Small Pen*s Club - (males, females and non-binary welcome)

That experience has brought up a lot of memories for me. Wishing I had partied less in my younger years and maybe instead explored my gender identity further.

I think that's why part of me really loves having a small penis (as opposed to the porn induced fetish theory for sissy beta cuckold desires) - I think I just lean pretty heavily towards the female side of the gender spectrum and having a small penis fits that quite nicely and is a relief from the pressures to act more male that the world puts upon me, especially as the rest of my outer appearance is very male.

 

Yes. Thank you for asking (it means a lot to be taken seriously).
I was tested, but I do not have that genetic anomaly to explain my low testosterone and small penis.
Also, I've had my penis size checked, but it's not small enough to be considered a micro-penis.

 

Not sure if this is a good thing but …

i have discovered compression panties, for mtf trans who want to hide the bulge.

Super aroused by the thought of all that compression on my balls and the thought of having no bulge at all.

Ordered the panties. Haven’t arrived yet. Nearly MO’d when I found them.

 

If you have a fetish free porn addiction, consider yourself lucky.

If you need to post about your outrage online, there’s plenty of places for that. But first, I would ask that you have compassion for others and their very real struggles, you might even see yourself in them and not feel so driven to pass judgement.

 

That's fair enough, and I see your point. Though, if what you read on this thread is upsetting, I would suggest ignoring it and un-watching it.
In my case, this is not just fantasy or fetish. I have been cuckolded on multiple occasions. My first girlfriend did it, I caught my college girlfriend in bed with another guy and so on. There is a pattern there, and I certainly wasn't seeking it out. Part of my recovery is working through those issues and part of my challenge is that I inadvertently conditioned myself to experience arousal under those circumstances as I coped with the pain (such pain and anguish!) by turning to porn and masturbation.

Please accept that we're not all heterosexual cic-gendered men with "pure" porn addictions. Many of us have a more complicated experience to sort through. We need space to do that, and this is an appropriate forum for this discussion as it is all inextricable linked with porn, and masturbation.

 

Thank you for sharing your experience. Other men with large or average penises have shared their experience and I think it's helpful for us to talk about. It's great to hear that you have not let a handful of expressed opinions shatter your self-image.

I've often heard that "almost every guy out there is insecure about his penis size, but it's not a big deal, size doesn't matter . . . so just get over it." To me, that's like saying boys shouldn't cry. If most, or even many, guys out there are insecure about their penis size . . . then we should talk about it. It's important to have a safe space to talk about it. Burying it and pretending like it isn't a concern isn't healthy.

 

I'm inspired by courageous post from @Qzmp1 about having a small penis and premature ejaculation.
It's a double whammy!! And one that affects me as well - in my case a small, but not micro-, penis and sporadic bouts of PE. As a teenager, and long before ever having sex, I struggled so much with accidental and humiliating emissions during sports and exams that I developed a ritual of excessive masturbation - a short term solution which was rife with long term consequences.

I have a theory that maybe smaller penises are just more sensitive (i.e. the same number of nerve endings as anyone else, but concentrated into a smaller surface area . . . somewhat analogous to a clitorous).

I am aware that there may be multiple factors contributing to PE (another would be high cortisol / low testosterone levels - also associated with smaller penis size).

Anyone have thoughts on this or other theories?

 

Been struggling a lot with self-image and penis size.
I’ve had to “man up” and face some tough challenges. That’s good. But I’ve also felt pushed around at times and it’s just hard feeling I need to hide this fact about myself.

Zero confidence to let coworkers see it in the changing room. And very self conscious about the “bulge” that barely shows.

Also … I finally had sex with my girlfriend, and then ejaculated in under a minute. So much build up for such a let down.

 

@Jazzy_Bae - you sent me a PM and I was looking forward to reading your response … but it’s gone

I’d like to hear what you had to say. please feel free to PM me again, write on my profile, or respond here.

 

Bumping this thread. Seen some posts from some guys who might benefit from knowing there's others out here with small penises.

It helps me. What I probably need more is a masturbation addiction club - for people like me who want to stop. I go to meeting for people with S addiction and always relate most with the other masturbators.

I don't know how I manage to convince myself that it's okay to masturbate, but I do. It isn't. Not for me.

Currently at 9 days without masturbation. It's so hard to resist!! But I'm going for a year. Wish me luck!

 

Update.
I’ve had to do a lot of swimming lately and encountered some triggers. One was seeing the bulge of one of my coworkers- his flaccid was a longer, and thicker, than my fully erect penis. OMG, I tried not to stare, and I pray that no one noticed how I looked right at it.
Also, in a different context, I’ve been hearing a lot of “small penis” jokes. Though aimed at others, and in a joking manner, they still trigger me … especially when girls laugh. If someone made such a joke to me, I think I’d turn red in the face.

 

It’s funny that you mention that @TicLun, because this coworker of mine with the really big penis is almost like a cave man in appearance! Perhaps more of a barbarian - but a really decent and good guy.

And it’s good to hear that you have found peace with your penis size. At 4.5” fully erect, mine is clearly smaller than average. It’s silly to pretend otherwise. But nowadays, I’m often more concerned about the size and of my belly. Perhaps I could be like one of those Greek sculptures …

I know I feel better about my body when I am in good shape and less ashamed about the size of my little guy.

 

Update: Doing pretty well so far with my goal of no masturbation and only having orgasms from sex . . . except that I had an involuntary O just a few days ago. I'm sure the bit of edging that I had slipped into didn't help - aka it was a contributing factor, but I wrestled with extreme arousal while trying to sleep and finally, at 3:45 am, I recalled how I have had (three!) involuntary O's while getting waxed and that was it. I wasn't touching myself at all but the thought alone was too much stimulus and I had an O.

Luckily I was in a situation where I could discreetly wipe up, dispose of the gooey underwear and put on a fresh pair.

Since then, however, I have had many moments of that OMG, I'm about to O feeling. Including on an airplane where the woman next to me was watching a particularly triggering sex scene from the movie Frida and it may as well have been porn. Wrestling with this lately. Having had that involuntary O, I fear that my body might be much more apt to just O involuntarily whenever triggers arise.

If that's not enough. I almost had an involuntary O the other night when I tried to have sex with my girlfriend and she rejected my advances. So close!! I can only imagine how f*cked up that would be if I had blown my load under the sheets - she would almost certainly assume that I had jerked myself off and be disgusted! Or worse, what would she think if it occurred to her that denying me sex would make me spontaneously O??