The scary part for me, is I started to fight this as soon I knew it was addictive (2014-2015) but cannot go one month and recently even one week free.
For my husband, it was realizing this was an addiction and that he needed help. He’s literally been trying to quit our entire marriage. He’s doing great, but he also has learned his triggers, and tools to help combat them
I started since i was about 8-9, waiting until midnight to watch soft-porn on tv. Its about 15 year of pmo addiction.
That's easy for me to answer. I know that if I looked at porn right or masturbated I would be off and running again. I've had a few "slips" recently and it often feels as hard to stop now as it did when I was trying to quit 2 years ago. Also, I still think about porn, remembering what I have seen and feeling awfully tempted sometimes to go find it again (it would only take a few seconds to find the online stuff).
It's great to hear about your husband's success and to see you being so supportive of his recovery I first tried (really tried) to quit in 2011, so over 8 years now. I remember breaking down in tears in a yoga class with only one thought ringing loud and clear in my head: I need to stop masturbating. I just laid on my mat and cried, and then quit for 129 days. I wish it was always that clear, and that it would stay that clear. This has been a long, long journey.
His triggers are not related to what he is addicted to. He needs to handle anxiety better. The triggers are usually subconscious and need to be addressed.
Yup, that’s exactly what he’s learned and far more. But if you don’t have anyone to help you, the road is far more difficult. For instance, he had one slip. I knew immediately that he’d slipped so we talked about it and he just couldn’t understand why he slipped. So I pointed out that a dear friend had called to say he was getting divorced. This made my husband really sad. It also triggered his fear of me leaving him. Thus was pretty early in recovery, when I pointed that out, he was like “ wow, that’s exactly it!” .
6 months, since NoFap i'm not addicted anymore. Thanks God i discovered NoFap before more bad things happens.
16 years. *trigger warning* I remember as a kid my house had the brown illegal cable box that had playboy and porn channels so I had that when I was all alone. Then I had a cousin who sold me porn vhs tapes when I was 13, and I would record softcore specials on hbo and Cinemax, then when I was 16 we had a computer and I was able to download porn since then and had cds upon cds of porn for the longest time and then I had the first iPhone and here I am.
11 and a half year, when i was just 13 yrs old. I still wish i didn't discover it otherwise my life would have been way better.