The Lord of the Rings Challenge

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Poll closed Jun 21, 2020.
  1. No, leave like that: "The Lord of the Rings Challenge"

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  2. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Fellowship of Nofap"

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    45.5%
  3. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: Rising Fellowship of Eärendil"

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  4. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Journey to Mount Doom"

    5 vote(s)
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  5. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Quest of the Ring-bearer"

    6 vote(s)
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  1. SSS Vision

    SSS Vision Fapstronaut

    Spot on wisdom. Objectifying people is a central theme in this war: it is the aim of the producers of P and its profitable substitutes; it is a key contributor to our own inability to fight back; and it is a chief means of blinding us to the entire situation. If we lose our human empathy and begin to see people as nothing more than tools or obstacles, posessions or annoyances, we walk into battle unarmed and unarmored.

    That's my check in for today, and a thank you to all of you for sharing your wisdom.
     
  2. Slider8

    Slider8 Fapstronaut

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  3. stronaut2021

    stronaut2021 Fapstronaut

    Day 2 - Orc (The spell of porn is strong in me)

    Greetings fellows

    After 40+ days I realized that the old habit of PMO daily in the morning when I am alone is gone. I feel a more natural living without it. Also, yesterday I could sleep well again. What I mean is that even after the reset I feel a way better than before beginning my previous streak.

    I must confess that sometimes I get tired of talking about urges. Consequently, today I'll talk about another thing.

    I am employed in a tech company and also I have a startup. My income due to the startup has been decreasing over 2021. Two months ago I realize that not only I was spending more than what I earned but also I have been trying to reduce expenses without success. Days ago I realized that I won't be able to live this month without getting debt again, and on the same day I received a report that my startup income decreased by $600 per month suddenly. Without any hope, I received an email from a recruiter from a big tech company telling me that they have a matching position in my city. It is a demanding position like a Lead or something similar. Therefore, I answered, go ahead to the recruiter, and today I had the call. He is going to schedule the interviews, 7 in total that I must pass.

    There is no better moment to push for it, to use the special powers that abstinence gives me. This is the time to test the sexual transmutation is really a thing and use all of I have to get this position. The good news: there is more than one team with this position open. Now I have another reason to maintain the streak. I'll keep you updated.

    And the journey is getting exciting...
     
  4. kaerhal

    kaerhal Fapstronaut

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    Day 63

    Was on the train and plagued by memories of girls I used to talk to online; I wasn’t difficult to dismiss these thoughts, but the feeling of shame I felt was horrible.

    On the bright side, I bought a car! This obviously doesn’t solve any PMO-related problems, but it will help get me out the house and in the gym more often, which in turn I hope will do my mental and physical health a lot of good!
     
  5. MS PBH

    MS PBH Fapstronaut

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  6. Day 0, Nazgul status.

    Hmm, okay. The lesson I can take away from this reset is that I need to find ways to activate my mental barriers much more quickly. I thought everything was going fine with my streak. I haven't looked at the tiniest bit of anything remotely triggering--this was a purely "internal" relapse. I didn't feel triggered before the reset, as though I were already consciously fighting off any urges. I sat down to use the toilet without realizing that it was a moment when my body was in a natural state of semi-arousal, and I acted on that arousal. Focusing on maintaining a greater situational awareness of my body at all times might help with this, but it sounds like quite a tall order, and I could easily see that as being counterproductive if I'm constantly thinking about my body and what it may or may not be doing.

    My emotions coming off this reset are quite devoid of any guilt or shame, but I actually wish there was a little more. Without those, I tend to fall into a victim mentality, suffering from something beyond my control. Intellectually I know there must have been a point at which I could have said no, some out to avoid this reset, but looking back now I really can't see where that was. I'm tempted to brush this off thinking I couldn't have done anything about it--hence my effort to carefully analyze what I can do.

    St. Ignatius of Loyola, pray for us.
     
  7. My honor to be among you my brother! This community is very strong.
     
  8. Dominikfhj

    Dominikfhj Fapstronaut

  9. PeaceOnEarth108

    PeaceOnEarth108 Fapstronaut

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    Girls checked out yesterday: 0
     
  10. Don80

    Don80 Fapstronaut

    Great job! I'm right behind you. I decided to ACCEPT the things that I can do nothing about. I feel sorry for Ukraine of course. No country should invade another and kill people people. The prices of petrol are going up and up. But it's nothing compared to what Ukrainian people are going through.
     
