Day 43/90 No PM Day 493 at attempting this challenge Day 175 weight training (M, W, F) Lifestyle: No caffeine or alcohol and reduced desserts
9 days done, no pmo. One more day, let’s just get one more day. Today. Here. Now. Porn thoughts are not real, they are like hungry ghosts, they are just memory, not real, and I need to remind myself that it’s just not worth the stress. But, diverting my attention to something useful and positive, and getting to the other side of urges, IS worth it. Good luck everyone
Day 0 Total clean days- 9 Total relapse- 2 I did it. I Know what I did it and I feel a bit sad about it. There is no guilt in me for relapsing but I could have stopped it. I know the reason behind it and I will not blame my addiction or urges. It was me who did it knowing the consequences.
13/90 I was offline 3 days. I drank some beers on Saturday and had a really nice conversation with girl.
I was watching a video from Mark Queppets Reforged Man last night, which was about rationalisations. Here’s what I learned; So basically you consciously did something (relapse) which went against your earlier decision to quit PMO. Because this decision was at odds with your intentions, there must have been a rationalisation to justify the relapse. It could be helpful to try and identify that rationalisation. Then you could come up with a better argument for not relapsing when the urge hits the next time and the rationalisation pops up again. For example, a rationalisation might be “I’ve had a tough day, I need PMO to wind down and it’s no big deal, I’ll quit PMO tomorrow”. A thought to combat this could be “there is no better time to quit than now, I cannot afford to put quitting PMO off one day, because tomorrow I might put it off again”. Of course that may not have been what you were thinking yesterday, but hopefully you get the idea and you get some benefit from it.
Hello everyone, Day 15/90 Definitely proud of my progress. Still working at dealing with my discomfort and anxiety in other areas. I’ve been avoiding writing my goals and dreams, and instead pursue “easier” things like reading, exercise, talking with others about the tension. I may not have all the answers, but I know I will not give up. We will continue to learn, grow, and give our best each day. Problems are a part of life and the greatest fulfillment is found in choosing and solving the problems that give your life meaning. All the best, Lamboskovich