Very true. PMO for many of us isn’t only about sex but also about dealing with boredom, loneliness, frustration, anger, anxiety.. it’s basically a way to distract ourselves from any negative situation/emotion. What this means is that we need to indentify these situations and emotions and find a way of dealing with them that doesn’t involve PMO or other forms of escapism. Last night was the last night of my 90 day challenge. I called it complete at midnight but of course did not want to relapse. I only want sex with real women for the rest of my life. I had a tough night though: thinking about a few girls a know made me very horny. I tried to hook up with one but she flaked on me. This made me feel quite frustrated and for the first time in weeks the thought of looking at some P crept back into my mind. I couldn’t sleep. The solution for me was to watch some Mark Queppet videos, to remind/reinforce why I’m doing this. Finally I was able to fall asleep..
On day 91/90! I am not taking this challenge again because I want to be able to be with women.. a lot! No PM is the way forward for me though, I’m looking for the right thread to join to stay accountable on that front. When I find the right thread/challenge I well post in this thread which one that is.
Yes, this is exactly how my brain works. And yes, like you said, the more often I do it, the more acceptable my brain thinks it is. Even though I take no more pleasure from it, it's just still up there as one of the go-to activities that my brain reaches for in times of stress. Which is every day now with working from home, for me. For me, I would go further and say that at this point, PMO is not about sexual desires at all for me anymore. It has nothing to do with it. It's an entirely separate thing that I do to escape and distract myself.
Mark Queppet, I'll have to check him out. Yeah, don't think it'll ever be gone. Like any addiction, it's always there. Just wish it wasn't so easily available in our moments of fragility. Well done for the 90 day challenge, man. I hope to make it there myself, I really hope!
Day 11/90 Day 536 at attempting this challenge Day 185 weigh training (M, W, F) Day 2 Jogging (Tues &Thurs) Day 56 No caffeine and no alcohol Lifestyle: reduced desserts
Day 2/90 Total clean days - 23 Total PMO - 21 Total P - 2 Total hours remaining - 2105 1st Goal - 7 days Days remaining - 5 Goal completed - 0 This time I will do it. My 7 day goal is to complete.
Day 17/90. Busy reviewing for Midterms which starts tomorrow, and working a lot and polishing feasibility requirement making ends meet in my business management major. Spending most of my time on my academics. Keeping myself busy each day to not even think about PMO'ing.