My first post here was almost 6 years ago. My last post here was almost two years ago. In the meantime I took a lot of time off from posting, but did post on RebootNation and Yourbrainrebalanced, where I still post, from time to time. It is amazing to me that, after all this time, we still get newbies without a basic understanding of the neurology involved with what this place calls "porn addiction". Porn addiction is about using a tool to get high. Just that simple. You may have other issues, and you may use porn to avoid them, or self medicate to get away from them, but do not make the mistake of mixing your problems up with your porn addiction. Fix the addiction, and the other problems will look easy. The neuroscience behind porn addiction is, relatively, easy to understand. It is the "why" of porn addiction. Our brains evolved to like, want, seek, have sex, millions of years ago. Turns out that thinking of sex has a statistically substantial high likelihood of leading to the real deal. Nature recognized that, in a manner of speaking, millions of years ago, that giving a neurological reward for thought of sex, naturally, being dopamine an endogenous opioid releases/rushes/highs, leads to reproduction. Reproduction in all species is the highest, first priority, survival trait. What you interpret as lust or horniness, is just a neurological event in the brain that is encouraging you to make babies. Consumption, or eating, is the second priority survival trait. High Speed Internet Porn, which came into widespread dissemination somewhere between 2007-2012, allows for something that does not, naturally, occur in either nature or the types of porn that precede it: It allows for a profound and prolonged dopamine and endogenous opioid high, in your brain. Sure, we could think of sex prior to HSIP, but, only with the invention of HSIP, could we really, ahem, jack those thoughts through the roof. Do that, every day, for a year, and the brain comes to expect it, and when the brain comes to expect getting a reward for engaging in activity associated with the first priority survival trait of the species, bam, neurological/chemical reward that is addictive. These are basic concepts that should be taught to all newbies. I am suggesting to the forum moderators that some introduction to the basic neuroscience of porn addiction, which is literally dopamine/endogenous opioid addiction, be created, a page where people can go to learn they are not really addicted to porn, but to the brain reaction it causes. I see a lot of posts here with genuinely nice newbies, and some not so new, or nice, complaining they want to quit, they can't quit, they don't know how to quit, and some are so far off from the truth they actually think they addicted to a specific category of porn, as opposed to the reward event in the brain hypersexual thoughts lead to. Quitting porn is a two phase operation. 1) Study it, and understand it is the brain reaction that is addictive, not porn. Porn is just a tool. 2) Study quitting techniques, such as distraction techniques, plan on handling the withdrawals now, for later when they inevitably come; don't wait to figuring out how to handle them in the middle of withdrawals. Embrace the pain of quitting, anticipate it will happen and cannot be avoided, plan on the pain, and make plans on how you will deal with it other than getting a dopamine high. The purpose of the exercise is to reduce your brain's reliance on the dopamine reward that porn allows for. For many, and the number is growing, they have never had a day since puberty where they were not using porn to spike their dopamine levels. It is going to hurt. Understand what you are doing and what you are NOT doing. Don't think of it as quitting porn or porn addiction, though you will be quitting those; think of it as training your brain back to normal by a long time of not using porn to get high. You are addicted to the high, it is the end, you are not addicted to the means to the end. Quitting will not kill you, but it will hurt, but know that pain goes away. No one ever died of withdrawals, they only make us want to a bit. You can have a future out there where you are porn free and do not miss it. Porn I mean, not dopamine. In the future you will obtain your dopamine high, at lower levels, the way you were evolved to do so. Much love. W.