I wanted to do no nut November but only lasted 7-8 days until I ended up masturbating. Last day I masturbated was Nov.10, I told myself I would stop masturbating and hit the gym again. Because few months ago I wanted to hook up with a chick from high school, she came over (I was 3 weeks no masturbating) but it was hard for me to get hard or stay hard after eating her out, kissing, fingering all that good stuff. It took me a while, she gave me head and I was pretty hard but not rock hard, 2-4 mins I felt like busting, I told her to wait then when I told her to get on top she sat down once and I busted. I was really nervous cause 1. she was the second girl I’d been with sexually, 2. I’ve been masturbating since elementary school (21 now) so maybe I had death grip or whatever it’s called. Maybe my brain is used to masturbating and not dealing with the real thing. Anyways I use that as motivation but it’s sucks cause I really wanted to fuck her. So on Nov. 11 I stop masturbating (again) and try to better myself. It’s been hard, I catch myself looking up porn, touching myself a little then stopping. Sometimes it goes to the point where I feel like ima bust so I stop. I haven’t bust a nut since nov. 10, but me touching myself still count as failing? I just want to get better and have a better sex life. I want to feel more confident, I look at my dick and I feel like it’s Small. I feel like I’ll never get better. Any advice? I can’t talk to girls cause if it leads to sex I know I won’t do good or I won’t get hard or stay hard. Is it all in my head? Please help. I don’t want to relapse again.
December 11 would be 1 month of no masturbating and orgasming
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Being clumsy and embarass ourself with girls is something all men go through, so dont worry about that. Problems getting hard when your nervous is also common, and practically all women have experiences with men having "engine issues".
One thing I know is that women dont care much about things like that. What they do care about is how you take it yourself. If you get all emotional and clearly cant handle it "like a man", they will go away. If you joke about it or excuse your nervousness in a good way, then its no problem.
Your 21, all your "problems" are perfectly normal for inexperienced men. But if you choose to continue PMO\edging\touching, things will just get worse from here. Guaranteed. And btw, touching\edging is even worse than just orgasm and be finished. Listen to Gary Wilson to learn why that is actually the case.
One thing I know is that women dont care much about things like that. What they do care about is how you take it yourself. If you get all emotional and clearly cant handle it "like a man", they will go away. If you joke about it or excuse your nervousness in a good way, then its no problem.
Your 21, all your "problems" are perfectly normal for inexperienced men. But if you choose to continue PMO\edging\touching, things will just get worse from here. Guaranteed. And btw, touching\edging is even worse than just orgasm and be finished. Listen to Gary Wilson to learn why that is actually the case.