How the fuck do I deal with boredom?

ali.nf

Fapstronaut
I was a heavy user of pornography and ever since I started my nofap journey I have noticed I become so bored because I am not getting the sexual excitement from the dopamine rush of PMO. I feel like my life isn't fun anymore without porn. I know this is a problem

Is there anything I can do?
 
Find a hobby: sports, hiking, reading, art, amateur astronomy, gardening, woodworking, video gaming, blogging, writing, drawing, painting, sleeping, photography, chatting, joining a board games club, joining whatever club, going to meet ups, fishing, hunting, ...

If you want dopamine then extreme sports might help: skydiving, scubadiving, skying, mountaineering, climbing, mountain biking, paragliding, skateboarding, surfing, bodyboarding, parcours, boxing, martial arts,...
 
Man everyone experiences this. I mean, porn consumes so much of our time and energy. You need to realize that porn offers us temporary pleasure but long lasting regret. It is normal for us to seek porn to remove that void in our life, replace boredom and loneliness.

Whenever we see pmo as a solution to any of our problems in life, then that is harmful. We as a result, keep digging a deeper hole which is destructive.

There is so much in life to do. It's just that your brain is so use to consuming porn that it's tricking you into thinking there's nothing that will make you happy.
Try being positive. Never say that you're bored.

Here is a list of things you can do:

- Exercise
- Hang out with friends more often
- Read an inspirational book
- Learn more about Islam ( improve your Quranic pronunciation/read Islamic books)
- Get a job/volunteer
- Join a club/society
- Spend quality time with family
- Play a sport you love
- Write your own book
- Create your own website
- Start vlogging(you don't have to upload on YouTube)
 
I am in a flatline now and everything seems boring for me: talking, reading, hobbies, outside, etc. If you are facing the same thing then there is not much you can do, its the worst part of rebooting I can say, you took away P from your brain and in return it makes you feel like shit. If you resist it, then your brain will give up, the problem is....it may last for very long.
 
Man everyone experiences this. I mean, porn consumes so much of our time and energy. You need to realize that porn offers us temporary pleasure but long lasting regret. It is normal for us to seek porn to remove that void in our life, replace boredom and loneliness.

Whenever we see pmo as a solution to any of our problems in life, then that is harmful. We as a result, keep digging a deeper hole which is destructive.

There is so much in life to do. It's just that your brain is so use to consuming porn that it's tricking you into thinking there's nothing that will make you happy.
Try being positive. Never say that you're bored.

Here is a list of things you can do:

- Exercise
- Hang out with friends more often
- Read an inspirational book
- Learn more about Islam ( improve your Quranic pronunciation/read Islamic books)
- Get a job/volunteer
- Join a club/society
- Spend quality time with family
- Play a sport you love
- Write your own book
- Create your own website
- Start vlogging(you don't have to upload on YouTube)

Thanks for this advice man. I definitely allowed porn to consume my life. Even though removing it has taken out that sexual pleasure from my life I will certainly use your advice and continue my streak so I can fully recover. I'm already in good shape and a regular gym member. I'm very passionate about fitness and will be taking this more seriously as an outlet of built up sexual energy.
 
You ever thought what you wanted to have in life? Any goals or a vision for yourself?

If you haven't I suggest you take a pen and paper, block out an hour and write. Let your imagination go wild.

Then come back to me and I'll help you what to do next.
 
All these examples are given, but they're easily said than done. I'm a 26 year addict, and I'm 37 years old. I don't have any friends because of my addiction. I'm like 12 days in for the 50th time. I am scared around people. I don't have any desire to learn a new language or go for a hike. I can't keep concentrated on anything for more than a few minutes. I work nights because of my addiction, so during the day I sleep or occasionally when I would get a day off I would just sit in my room alternating between eating, masterbating, and sleeping. I hate going outside in the daylight. I don't understand how a lot of you have friends, social lives, motivation to do anything.
 
Boredom is a huge trigger for me. If I'm not actively busy, I might as well go PMO. Finding positive hobbies to replace the negative behaviors once you identify the triggers is very important. Good luck to you!
 
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