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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by 2525, Oct 27, 2017.
Day 16 Keep going guys )
Keep reminding yourself why you’re doing this, and how well abstination makes you feel. We need to stay vigilant, which might be the hardest part of this journey, but very necessary.
I agree with you on this "i dont want to be free from porn for this x no. of days . I want to be free from PMO and espically Porn for my entire life" .
The system of days counting is not out of place, and its the best approach for many of us.
Let me tell you my story. I started PMing in September 2009, that's over a decade now. On so many occassions I had decided in my head to stop PM... especially maybe after listening to a preacher, or to a motivational speaker. But this fire just fizzles out after 2 or 3 days. I could never go 7 days stretch without fap. I signed up on Nofap late last year, took on the 30days challenge, and for the first time I could withstand the urge for 30days. Yea, I had a brief relapse afterward, but I quickly picked myself up, this time with even more determination. So I signed up for 90days. As at today, I have been clean for 41/90 days. I dont even find myself counting days often anymore. Work is getting done, My productivity level on todoist is 76%, the highest I've ever reached.
So, I believe its all about setting mini-goals and working hard to achieve them. Our ultimate goal is to stop PM totally, but attempting to stop at once is not easy. Instead, taking baby steps is a better approach in my opinion.
I agree with your opinion sir . This habit didnt developed in few days , it took months, years , and for some one like me it took an entire decade to get build . And one cannot simply get rid of this habit in few days but as we keep on counting days , we make our mind remember that dude you are still and addict and its only been this 'X' no. of days that you are free from porn .
For someone who are at their 2 or 5 days would be easy to quit at that same moment because they are not that far from 0 level. And they think that it will took lots of efforts and will power to reach day xxx , therefore at that moment instead of fighting they think that giving in to temptation is much easy and they relapse .
For someone who are at their streak of lets say more than 21 days , the counting habit of these free from porn days will work up to a limit then the stress and fear will start growing . What will happen now ? It took me 21 or more days to achieve this and reach here ? I may not be able to come this far again in my entire life if i will quit now ? I deserve a orgasm , i have controlled myself for 21 days , i deserve to watch porn today . It will make no harm , i can control it , i am a man . It wont reset all the benefits that i got till now .?
And by encouraging all these kinds of thoughts we go into multi relapses , the habit which just started to get build will soon fall back and we all will be at level 0 again. Therefore as per my point of view and experience i think this counting of days free from porn is a myth and majority of people here follow the same path instead of focusing on their journey of recovery they only and only focus on the no. of days . And our mind is monkey , just entertain his 1 bad thought and the consequences are total disaster .
Day 80 checking in
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It’s funny how @sammyjiji and @ZORROW both start by seeing they agree with the other, but then say the opposite thing
But of course, both are right: counting Nofap days is a good way to bring focus to our quitting porn and it gives us something to be proud of in ourselves. But it can never be just this, we have to do more, because otherwise we will fall in the pitfalls that counting days definitely has as well. It’s a start, but not enough in itself.
Day 7. Trust the process.
8 days finished, 82 more to go
Damn it, I feel I'm slipping again this week, really bending the rules, looking at stuff that I tell myself is okay and just touching myself a little, but I know it's not and I really can't do that. I have to be more strict. And I have to stop running away from the uneasiness that is making me want to escape in the first place. Exercise some self-love, not physical but spiritual and unconditional. And I can't wait with doing that until it's too late.
78/90 I've been busy all day, I didn't even think about PM. I have a similar schedule tomorrow, so I'm not afraid of relapse.
44 days my brothers
Day 23/90! Equalled my previous longest streak! Getting better and happier!
Hey, keep fighting...
Well, I have tried without counting many many times. It didn't work either. I'm not arguing, but counting is a good idea. By the way it's not only counting, it's also getting support from others...
81 days. Whatever day you may be on, you can do another day. Don't give up, not ever. Never never never.
We can win this fight, friends. We can move towards a more positive life. It is OUR choice. Stupid, phony pixels on the internet do not control us. They are not real and have zero value. They mean nothing and we need not seek them out.
WE decide how we want to spend our time. WE decide how we want to relate to women. WE decide how we want to build our futures. I don't care if you're on day 0 or day 22 or day 89, just do another day, brothers. You can do it!