, and it's stupid.

On the plus side, the experience had shown me the way in which I'd like to work on improving my marriage.

Thanks for reading.

 

A major key to Nofap and life in general.

 

checking in, better day that yesterday, hopefully tomorrow will be better than today. Its a great day w/o PMO

 

Checking in at 3 days which is a decent streak for me. Things feel better this way. hope it's ok to keep posting. was struggling with buiilding any streak whatsoever.

 

I'm new to this accountability group. I appreciate the support. This is my first post in the group.

This is my 2nd solid effort with nofap and I want to make this last. Real accountability was missing on my 1st run 2 years ago, and I know that the support can be a solid boost.

Thanks for allowing me to be a part of it.

PEACE

 

Thanks for wishing me luck but don't underestimate me - I am a soldier and I will persist. There was a number of reasons for deleting my account, including being (or rather feeling) offended by a few remarks of yours (like that one where you suggested that porn might hold educational value for women) and of other men here on NoFap which made me feel like a bit outta place here as a female, and I noticed I started lurking here more instead of doing something more productive. So I quitted. And actually, after some time I made a few meaningful insights for myself about being easily offended and escaping such emotions as anger - this "delete" was actually me escaping anger or rather constructive expression of it. So I am really grateful for you teaching me about my inner demons and learning more about them. Also, I don't know whether you will read this post but if you do - please also reflect on the issue of pride after reaching high streak because that's the kind of vibration I felt from you and I also heard from my acquaintance who is now on day 58 that this pride is a risky thing.

Anyway, I want to re-introduce myself to other members here. After my relapse I quit this site but I did not quit my PMO free journey so today marks day 34. May I be added to waiting list once again if that's not against the rules?

 

well, last night i kept having thoughts of past sex, so I did masturbate. So I've changed my goal to just abstain from porn. I know its a slippery slope, but if i can keep the M to once every couple of weeks, and do it to real memories (not fantasies) I think i can still accomplish the goal i set out to do, which is to rid my life of porn, and all the unrealistic, abusive, self-destructive depictions of sex it perpetuates.

 

OK thanks. I took a break from all social media and youtube but I used to get valuable insights from here so I returned - but I will monitor time spent here.

 

Just felt like checking in. Ended up being with someone last night. It felt really good because of avoiding PM more lately, but also felt just physical and don't feel good it. wondering if i should change goal back to PMO. Seems like for now i'll keep it at PM and will keep PMO goal in mind to start fairly soon.

 

You mean casual sex? For me, my last hookup experience led me to saying no to things like that as that guy just ghosted me afterwards and at some time later offended me while being drunk so I decided not to waste myself on guys like that and on casual sex in general - physical release is great but it is so much more pleasant when it's not only physical connection. I read somewhere that casual sex is no more than just mutual masturbation - using another's body for your own instant gratification. Amen to that.

 

We didn't call it casual, but that's what it is. I keep having this feeling that if only i find someone really beautiful to have sex with, things will be awesome. I end up never being serious with anyone. I like the comparison to mutual masturbation.

 

I"m feeling a little "cleaner" having PM'd much less last couple of weeks. have some guilt over the casual sex last night. Feels like i'm wasting time in other ways that nearly cancel out the time benefit, but gain in other ways. it's nicer not watching P and M. Will try to check in with sreak going by tomorrow.