Prostitutes over porn - does it help? My experience.

I agree totally, then when your talking escorts, hookers what ever ,this is there living, these women see multiple men a day. And most at least allow bbbj that’s one dirty mouth if your partaking.
Never again will I subject my heath or financial stability to these women.

 

I think its all about how much happy are you. In my case, Im not happy in my work, I dont have a family, Im living with a woman with her kids just because I cannot pay another rent and leave, I dont have hobbies nor sports activities, no friends (well, just one but he has a bussy life). So, guess what, Im relapsing very often because of the lack of happiness.
Im 46 yo and 32 years of fapping. I have my shaft and glans 99% numb. I've started to put some coconut oil and urea cream and see if would work with dekeratinization but who knows.
So, its the pursuit of happiness. The day when I enjoy life that will be the day I can be free of MO. I dont watch porn, I use my fantasy with women I know.

 

Thanks man, I appreciate your words and the help that this site provides. The sense of not being alone in this problems helps a lot.

 

Im not waiting for the day, is a way of saying that when I achieve happiness in other things I will reduce my only source of happiness and relief. Thats why its too difficult for me,

 

Agree, totally. You said it before: it's an addiction. We need to replace that source for many healthy sources. Thats why I will approach this. I like having sex with a woman, I like being in love, have a loving partner, make plans with her (future partner) Thats one of my key points: make myself the type of person that I want as a couple.
Thanks for clearing the air man. When there are porpuses, there is hope.

 

granted, however the only times I got some sexually transmitted diseases were with normal casual sex (not escorts)
why? because normal people rarely use protection.
escorts use it always otherwise if tghey arent clean = no job for them

also I am not sure you realize how many sexual partners an average 30 yo woman had... we are talking in 100+ easily. Possibly hundreds.

There were some studies done, girls in their 20-23 often have like 60+ on their notch count. Just wrap your head around that number.

No surprise they are playing ''I am a princess'' card. Nobody would want to be with a girl knowing she got so many....

 

Some notes.

"1 - Re-introduced my brain to human touch"
There are many activities where you can be introduced to human touch like safe massage sessions (or having a massage with your friend next to you,) hugging family members or friends, wrestling, doing martial arts, playing sports, practicing CPR, or even just dancing. Some of these activities are cheaper than 30$ per half-hour. Don't let prostitutes fool you.

"2 - Grounding"
"This means i am cooler, calmer and collected most of the time in my daily life. I can function normally and get work done."
If a man needs to pay almost 30$ to a prostitute, simply to function normally and get work done, then that man may be severely disadvantaged or be addicted to prostitutes.

"3 - Reduced my thoughts about porn."
This is pretty much countered by "3 - Prostitutes are addictive"

 

Escorts use protection really, not sure where you live but in metro Detroit a lot of these chicks do bare back for the right price and bbbj also most are heroin addicts so dirty needles come in to play a lot. Even the so called high end chicks

 

And no your average woman has not had 100 sexual partners don’t try comparing an average woman to a prostitute there’s no comparison. Post your studies on average woman in there 20s and 30s having 60 to 100 sex partners it’s more like 7 to 10.

 

You know there are women on NoFap, right? . . .

Antagonizing women is not a wise approach to NoFap or overcoming porn addiction.

Firstly, not all women are evil. You can't judge womankind by what one woman did. Since Adolf Hitler killed a bunch of jews, I guess men are all evil? No. And with that same logic, it's not wise to antagonize or vilify all women because of the actions of one woman. There are woman who are very good. You should know that some societies or social groups portray women in certain ways or don't promote good women as much as they promote women who might not be good. There are good women out there.

Secondly, antagonizing all women isn't too productive. What do you do? Kill all women? Shun all women? Women are a part of society. Putting a wall between you and women will only isolate or alienate you. You may become weaker than others who work alongside women, especially men who work alongside good women. Women are humans, and we can learn a lot from humans.

Thirdly, you might think that the exclusion of women is the key to NoFap. But I will tell you that I've come across misogynists who are even more perverted than me. I've been to male-only websites. Misogynists see sex as a weapon to use against women. Misogynists abuse sex as a means to exclude women, even with sexual harassment. They like to talk about sexually abusing and sexually assaulting women. There is very likely even a whole genre of porn dedicated to harming or even destroying women.

