Have you been in a relationship with a kinky person?

Kinky is a word that can only be defined by the person saying it.

To some anal sex or having sex in the living room with a window cracked is kinky. To others it means something much different.

 

I dated a few girls who really wanted to get dominated.
While I am naturally dominant this usually isn't a problem. But one girl in particular wanted to be degraded and humiliated so hard, it was a bit too much for me to turn me on. I didn't pursue whatever it was we had for various reasons anyway.

Why you asking anyway OP? Did you find someone "kinky"?

 

Ive had kinky woman in my life and were amazing experiences. I´m open to try new stuff if both of as are confortable about it. Everything that is enjoyable for the both of us we keep doing it, if not then is discarded.
I prefer kinky woman.. but the reality is that most of them are not.
Also, and speaking in general, the more kinky the woman, the more crazy she is. An more kinky a man is the more crazy or porn consumed he is.
I´ve never found a woman that was crazy in bed but not in real life. I prefer to stick to woman that are amazing in life and normal in bed to get a little more serious, but to just have fun the kinky/moderate crazy ones are really enjoyable.

 

Yeah, depends to the level of "kinkiness" but with my ex-wife, our first time was in public (granted, during the night and at a more obscure place, even though it was in the center of the city).

We've also done anal and she liked to be choked during sex. First I was very reluctant with the choking and barely touched her, before I learned what type of pressure I should actually look for.

 

Better not to be with this type of girl, sex is by itself a field of passion and can take you to the lower animal side of humanity.

Kinky girls can make you explore the dark side of sexuality and you could end up sexually drained doing BDSM, femdom, dogging, swinger, public exposure, so better to avoid.

 

There was a girl that wanted me to control her completely, by giving me her insta account and literally having access to everything that was hers.

 

Kinkiness leads to one thing, then to the next and so forth. Try to always put boundaries to the girl if that is the case. Kinky girls can go nuts in sex and not necessarily in a good way.

 

Holly Molly D: ..... talking about science-fiction and Hollywood.....
This is a really weird relationship you must have had....
I personally find this way of reacting extremely funny, I wouldn´t even understand how a girl could be that excited by someone else having control over something that is "immaterial" like social medias X)

 

Yes, why?

 

Yeah. One of my ex’s was a nymphomaniac. Its how we originally met, through online cybersex and then in person.

 

How was the relationship?

 

A nightmare.

 

Kinky can just mean open minded at the end of the day. Some people live their whole life doing missionary sex as their only outlet... to me that sounds boring as anything.

I've dated kinky girls, the highs and excitement can be great. It's never worked out long term sadly.

@Freedom_from_PMO the BDSM community isn't always toxic y'know. I've been part of it on and off, consider myself a pretty decent guy. I've met others who're the same; decent and feel liberated and open to enjoying the spectrum of sexuality and sensuality.

Yes there can be a darker side and links to other psychological trauma...

But maybe if you have both have kinks along with other foundations of respect, trust, emotional stability, it could be perfectly sustainable and prolific ;-)

 

Dating definitely makes it harder to abstain from orgasming but you can still aim to meet PM goals, that's what I'm hoping to do from now on in order to clear brain fog. You have to be open minded and really understand what each other want when dating kinky people, so it can still be a healthy relationship!