Intense urge but I can't relapse!

I will say that for some people it seems that no matter what you try nothing works like what you're saying.

I'm two months in and while the urge to PMO is pretty easy to rid, I am still just horny every day and usually all day and no amount of exercise, cold showers or anything will make it go away.

In a way you have to just accept it and let it go, as hard as it is you have to move on and just ignore it, otherwise you feed it attention and much like anxiety you keep it going and lasting longer. It's been working for me and there's no use it constantly giving it your mind and energy as it'll cost you a relapse or your sanity.

It won't be around forever either though, I have a high drive but it's part of the reboot and you have to find some way to deal with it. Just don't give in as in as that won't solve anything and make it worse in the short and long run.

 

I totally feel your pain bro. I'm on day 6 free of PMO and this is the longest time I haven't O in over 25 years. I feel like I'm going to spontaneously self combust and bust a nut! Even taking a piss arouses me. I think just like what S.W. said, try your best to ignore it and stop thinking about it. It only adds fuel to the fire by constantly agonizing over how miserable we feel. Continue to fight the good fight! I'm with you!

 

One thing that has helped me a lot through that, is something I was taught in my CBT that can be applied to addiction.

When you get a thought or even say urge, tell yourself that you won't let it affect or control you, and you're going to move onto something else that's fun or productive. By telling yourself something positive like that and then keeping your mind busy, you're letting your brain know you aren't interested anymore and it'll slowly get better after it realises what you're doing.

 

Being conscious about it. Is the best thing you could. You tell your mind about the effects of PMO. You can control the urges using your mind. Don't give in easily. Your horny, go out and be around people... make new friends... find someone you can love or maybe get married. Then you can do whatever you want with a SO but not the fantasy world. That's my opinion.

 

It's tough I know and hang in brother. It WILL get easier as you go deeper into the NoFap journey. I have gone through this when I thought I'd be about to relapse a second later literally but my willpower helped me through. You can do it. Just think of the benefits you'll gain when you continue deeper into the journey.

You can do it!

 

Consider why you are horny?

There must be something that triggers a state of arousal ... whether that is a result of your thoughts or emotions, behaviors or situations or anything else ...

Normally I wouldn't bother looking into it if your horny just now and again, why bother... but if you're horny all day......

Picture this... This may be you in the past, maybe for years...
Anxious -> Pmo
Anxious -> Pmo
Anxious -> Pmo
Anxious -> Pmo
Anxious -> Pmo

With this social event coming up....
Anxious -> All your brain knows and wants to do now is to pmo.

Nofap changes lives, there's no doubt about it, it allows you to look at your values, change the way you think, change what you believe... you take control of your life.

Extreme horniness is a result of nofap, but it is most likely a symptom of something deeper.

Nofap allows you to break the cycles and improve your problems, not PMOing is not going to solve your problems, it's going to help you when you are ready to face them.

 

So true, figuring out how to face those triggers whether from anxiety, boredom or just any random desire. It's good to avoid them but figuring why they happen and controlling it is the hardest part.

 

Calm down first.