Excluding women is not the key to NoFap.

 

Spot on William

 

Excellent read! Thank you. I've often wondered that topic myself. My situation living in New Jersey, US that unfortunately prostitution is still illegal here . I could face the possibility of getting arrested, expensive fine and possibility even my car impounded. That healthy fear has always kept me from visiting any escorts. If prostitution was legal here I'd be there right now......But it isn't. So I go outside, sit and meditate. Have n outstanding day!

 

7 to 10? Hahah sorry man, from where you got this. you have no clue whats happening
7 to 10 ... hahaha that would be lovely... you live in a dream land.
sorry to bust your bubble.

also I am sorry but the only cases I got some STDs were from... ''normal'' girls with whom I never used protection and not from escorts.
Besides, if youre so dumb to not use condoms with random people, then its on you.

I agree to the ''being addictive'' part but hey, so is porn or ''normal drunken sex with ''normal'' girls''.

I won't be posting any studies so that you can deny them, this is a typical move of people who never do any research themselves.

I got enough experience to know the truth. Not sure who told you its ''7 to 10'' maybe it was some woman and you believed her, which makes you very inexperienced in that regard, idk that.

I assure you even the ''good girls'' have a much higher notch count you can imagine. Not even counting things like blowjobs and stuff like that.


I love how people who have no experience on the topic create these posts without having a clue how the whole escort scene works.
Its not perfect, but hey, believing in a fantasy of girls in their 30s having 10 sexual partners is much worse than the truth. What do you think girls 20-30 do all the time?

Sitting on their asses and looking pretty? praying in the church?
...

 

I’m 58 years old junior I got a lot more experience with woman than you do.

 

I also think the AVERAGE woman usually has slept with no more than 7 to 10 men. Sure with the modern technology of contraception, there's less chances of getting pregnant, but that doesn't mean more sex partners.

Maybe some women have sex with a lot of men, but educated women know the risk of sexually transmitted infections and the reduction of that riak with a monogomous relationahip. Why have sex with 100 men who can give me STIs when I can have sex 100 time with only one man who has been screened for STIs?

The STI risk is very real outside of monogamous relationships. I think almost every government website would attest to that.

Also, I've read that no contraception device is 100% protective. So a woman can still get impregnated despite all the modern contraception technology.

Some societies also legally limit or forbid abortion.

Again, some women are not educated about STIs and such, especially if they are victims of sex trafficking. Some schools don't teach about STIs much, including mine. And in some countries, women weren't even allowed to attend school. I think some women are still withheld from schools to this day.

But an education about STIs isn't necessary to deter a woman from having sex with a lot of different men. At about man #11 or #12, she will probably start getting sick with lesions, nerve pain, night sweats, abdominal pain, or etc. Her doctor will likely tell her about any STI that she's contracted. In a lot of societies, knowingly having sex with an STI is a crime. Where I live, that is a crime. At that point, her own infected body AND society would be against her will to have sex, so she will likely stop or just start having sex in a monogamous relationship.

Some STIs can also make sex painful, further detering an infected woman from having lots of sex partners.

In many societies, women are also shamed for being sexual, especially through derogatory words like slu# and w#ore. This too might discourage a lady from having a lot of different sex partners.

If anything, I guess one could argue that the average man has a lot more sex partners than the average woman has, especially since most men can't get pregnant. But men are still susceptible to STIs.

A transgender woman may also have more sex partners than the average cisgender woman may have because she can't get pregnant.

 

I’m 54, I only know 2 women who have more than 7 partners.. One is a total drug addict who trades sex for drugs and one is my best friend who is a sex addict , she’s had 10 partners. None of my daughters or their friends ( 19-24) have had more than 1. None of my nieces have ( 26-40) have had more than 1. I’m not sure what type of woman you know, but most women worry about std’s and pregnancy’s and are far more discriminating than men when it comes to sex. I’ve had 1 partner. My sisters both had 1 partner. Studies can be skewed by so many factors.

 

yeah of course you just proved it by stating how many sexual partners girls in their 20-30 have.
your age means nothing

I know 40yo who still live and behave like they are 25

what matters is experience my friend.