200 DAYS NO PMO (background, self development, un-masking of truths and benefits)

Hello fellow nofap/porn free/ semen retention brethren. I started my journey October 27 2019 and I am proud to say I’ve reached a milestone of 200 days! I’ve been following this forum for a while as it’s been very educational I’ve made a previous contribution to this forum about my “5 months no pmo benefits” and that got featured on YBOP also all in all I love the atmosphere and the community so I’m here to help and motivate whilst achieving greatness myself.

I started watching pornography and PMOing at 14 I am now 26 so give or take an 11 year addiction. My brother introduced me to nofap in May 2019 and I made several attempts but kept on failing it was at this time I realised porn was very much a drug quite frankly the most dangerous drug of them all. So what got me to start nofap properly and sticking by it is when it’s effects became a reality, I started to see a girl and when the time came to have sex I suffered from ED... which was incredibly embarrassing see I pride myself on my health and fitness and overall achievements and to experience something like this well I guess it was humbling I had told her that I didn’t want our first time to be in a car but women aren’t stupid. That night I went home and I started reading YBOP and I started to remember all my past endeavours and relationships, even when I was 21 I remember my ex telling me I know when you wank because you’re not fully hard during sex, and If I recall the last 10 girls I slept with I never ejaculated so I suffered from DE too, so I went home and watched porn and ejaculated after everytime it was a norm for me, I use to think I was a nympho little did I know I had a severe addiction. Furthermore, the physical effects of PMO are just mediocre in comparison to how badly my mentality was effected, I always assumed it was my personality to be tough, rough, angry, vicious and alone but these are the effects of neglecting yourself for a decade it is evident that only after I gave up this addiction I started to realise who I was kind of like meeting yourself for the first time.

Tips:

1. Rule no.1 : always remember why you started even after the initial 3 month reboot because this addiction is one which can creep up on you whenever for the rest of your life (easy access, free).
2. Stay occupied and give yourselves tasks to complete as we all know boredom is a silent killer.
3. Flush out over sexualised things such as social media pages, looking at half naked women daily isn’t going to help you... a friend of mine once said get rid of your social media and you’ll find out who you truly are
4. Sexual transmutation; set yourself goals and knock them out the park gain back your confidence and manhood... whether it be gym, studies, family and or hobbies and tasks. Also a key pointer is not to put all your eggs in one basket don’t rely on nofap to better yourself solely, that’s on you so if you ever slip up like most of the guys here you won’t feel like you failed or that everything’s over because nofap is just another factor in self development but not the whole thing and remember a reset or relapse doesn’t end all progress you should always be proud of what you’ve achieved and get back on the horse slow and steady wins the race!
5. Cold showers, meditation and breathing exercises (wim hof method)

Benefits:
I think that it’s only right to start benefits off with the mentality development rather than physical, I say this because most physical benefits derive from the semen retention side of nofap. Pmo is more so the effects it has on the brain.

