For the ones trying to get rid of fetishes!

I too have a hotwife fetish. It is destroying me and my marriage. It is so strong for me. I am looking it up and finding videos all the time. It’s the only thing I can actually orgasm to. Thinking of my wife with another man. I want to rid myself of these fantasies and have a normal loving intimate relationship with my wife.

I used to have desires for passable trans girls too but that fetish has faded after actually trying a TS escort some years ago.

 

Yes - I too feel confidence is at the heart of this. I have an auto immune condition (multiple sclerosis) which is to some degree involved in my ED but yeah it would make me really happy if I could get hard again.

Unfortunately, all the pills (Viagra etc.) make me very tired the next day (almost like a hangover) so just aren’t something I can use wife and I have three young kids.

It’s almost like I need to take my focus away from sex and having an erection and with a concerted effort of focusing on other things erections may come back.

One thing I have learned about myself is that the desire to PMO arises when I am feeling anxious or worried. It’s always been a way to cope with such feelings. Is it the same for some of you? And what strategies or techniques have you successfully deployed to deal with this issue?

 

I've had all the classic fetishes, trans, hotwire etc. The weird one for me is pissing. I love watching girls pee either in their jeans or in stores. Had it since I watched my first porn vid at 15 or 16 yrs.

 

Big Bob thank you for sharing. Frankly I was getting a little nervous my fetish was too far out there. I love the scent of a woman and sniff panties, Pusey and assholes. Especially asses. Their is something about that musty scent. But I see that watching porn on it has made me a little nutty. I am constantly checking out yoga panted girls and wondering what that little bit up their ass crack smells like. I have even gone so far as to watch fart porn, though ai think that would be too much in person.
My fetish and the hours of porn supporting it has I fear made my a strange person than I am at heart. I am on day 5 of 90day reboot. I hope to find the clarity I lost. And while I will always appreciate a woman’s backside I hope to be less devious in my thoughts about them.

 

Fetishes are/can be normal, and have pre-dated the modern era of porn. But a fetish is meant to co-exist and compliment sexual desire and the experience of intercourse. The modern porn era is on a whole other level where many of us have fallen into the trap of replacing sexual desire with fetish infatuation/obsession/addiction.

Once that happens, it acts like a drug, same as most any other stimuli that humans can get addicted to.

Key thing to remember (in my opinion) is that most fetishes are now porn-induced, because they are so easily accessible. From my experience of exploring many of them + fantasies in real life, it never lived up to the hype because my fetish existed in an artificial construct in my mind.

If you have aspirations of forming lasting sexual or positive relationships built on trust, then perhaps fetishes can be introduced and shared further down the line. BUT if like me, you're single, never far from internet porn, addicted to fetish(es), then it's best to tuck them away into storage until you've achieved the positive transformations in your life that you seek. Or kick them altogether of course ;-)

Summary - treat fetish addiction the same way you treat porn addiction. They most likely go hand-in-hand and will both most likely be making you unhappy

 

Thank you! This is perfect and came just at the right time. Stating the course.