How to stop objectifing women?

I completely understand your problem. Been doing it before NoFap but some how I've managed to overcome it. For me it got away with the time. As you said you realize that it's wrong so you look away. So i consider it as a progress. If you would not have realized it as a mistake them it was a matter of concern.
I'm just 39 days in and honestly I still sometimes think about them in sexual manner but it has reduced a lot. So in your case I will say ypu are progressing amd with passage of time it will be gone completely.
I'm sure after somedays you will get over it. Just give it time and deal it with patience. Know when you are staring at them a d immediately stop yourself from doing it.
Stay strong brother and 99 days is awesome streak. Keep up with the progress.

 

It is natural to look at women. Do not be too ashamed of your sexual desires. Many women dress so they can get attention from men. It sucks for fapstronauts who are trying to reboot though. Maybe you need some more rebooting. Maybe it is as it is supposed to be. I am currently at day 45 and I notice that I am almost automatically checking out women all over the place. They catch me and I act embarrassed lol, just like when I was in my early teens.

 

It's important to remember you're also human. And obviously sexual. It's completely okay to notice sexual attributes on people, and even to be a bit aroused by them. What's not okay is using those things as an excuse to justify your own behavior objectifying that person. It's not like a girl has a lot of control over the size of her breasts without medical help. They're just part of her. It might be best to just acknowledge that you had the thought, and then let it go and move on. It's no big deal... just treat her like a person, she already IS a complete human being. Which you will anyway.

And congrats on the full reboot!

 

I'm not sure where you're at now, but if you want to overcome this objectification treat all women equally, not just putting the attractive women on a pedestal, acknowledge and treat unattractive girls equally and with interest too. Attraction is natural. Do not feel bad about it, it is a natural part of life and being human. If you want a relationship, focus on becoming the best version of yourself rather than chasing a woman and the right one will come into your life and join you on your journey. If this is an area you are interested in and want to improve, I recommend reading How to be a 3% Man by Coach Corey Wayne and The Game by Neil Strauss and watching videos from Corey on youtube. Good luck and find balance in your life!

 

(Trigger warning)

Women have nice breasts, lips, arms, legs.. rich, silky skin...it's probably warm, soft, and smooth too...not to be confused with alligator skin. They move in a way that flawlessly combines power with grace. Fear not: you already learned all of this when you were a teenager. This is why I find no reason at all to stare at women's bodies in public. You already have all the information you need to know about this aspect of them. All that staring will accomplish is making her uncomfortable. Focusing on more substantial aspects of her being, such as her emotions and spirit, is far more enticing, and powerful.

This is why, with women, I make eye contact first and only...there is something else with that form of communication that is eternally interesting to me. You can tell if they are happy, upset, bored, curious.....how they feel about life, how they feel about you, their hesitation, and more.

Pure attention to her body is a relatively insubstantial form of attraction. Attention to her emotions, spirit, and being, is stronger. Attention to both is unbeatable.

"When you base your expectations only on what you see, you blind yourself to the possibility of a new reality"

-(If you can tell me where this quote is from you deserve a cookie! Unless you used a search engine...then you only get the chocolate chips :/ )

 

I'm going to approach this from a more general point of view, hopefully it makes sense because I think it could be helpful. What I mean is rather than only sexual objectification, consider giving up objectification of all kinds, certainly with people. In a way a hetero guy looking at a role model is also objectificating, just because he doesn't find that person attractive but rather want to be like him, maybe for his ability to attract woman that is still sexual objectification in a sense - in the sense you are framing the person in this limited way. And maybe some guys objectify themselves in some way. As I said it doesn't even have to be in a sexual way, a guy can fancy himself as smart and objectify himself that way, but that just mean seeing yourself as an intellectual object rather than a sexual object, in my book that isn't automatically better - and isn't particularly smart.

And the reason for giving it up is it isn't the whole story of what's going on. When we objectify we put this filter on whatever we are looking at, whether it's ourselves or other people. For me the ultimate reason is it isn't ultimately true, or it's just a small part of what's happening. A body is actually a very complex process of biology, psychology and interactions with other people and the environment with all kinds of nuances. The more we see this reality for what it is the more we are in reality and the more possibilities we see, which certainly carries over into relationship possibilities. To illustrate you may not even objectify physical objects, if anyone reading this ever watched McGuyver he would do do stuff like use eggs to fix a broken radiator, because they become cooked and seal it. Whether how realistic those scenarios are is not the point, but the point is he thought outside the box but thought in terms of the laws of physics and how to work with that rather than the in the box thinking of broken machine needs broken part from the store - you know what I mean?

 

Yes. We might think of objectification in terms of math, and it's sort of like saying x + y = x when that's only a part of it, and ignoring the addition operator and the y variable. And in reality, there are a lot more variables than that, but we just end up kind of ignoring the rest of what's going on and our attention is just focusing on the x and it's all x because that's all the primitive brain understands. The intelligent way would be to look to get as many of the variables and as much of the equation as possible, and even seeing that I, even in my porn addictedness is only a part of the equation - and while we may not be able to totally avoid at least some p-Sub looking stuff in this world we can control our variables, even if some of the instinctual part isn't fully in our control yet there are things we can do to deal with it even if it's in an indirect way.