  11. Don80

    Don80 Fapstronaut

    Yesterday I watched a podcast on dopamine. If you spike it very high by PMO, drugs, alcohol or any other activity or sets of activities (smoking and drinking beer) it falls down below the baseline level (when you feel calm). The higher the spike, the lower mood follows. Moreover, the more you engage in those high dopamine level activities, you baseline level is messed up too. You feel less and less pleasure until you feel no pleasure at all. The only way to "heal" is abstinence from those activities and substances.
     
  12. SSS Vision

    SSS Vision Fapstronaut

    Careful analysis is defiitely going to be key for you. Without assuming too much about you or your situation, some of the questions I would be asking myself based on your description of this reset are these:
    • Why was fapping so easy, thoughtless, and automatic for me? What does that say about my internal motivations for this reboot/quest?
    • What does my lack of emotional response tell me about my sense of purpose for and commitment to this reboot/quest?
    • What emotions might I be supressing, avoiding, or unaware of right now? Why am I not letting myself feel these emotions?
    • If I don't want to have a victim mentality, why does my power to say no to PMO seem hidden from me in this instance? What am I most afraid of facing in myself?
    • Who do I feel truly accountable to for maintaining my reboot streak? What is really at stake for me if I reset?
    • What positive outcomes, benefits, and meaning will accrue to my life from longer streaks of no PMO? How can I better arrange my daily routines to focus on those positive aims?
    With saints and sinners both praying for you, you've got this. Don't give up!
     
  13. mikejozue

    mikejozue Fapstronaut

    Day 0.

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    I feel empty again but I try to tell myself that not all progress is lost. I tell myself that this streak will be even better.
    I will destroy this ring eventually even if I made a step backwards. The goal for now is to become a hobbit again.
     
  14. PMO is the most satanic, it is the absolute spiritual control! There are so many people have mental problems from porn and it continues to exist in the background!
     
  15. EpsilonDelta

    EpsilonDelta Fapstronaut

  16. newbobido

    newbobido Fapstronaut

    Day 5

    Almost relapsed last night. Reached one of my low points and even fell and went fishing (feeling pathetic even saying it out loud, but I’ve started by reading about Ukraine and Russia in Wikipedia and ended up reading the bio of pornstars instead). afterwards the night was a total nightmare. I just could not fall asleep and all I wanted was porn. On some level I felt that I don’t even want to PMO as much as I want P, as if it’s some kind of Netflix sitcom that I could just watch to pass the time…

    I’m glad that I’m still here but I’m nervous that I have too much stuff in my life to invest the proper amount of time into the reboot process.
     
  17. newbobido

    newbobido Fapstronaut

    Welcome brother, and Don’t worry. I was also overwhelmed by people getting to 100 days and thinking “that would never be me”. I’ve been in this challenge about a year now, and in this time I’ve broken my record a couple of times. Making it to two weeks for the first time in my life.

    But for people like us that never made it 100 or even 15 days I have to say that there is one other huge difference to remember. And that is the difference between PMOing 4 times a day and PMOing once every 4 days. A low counter doesn't mean anything if you are truly here to make a better life for yourself. The amount of free time and mental clarity that you would get from simply reducing the time you waste on porn is huge. Never let the counter bring you down, it’s just a tool.
     
  18. IveWastedMyTime

    IveWastedMyTime Fapstronaut

    Ive managed to reach 5 days and now Im at day 0 again - because I think even a 1 min porn watch is a relapse.
    But I can rly see my progress so far - I watch shorter, watch less and when I watch I go less hardcore.
    Nevertheless I wanna escape the 4/5 days Loop... Since Im 14/15 years old my longest streak was 2 months in holidays I guess. And in the last years the longest was 3 weeks. I rly wanna reach a year or even more.
    I pray for change!
     
  19. Don80

    Don80 Fapstronaut

    Get up and repeat! That's the only way to reach success. As Forrest Gump said: Sh#t happens.
     
  20. Constipated Potatoe

    Constipated Potatoe Fapstronaut

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    Day 0 - I relapsed Again.

    -i have been on a serious porn Binge. I'm stressed out about unemployment,also someone dissapointed me, but I will get back up.

    It's like I use porn to soothe whatever pain I'm feeling. I wish I can find healthier ways to deal with stressful situations.

    Usually after I relapse, I get this horrible feeling of despair and depression. But not today. I mean I feel tired since I have been up all night, I hardly slept 3+ hours or so. Hope everyone is having a great day.
     

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