1. Once the poisonous curtains of pornography are lifted you are vulnerable kind of like being put on a battlefield with no sword or shield, meaning that you take on all your problems head on whether it be anxiety, ocd, depression, trauma and fear... you develop your brain from scratch so it knows now that you don’t hide behind orgasm to feel good but we analyse and solve the root of the problem and let it go and become stronger. I feel this is the biggest benefit as we all fapped for a reason and we neglected our minds but now we do not and our minds become ferocious and untouchable.
2. You are calm, cool and collected kind of like the stoic philosophy, not quick to react or speak but you analyse and think no longer do you have outburst of rage or anger
3. Small things become beautiful, from little things that make you happy to sunsets and sunrises, you appreciate the little things in life.
4. For me I don’t listen to music to feel a certain way anymore... most days it’s just loud noise now I much rather just be with my own mind
5. FEAR ( false events appearing real) no more, yes sure you still get nervous but you don’t hide anymore you deal with it there and then.
6. Brain fog decreases and alertness and clarity like a bullet
7. Not a benefit but I do take natural nootropics especially during my paws phases like theanine found in green tea helps with increase of dopamine and serotonin
8. Physically, due to high semen count and testosterone I’ve advanced body wise, I remember there was a time for a good two years I was stuck at 113 kgs I am a body builder and substance abuse really shot my metabolism but after retaining it’s like my metabolism was re born and I dropped down to a lean juicy 90kgs... and I don’t gain weight as fast anymore after binging neither do I want to binge as much anymore it’s proven that because our dopamine is so low we chase highs from even food.
9. My ED went around day 70... and my penis is fuller and bigger, obviously after weight loss and the first time in my life a full erection
10. I had my first wet dream in my life at the age of 26 sometimes I think to myself did I rob myself of this moment as a teenager because I was always emptied of semen...
11. Brighter eyes ( current gf always says I make her shy when I stare at her) calls them beautiful
12. Glowing skin, it’s incredible along side cold showers my skin and hair is healthier thicker and vibrant
13. Energy through the roof
14. Growing up I use to be a party boy... partying with women who all looked like Kim kardashian fake this fake that and I was never satisfied with a woman appearance due to porn... but now it’s like you don’t over sexualised woman or give them your power you don’t objectify there bodies you look them in the eye and treat them like humans... I find beauty in everyone
15. Eye contact I always struggled with this one I always use to say I don’t look people in the eye it was my thing but now when I look someone in the eye it’s like they buckle
16. You seek conversation and connection with people you no longer want to be alone

And that’s all I can think of right now but If you guys have questions ask me! I want you all to remember why we all began this journey, like I said don’t hide anymore fix your mind from within pay attention to everything that’s happened in your life and why it is where you are. Write in a journal everyday how you feel and what it is you want to achieve and remember you’re doing for yourself above anyone else... a lot of people here do it for a partner however I find that when things get rocky in that relationship so does your journey so it’s key to do it for you only.


Tough times don’t last, tough people do.

 

Sorry I don’t understand your question

 

You’re welcome bro, believe me I know I wrote this to remind myself why I started also

 

1. Urges? Yes I do but porn isn’t an option anymore I’ve cut it out so now it’s like you look forward to sex bro... I use to always say it’s okay I’ll just wank later but now you look forward to intimacy... my only social media atm is Snapchat for friends I deactivated everything else and I have reddit which is also v dangerous

2. Objectifying is actually something I started recently and I feel like this negative weight got lifted off me... you know when you see a girl first thing you say I’ll fuck the shit out of her... I don’t do this anymore and it’s liberating I don’t know why we treat women as the enemy and speak like that but yes nomore... we weren’t made to have sex with everything that walks we were meant to find a mating partner so first you find get to know like and then you can fantasize but why waste your energy or give them your power believe me a woman with a 10’body is use to being stared at but if you were the only guy who was to look her in the eye and respect her you’ll leave a mark with her


3. My reboot I am in a relationship, my brothers and friends know about it since we started together and so does my gf she was happy that I wanted to be a better man

4. Chaser effect is a real thing bro but you can’t fear it... it is normal to always want to feel that good I don’t restrict it bro I always say find a balance and enjoy life don’t feel bad just don’t wank to porn I mean if you’re going to have a lot of sex with your partner then so be it it’s why we started there’s a difference between no pmo and semen retention... the goal for no Pmo is a healthy mind and sex life... semen retention is a whole other concept which can be practiced at ones free will which I do also, however the last time I had sex I did not ejaculate

 

Thank you bro! We’re all gonna make it

 

First of all don’t be little yourself like that! Everybody deserves love. to be honest in my experience I feel that we’ve enemised porn and wanking so much that even if you do wank without porn you feel shame... because to me it is not natural... there’s no such thing as enough streak you abstain until you are fixed and then you never go back bro... dm me if you got more questions

 

Anytime my bro! I’ll do another post at 9 months

 

Bro I’ve had sex with my partner without ejaculation... however last month I did a reset and I ejaculated without touching my penis if that answers your question haha

 

Glad I can help in anyway mate. Stay strong stay disciplined, thank you!