Question for the ladies: how do you feel about guys masturbating in moderation? (w/o porn)

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by Aaron_0, Feb 18, 2016.

In what situation is it alright for men to masturbate? (without porn)

  1. It is always alright, provided it doesn't affect his normal sexual function

    12 vote(s)
    26.1%
  2. It is alright if he's horny, but she's unavailable (on vacation, tired, etc.)

    4 vote(s)
    8.7%
  3. It's alright only in a completely sexless relationship

    3 vote(s)
    6.5%
  4. It's alright only if he is single

    3 vote(s)
    6.5%
  5. It's never ok.

    24 vote(s)
    52.2%
  1. wildwood

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    A relationship isn't going to make the feeling of wanting to mo go away. I will continue to not masturbate even not in a relationship. Addiction is addiction. Porn is an infection. If you don't ever want to be or plan to be ever in a relationship then why ask? Mo is just a gateway. I cannot go back. Ever. I can't. It's just a gateway. "well I don't have a partner so I'll masturbate. Well I don't have a partner so I'll watch porn. Well since I never have sex I can do it whenever even if it's every day. Oops I'm dating someone and my addiction is still here. Where did I go wrong?"
     
  2. Aaron_0

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  3. Darkstar 22.84

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    What if I go insane without a partner and without PMO ? What then?
    All my insane sex drive will make me unbearably rude and grumpy to all around me. I've seen this happen at work.
    Or maybe I just work with a-holes...

    And even if I do get a partner, and she has a lower sex drive than me, what then? I will be forced to return to masturbation.
    Because she won't be there for me and being in a relationship with little to no sex at a young age is hell.
    I've been there, it has left me emotionally scared.
     
  4. The Eleven

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    You'll be forced to return to masturbation? Says who?
     
  5. Darkstar 22.84

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    Says my bestial libido. And the rejections I receive from women all around me.
     
  6. Aaron_0

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    Eh, if I were looking for a-holes in this situation, I don't think I'd start my investigation with the coworkers! :D
     
  7. Darkstar 22.84

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    If we're still talking a-holes, I think I need not look further on this site, at this point.
     
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  8. Aaron_0

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  9. The Eleven

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    You can choose to give in, or you can choose not to give in. This notion that it is inevitable is a lie we tell ourselves so we don't have to stare down our addiction.
     
  10. SheShallBeCalledWoman

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    Personally, I don't mind it. As long as he doesn't do it to porn, I can understand it.
     
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  11. Aaron_0

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    Interesting results so far. The majority of voting Femstronauts are against masturbation under any circumstances, though the rest seem to think it's fine in any case where it isn't usurping normal sexual activity. Not much middle ground!

    Also interesting that four of the five who've spoken up about their views are not with the majority on this issue. As many as have voted "pro" have spoken up about it! Something something "vocal minority." I'd love to hear more from different ladies who are completely opposed to masturbation. I must admit that this disparity is causing me to wonder if some men might be voting to affect the outcome! Conspiracy theory!
     
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  12. Aaron_0

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    Our "conversation" reminded me of a classic clip:
     
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  13. about a girl

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    @Aaron_0
    Keep firing a - holes !
    That movie and the princess bride love them ! ♡
     
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  14. Buzz Lightyear

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    Good to see some standards around here.:)
     
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  15. Buzz Lightyear

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    There is another option besides giving in or not giving in. Why be obsessed with the number two? It's called self-development and sublimation.

    Your ego will not like it. It wants to harden the shell of its own existence. Show it who's boss, and outgrow it.
     
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  16. Aaron_0

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    While the ultimate goal here is definitely transformation of the will, putting on the "new man," if you will -- and I know you will, ;) I think you'll agree that the process of actualizing this transformation often involves a stubborn refusal to fall back into old habits. Rome wasn't built in a day.
     
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  17. Buzz Lightyear

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    Sure, as long as that doesn't just involve a stand off, where you just sit behind your defences. To truly beat the habit/ addiction, you can't just settle for an armistice; you have to make inroads into enemy occupied territory. Blitzkrieg and total war! After the mobilization of resources of course.:rolleyes:
     
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  18. Aaron_0

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    Well, these days, my "resources" are mobilized at the drop of a hat!
     
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  19. Ryan Veitch

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    Several times a week? Hmmm. Is that even feasible with our lifestyles nowadays? Even without children it is hard to work and manage a household plus the constant rat-race of promotion and increasing income streams. Once or twice a week would seem to be more realistic, wouldnt it?
     
  20. Aaron_0

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    I don't know about that. Plenty of busy people make time to watch television in the evening. There are definitely people who are too busy for that either, but I'm not one of them right now. I can rub one out pretty quickly if that's my goal and I'm not doing it multiple times a day. Definitely in less time than it would take to watch a television program!

    That brings up another point (totally irrelevant to my situation): some guys use masturbation before sex to control PE. I know it isn't the only way to do that, but it seems like a valid use-case
     

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